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September 2012 Moms
TAGSL710
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WWYD: MIL's 50th
TAGSL710
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So, my MIL's 50th is the 9/2 and I am due 9/11. MH was asked at a reunion what we were doing for her birthday and we had talked about it awhile ago but we decided that it would be too much too close to my due date. We really can't do it sooner because we have showers and other events those weekends and we can't do it after because she is having foot surgery and I will be having a baby. They can't have something themselves at their house because their house burnt down last September and they are finally going to be able to move in around her birthday to their old house. I also do not want to push a party on anyway because clearly they asked expecting us to and did not offer (MH is an only child, FYI). I really don't like the idea of hosting a bunch of people at my house 9 days before I am due and worrying about food and decorations (because I can not see my husband doing this) and clean up. What if I go a week early? Then all the planning was wasted. I was thinking of having my husband facebook his family and say that we can all go out to dinner at some restaurant but understand that we might not be there and hope someone will be our backup (in case I deliver early)? I am at such a loss for this I don't even know what to do. Any ideas?
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Re: WWYD: MIL's 50th
I think going out to dinner would be a good idea. Do you live close to YH's family? If you go the restaraunt route, you could even plan it for a week night, and squeeze it in a little earlier to make sure you guys can make it. Try to find a place with a "party room" or something, and you can pop in early to put some decorations up. This is what we did for my moms 50th, since she didn't want a big party!
Host it early! What about in a couple of weeks? Hard to say what she would want since I don't know your MIL. If you host early, maybe it would be a surprise.
Luckily, my mom planned her own party. Her cousin also turned 50 the same year so they had a HUGE party. She wanted to do all the details and I was totally ok with that. I am an only child too so it worked out perfectly.
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We can't since we will be out of town or at other events.
Why isn't FIL involved in the planning? We had both my parents' 50th parties at a restaurant. It was just family and a few of their closest friends. It was a long time ago (like 15 & 13 years) so I don't remember how the check worked but I kind of remember my Dad paying it at my Mom's birthday.
My FIL doesn't have one social bone in his body. He didn't go to reunion yesterday. Great guy but this probably hasn't even crossed his mind.
I like the idea of going to a retaurant or having it at a friend's house. I can't imagine them not understanding why you're hesitant to have it at your house. If you go into labor a little early, then the party is completely ruined vs you just not being able to come.
I also like the idea of it just being you four. If your MIL wants a bigger party, then she should have plenty of friends who would be able to throw it.
Emilia Antoinette
10.03.12 at 41w5d
This. My parents planned the milestone parties for each other with help from friends. Your FIL doesn't have to be social to call a restaurant and make a reservation. You could be in charge of sending out invites (which would be done weeks before you're due anyway). You shouldn't have to host it at your place, but you can talk to him and help him get the ball rolling.
I would be kind of upset that they were putting that on you guys so close to your due date...
That being said, my siblings & I ordered my mother a singing telegram for her birthday. No need for a party.