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Sunday clicky poll: circumcision

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Re: Sunday clicky poll: circumcision

  • OlivebeinmammaOlivebeinmamma member
    We're having a boy. I figured I'd let MH make the decision.... Alhough I wanted circumcised. When I asked MH a few weeks ago he looked at me crazy and said "of course he'll be circumcised!!" like I was even crazy for thinking anything else lol
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  • elfchiqueelfchique member

    DS is cir'd. These two boys will be as well. I'm in the no cir'c camp. I think it is beyond ridiculous that we cut off perfectly healthy living skin for aesthetic reasons. However, DH wanted DS cut and I didn't put up much of an argument. I think having one son that is, and two that are not is way more of a hassle than the concerns that I have with circ. 

    With religion as a reason I have no issue and support it as a religious practice. (*ahem- male circ only).  

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  • NineoceansNineoceans member
    It is important to Dh so yup. I dont have feelings either way
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  • irish city girlirish city girl member
    We debated it with DS for a little while.  We ended up deciding not to because DH is not.  His parents circumcised his brother and then regretted doing it.  They didn't see the point in causing a baby pain for no real reason.  So we didn't circumcise DS and we won't circumcise this boy either.  I'm against it after learning that there is really no reason to do it.  Like PP, I can totally support doing it if it's for a religious reason, but other than that, I think it's kind of mean.
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  • annabelle8101annabelle8101 member
    I'm glad we're having a girl because DH is pro and I am anti. We will save this discussion for another day.
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  • hilsy85hilsy85 member
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
    We're not circumcising our son.  H isn't circ and I just don't see the point unless there would be a medical reason to do so (infection, etc).
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  • Starry AgainStarry Again member

    We would not be doing it, but we are having a girl anyway. We have no religious reason to do it and although I believe there are some small health benefits from circ'ing, they aren't enough to make it seem worthwhile to us. I have to say when I was on the hospital tour yesterday and I saw the itty-bitty baby boys in the nursery (where they had to go to get circ'd), it made me a bit sad for them. Like they were just so small! Then again, I am allowing DD to get the recommended shots at the hospital so clearly I am a bit hypocritical.

     

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  • brekayebrekaye
    We are having a boy and I have left the decision up to my husband. He says yes, we are doing it. However, when it's time to have it done, I think I may have to leave the room and make MH stay in there with him. I don't know if I can handle my baby in pain.
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  • queenie521queenie521 member

    imagebrekaye:
    We are having a boy and I have left the decision up to my husband. He says yes, we are doing it. However, when it's time to have it done, I think I may have to leave the room and make MH stay in there with him. I don't know if I can handle my baby in pain.

    FWIW, we were not allowed to be in the room when it was done to either of my boys.  it is considered a surgery and therefore only dr and nurses in there.  But when they came back, they were acting perfectly normal. 

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  • akaster25akaster25 member

    I would have leaned toward yes (religious upbringing), but really had no strong preference.  DH isn't, and he said no.  So therefore no.  My parents know and don't seem upset, but I guess it's not as important in the Christian faith as it is in the Jewish faith.

    Honestly, he's had so few strong opinions about pregnancy/childrearing and saying it's up to me, that when he DOES have a preference, I go with it.

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  • jamiefourjamiefour member

    imagehilsy85:
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

    Oh no, I totally understand.  I breathed a sigh of relief when I found out I was having a girl because I didn't want to have a Bris and I know it would have caused crazy drama!  Good Luck.

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  • mavgirl_73mavgirl_73 member
    If we were having a boy we would have. DH is but more so it would be based on what I've seen working in nursing homes. I've seen more than my fair share of older/elderly men who've had massive infections due to incontinence and inability to properly clean their bits. Yes that is a long time off but hey everyone has their reasons. 

     

     

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  • laurenluorlaurenluor member
    We are because DH feels strongly about it. I wouldn't mind either way, but would probably prefer DS be whatever DH is.
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  • LorMorLorMor member

    imagehilsy85:
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

    I recently read a book set in North Africa, where a girl was "supposed" to be circumcised. She didn't want it, her mother, and all the female relatives didn't want it, but the father (patriarch) insisted, so they pretended they had her circumcised. He was happy and will never know. You could try that with your dad? Will he ever see your little boy's willy?

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    imageLorMor:

    imagehilsy85:
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

    I recently read a book set in North Africa, where a girl was "supposed" to be circumcised. She didn't want it, her mother, and all the female relatives didn't want it, but the father (patriarch) insisted, so they pretended they had her circumcised. He was happy and will never know. You could try that with your dad? Will he ever see your little boy's willy?

     

    Ehh probably not but IF he did it would cause an even bigger shitstorm. Plus, I don't feel like I should have to lie about our parenting decisions, you know? 


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  • lady dixneuflady dixneuf member

    we can't make a decision!

    Neither of us really have a strong opinion.  



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  • Ken&AnnaKen&Anna member
    imagehilsy85:
    imageLorMor:

    imagehilsy85:
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

    I recently read a book set in North Africa, where a girl was "supposed" to be circumcised. She didn't want it, her mother, and all the female relatives didn't want it, but the father (patriarch) insisted, so they pretended they had her circumcised. He was happy and will never know. You could try that with your dad? Will he ever see your little boy's willy?

    Ehh probably not but IF he did it would cause an even bigger shitstorm. Plus, I don't feel like I should have to lie about our parenting decisions, you know? 

    I agree that you shouldn't have to lie about your parenting decisions. 

    Also, in Judaism, usually the circumcision is done at a Bris, which is generally a ceremony open to the community and held either in the home or in a synagogue with a Moel and a Rabbi present.  Close family is usually invited, so it would be harder to lie about it. 

    I say go with yours and your DH's gut.  Once the baby is born, I'm sure grandparents will love your DS no matter what, and they'll eventually get over the fact that he's not circumcised. 


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    imageKen&Anna:
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    imageLorMor:

    imagehilsy85:
    We will not be circ'ing...Dh feels strongly about it not being necessary, and he is not circ'd. This is currently causing a LOT of drama with my family because we are Jewish. My dad is not speaking to us right now over this. Fun times!

    I recently read a book set in North Africa, where a girl was "supposed" to be circumcised. She didn't want it, her mother, and all the female relatives didn't want it, but the father (patriarch) insisted, so they pretended they had her circumcised. He was happy and will never know. You could try that with your dad? Will he ever see your little boy's willy?

    Ehh probably not but IF he did it would cause an even bigger shitstorm. Plus, I don't feel like I should have to lie about our parenting decisions, you know? 

    I agree that you shouldn't have to lie about your parenting decisions. 

    Also, in Judaism, usually the circumcision is done at a Bris, which is generally a ceremony open to the community and held either in the home or in a synagogue with a Moel and a Rabbi present.  Close family is usually invited, so it would be harder to lie about it. 

    I say go with yours and your DH's gut.  Once the baby is born, I'm sure grandparents will love your DS no matter what, and they'll eventually get over the fact that he's not circumcised. 

     

    Lets hope so, anyway :) 


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  • WinnychanWinnychan

    No way, no how. The hubby is kind of iffy about this but conceded to my wishes, as I have very strong feelings about this issue.

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