Pregnant after 35
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Treatments?
Hi, I hope you ladies don't mind me ducking in here to ask a quick question. I'm not pregnant, I'm 37 and ttc our third after not being pregnant for 14 years. I'm participating in the ttc over 35 room and it seems like almost everyone is taking fertility treatments of one sort or another. I don't really want to go down that route and would rather simply try to get pregnant with just the bd. But after seeing more and more of the posts, I'm wondering if that is even reasonable? So I'm here to ask, did you get pregnant with the help of fertility treatments or did you get pregnant by doing the bd only? Thanks in advance to those who choose to answer. :0)
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Re: Treatments?
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I got pregnant naturally around my 35th birthday and at 38.
And, FTR, I just want to say that the ladies on TTC Over 35 are incredible and and supportive regardless of how you TTC.
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Nobody wants to get pregnant through treatments, trust me. Sex and au naturel is definitely the desired approach, especially for those that aren't aware of any potential problems. But we are so fortunate to live in a time when there are medical options and assistance available to those of us that need them.
I started trying at 34.5 and I really am in such good health. Everyone thought I would get k/u in a matter of minutes. I look fit, healthy, happy and fertile. But nothing happened and I got worried and you can take a look in my siggy that over time, I had issues with my thyroid, and other problems that wouldn't be visible, but do create issues in getting pregnant. So 2.5 years later, I am fortunately pregnant with twins via IVF. My friend put it bluntly when she said, "30 years ago you may just not have been able to get pregnant." She is right.
I spent 1.5 years on the ttc>35 board and have nothing but respect for everyone over there. Everyone is on a different journey and that is the great thing about that board. Many are only trying naturally. Many go onto treatments; you really don't know until you try. But everyone supports each individual process. It really is about support, and understanding.
I would say to be open - you really don't know what hand you've been dealt. And you also don't know what you'd be open to in terms of treatment until you've been in the shoes of many of us that are on that board for a long time. So, it's very important to be sensitive to that and to everyone's individual process. In the end it is your very individual and personal decision.
Good luck and have fun gettin' busy!
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
I am 36. DH and I did not pursue fertility treatments but I did chart, temp and use OPK's. It took us over a year to get pregnant which unfortunately ended in a miscarriage but we were lucky several months later and delivered our take home baby this week.
I will second that TTC 35 board was a wealth of knowledge and support although I understand how at first bat it seems that everyone is pursuing fertility treatments. I made a very similar post when I first started and Hijoi sure did set me straight :-) I encourage you to stick around on that board, get to know the ladies and you will get a ton of support and advise
I'm 37, and we just took a 'let's see what happens' approach - I think it was actually faster this time than when we 'actively' tried for DS (now 7) - maybe 2-3 months?
That said, I have friends who needed to go the 'intervention' route from the start, even with their first (and much younger) - but on the whole, I'd say most of my friends had their first child between 32-38, and most got lucky without any help, for both that and any subsequent babies.