My Story (Read at your risk)

Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-qformat:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;}

MY STORY - MY OPINION - PLEASE DON'T BE RUDE

June 11^th I found out I was pregnant. Our first baby we were sooo excited to be starting a family together. We went to the doctors the next day to confirm I was pregnant. My estimated due date was 02/08/13!

 

Went to a Military pregnancy class (07/10/12) which welcomed you to being pregnant and gave you all the information needed to start your family off with newly pregnant families.

 

On 07/17/12, Matt and I went in for our first ultrasound. We were super excited to see baby Nazor. Everything felt fine. I had been nausea, only vomited once, no cramps, no bleeding, and been feeling pretty great to be pregnant to then find out that our baby did not have a heartbeat?

 

It was a disturbing morning because the midwife was not very helpful. She took one look and said ?I don?t see a heartbeat?, ?This is a failed pregnancy?, ?I?m sorry?, and had no explanations. I thought I was just upset and so she seemed as though she was being rude to me, but later my husband confirmed that she truly was not very kind. I was taken aback by how someone could just be so unsympathetic to the situation. I understand that she may tell people sad news every day, but she?s not telling the same person every day. We?ve never been down this road. I expected more. We will never be back to that clinic again.  

 

 We got a second look by a doctor at our hospital the next day. We were hoping that baby Nazor was just not as far along as they were thinking, but when our doctor took a look we were actually told that at 1.58cm he/she should have a heartbeat by now. We were ready for the best or the worse news. It just so happened that we were on the short end of the stick. Our doctor before even doing the ultrasound took the time to talk with us. He asked and answered any questions that we had. As well as, tell us a million times that this was not our fault!

 

Some of the questions we had?

 

?When can we conceive again?? ? Now, if we are emotionally and mentally prepared. He recommends waiting a cycle to make sure you are emotionally ready.

 

?What are the chances this will happen again?? ? No matter who you are pregnant before or not your chances of miscarrying is 1 out of 3.

 

?What are our options?? ? Natural (Wait, let nature take its course, but may risk infection the longer you wait), medical (take medicine and know when and where you miscarriage will take place), Dilatation and curettage (surgery to remove everything that is needed).

 

Of course everyone is going to have a bunch of other questions and concerns, but we are young and ready to try again. Some women are more attached, more emotional, and not ready to try again. My husband and I knew we did not do anything wrong and know that if it was not meant to be when the time is right it will happen. Accepting that our first baby was not going to happen was a challenge, but now we have to lose our baby?

 

I came home Friday night already starting to bleed like a normal period. The doctor gave us medicine to take vaginally, which we took at midnight. At two am I woke up cramping. I took some ibuprofen and luckily feel back asleep at 2:30 am. However, I was not so lucky when I woke up again at 3 am cramping so bad I was crying. The pain began and I was uncomfortable. I did not want to sit still. I was not ready to wake up my husband even though I know I could have woken him up to take care of me. I just knew there was nothing he could have done to pass the time. I searched the web trying to find something to pass the time. I found this?

https://www.lovenaturalbirth.com/natural-miscarriage.html

This story got me through the rest of the night/morning. I was getting up every ten minutes to pee. I want to say maybe with all the cramping it was making me need to use the restroom more, because my bladder was full. So, I made a little bed in the restroom. Before I knew it I was finally expelling all that was needed. I woke up my husband at this point. He wanted to see all that was happening. (Now this next couple sentences maybe hard to read.) I happened to wipe at the right moment and we got to see our baby fetus. I have to say at first it was hard to know that our baby was now going on to another place, but we knew it was for the best.

 

For the next hour and after, I was filling up a pad within 15 minutes. The doctor said the two concerns to watch out for was a temperature of 104 degree or changing a pad more than once an hour for more than two hours. I was easily filling up three pads within in an hour.  By the second hour it had not slowed down so I had my husband take me to the emergency room.

 

An hour or so passed as they checked to make sure everything was going well. By the time it was all coming to an end the bleeding had slowed down to the pace of a normal period. We wanted to be safe than sorry and make sure everything was okay. No one wants to wait four or five hours and still have the same problem and when they finally go into the emergency room they say ?why didn?t you come in sooner?? Be smart go in when you are concerned.

 

It has been almost four days since I went to the emergency room and I have only been bleeding like a normal period. I have been cramping a little more than I normally would, but that was to be expected. No worries your doctor will give you something to help. I had a follow up with my doctor to make sure all passed as planned. Stay hydrated?

 

Sooo? just a few things to add.

 

-To all the ladies and significant others who have to go through this let me say I am truly sorry. You baby is your baby and I know how much you love them.

-To my husband that you for being next to me at all moments. I needed you most through these last week. You are my heart and my rock.

-Ladies, plan for the worst it only make the experience a tiny bit better (well that?s what I think).

-Cry? It?s okay.

-REMEMBER IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!