Late night venting (long)

My Gator is sick. We had dinner with cousins and got a call the next day their kids got sick in the middle of the night. It happens. I thought we made it through without getting it, until Thursday with she got a 103 degree temp. About 24hrs later it went away, except now her whole body is covered in what I thought was a heat rash. Fast forward to today (Saturday) when now it is starting to blister so now I am thinking she has hand foot and mouth disease. We haven't been around anyone with it so I am thinking the only place she could have gotten it was a public place. The poor baby is miserable, and I haven't left the house in three days (except for 30min to take my nephew's pics on Friday). My SO is about the leave for a week for work, and if it is in fact hand foot and mouth disease.....her and I won't be able to go anywhere for almost a week.

This part is totally selfish but just adds to the fact of feeling isolated: every summer I look forward to the brewers festival in our area because it's usually the only time all summer our friends get together in one place. It's this weekend, and due to sick baby, I cannot go. I feel bad being upset about it when I know she feels like poop, but I am sick of being at home.

 My SIL, who likes to think Gator is her baby.....sent me a message saying she is excited to watch Gator next week when I go to get SO and their cousin from the airport. Ummm...what?! When was that even discussed? First, it will be after 10pm so either she would get Gator all wild and crazy so it takes me until midnight to get her to sleep. Or second, she will let her take a nap and then I will be up with a wide awake baby all night after I bring her back to the house. Not only that, I wouldn't trust her to watch my laundry spin in the wash....why would I trust her with my baby? And third, don't you think you should discuss that with the mother of the baby before automatically assuming I am leaving Gator with you? 

Again with the SIL, she sends me multiple messages asking me to "do a favor for X". Hey lady, "X" is 15 years old and if he wants something from me, he has my number and everything and can ask himself. And when I take the time out of my day, away from my baby with a 103 degree temp, and spend a few hours working on said favor.....don't send me message after message asking me when I am going to get it done and acting like I need to be rushed. You said Sunday night was the deadline, I had it done Saturday morning. Give it a rest. And after you see me talking to others on FB about how Gator is teething and sick on top of it (and I know that she saw because she felt the need to comment on each and everyone else's comments), don't leave me a voicemail saying "hi, I was just calling to see how MY Gator was doing and thought....could it maybe be teething?!" Oh and one more thing, my baby is not your 15 year old son...you don't need to comment on every picture I post or comment on every move she makes that she got that from her cousin "X". Stop acting like they are the same person! AND STOP SAYING "MY GATOR"!!!!!! ***slams head on desk***

My current nanny job is making me bonkers. The parents let the kids get away with murder (there are three little boys). I was supposed to be working part time (21hrs) for them to cover my insurance premiums each month. But they keep cutting my hours or having family members work on my days to watch the kids for free. So I am lucky if I get 9-12 hours per week. Not even clearing my $450 premium per month. Although that is extremely frustrating, the part that makes me annoyed the most is that they never tell me when their kids are sick. I started watching their kids when Gator was almost 4 months old and it was cold and flu season. I would get to work and it would be "oh, so-and-so woke up yesterday with a cough" and his cough would sound like a barking seal. How hard is it to send me a text so I can take Gator to my mom's so she doesn't get exposed?!?! Then the dad (who is friends with my SO) called to complain about his wife and how she knew their son had a staph infection for a week on his butt cheek and she didn't call the doctor. Hey I change your kids diaper, and you couldnt bother to tell me he had a staph infection?! Then this past week I got a text on accident from the mom (was ment to go to the dad) saying he needed to take one of the little ones to the doctor to get checked for e. coli and I had the kids the few days leading up to that (and had Gator with me). Had I not gotten that text, or my SO not gotten the call from the dad complaining....we would have never known and I would have never known to watch out for those things if Gator got sick. Which I still don't know what the outcome was of the e. coli testing........

And my final one: what is it with people trying to play a zillion things on the weekends in the summer...and guilting you into going because they "want to spend time with the baby"? My SO's family has a yearly picnic (same place, same weekend, etc). Yesterday his mom says, "cousin ______ wants to get together the following weekend to do something since she hasn't seen us for awhile." This cousin has nothing going on during her family picnic and hasn't come for years so why doesn't she go to it and not fill up another part of our following weekend (when we were supposed to be out camping)? My grandma is coming into town for 18 days and pretty much wants us to clear our calendars so her, my mom and my aunt can plan non-stop events while she is here. And if we don't, then we are "so rude" for not dropping everything to spend every waking moment with family. My SO came home the other day to say to make sure that his cousin (who lives 4 miles away) get an invite to Gator's bday with enough time to plan to come. This is the same cousin that likes to complain we haven't brought the baby by so he can meet her. Hey lazy-azz....I was the one that was in labor for 28hrs and had major surgery (and wasn't allowed to hardly do anything for 12 weeks after per doctors orders), and you NEVER made an effort to stop by or anything. Is 4 miles too far of a drive? My baby is almost 9 months old and I don't feel I should go out of my way for people so they can meet her. Ever since she was born I have been hearing "come to my work so I can meet her" or "you guys need to bring her over here" or "why haven't you guys called us so you can bring the baby by?". Honestly, all of our friends and family live within a 20min (or less) radius, and I feel like if you haven't met her in the past 9 months, I shouldn't have to invite you to her birthday....and I shouldnt have to go out of my way and use my gas so you can meet my kid when you know where we live. When it comes to the family events, we try and go to as many as possible....but we like to have our own family time too. And it has gotten so much worse now that we have Gator, they expect us to go to EVERYTHING. In August alone, we have all of our weekends (and some weekdays) full of weddings, anniversaries, three family picnics, his cousin's random get-together (just come to the family picnic lady!), etc. So frustrating!

Sorry for the worlds longest rant. Of you survived and read it all.....(in honor of the Olympics) you deserve a gold medal!