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August 2012 Moms
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S+TMs How are you doing emotionally?
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Emotionally I'm in limbo right now. One part of my wants this baby to be out right now. I am so excited to watch my son be a big brother and interact with this baby. Not to mention I am just feeling ginormous and miserable and want this kid to be out before my DF goes out of the country...
On the other hand I am completely freaking out about how I'm going to handle a newborn and then still give my toddler the attention he deserves. I know it can be done, but it just seems so overwhelming.
I went through all of my old pictures of when my first was born and its seems to be making the birth of this one very bittersweet. I am so excited to go through the birthing process, seeing and holding my baby for the first time, but then realizing my first isn't going to be my one and only is scary.
Sorry, I know I'm rambling a lot and I don't even know if any of that made any sense lol. Anyways, just wondering how you all are doing.
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Re: S+TMs How are you doing emotionally?
I feel the same. I'm absolutely in love with DS2 and I am terrified DS1 will be jealous or feel less loved. He's doing well with everything now, but we're not home yet. He's had such an overstimulating week. First he went to a friends for two days (he's never been gone from home), then he spent two days with just daddy and now my parents are here for a week. It's insane.
After it's all said and done, I have no clue how I'll balance both of them. Especially since DH will be working nights.
No real advice, just know you're not alone. ::hugs::
I completely understand. I become a weepy mess even thinking about DS coming to visit at the hospital and officially no longer being "the baby". I've been trying to squeeze in as much quality time with him as possible, and we have all sorts of mini mommy-and-me dates planned over the next couple weeks. I know it's probably more for me than for him
I keep reminding myself that kids are resilient and he will adjust just fine.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Its definitely nice to know that I'm not alone. I guess I'm just ready for it to happen already so I can go ahead and face the unknown lol .
Meanknigh, I didn't cry at all when my first was born, and of course I don't know if I will once this is born, but I am almost certain I will cry as soon as my first comes in to meet his baby brother. I too get soo weepy just thinking about it.
I totally broke down yesterday when my son ran up to me and gave me sugar then said he wanted to snuggle. It hit me then that he definitely isn't going to be getting as much snuggle time with me and it just made me sad.
I do know that he will adjust. He is a super resilient kid with as many changes that have already happened in his short life.. but dang it I just feel kind of like I'm throwing him a huge curve ball because as much as I try to talk to him about his baby brother coming he has NO idea what's about to happen lol.
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I think the thing that scares me the most is my DF works OOT and has to go to some training for his job out of the country very soon after this baby is born (well praying its not before). The best case scenario is my DF will have a week and half or two weeks before he has to leave. I am worried my first is going to have to be put on the back burner a little because too am going to be EBF and adjusting to having a newb again.
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I have had meltdowns - right after birth! Totally normal. Us mothers take on so much - and its so hard not to feel bad and want what is best for our children..
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Its neat to see two in the mix.. that said I dunno if when I had my 2nd they were so far apart - when we took #2 home- I was so "what did we do" .. just overwhelmed. My oldest was 7 YO at the time- from previous. I found going from #1-2 the hardest. # 2-3 was easy - and I heard once you have 3 you can do how ever many. lol. I have never had 4- but about the find out!
Sometimes you do get overwhlemed.. I try to stay real as possible... do what I have to. same rules as before- sleep when baby sleeps and ask for help and TAKE the help when you can. Im sure you will be fine.. I was thinking (as this is our last), wow this is the last 2+ weeks I will be pregnant- kinda bittersweet...
April, that is another thing. We are 98% positive that this is our last. We aren't doing anything permanent yet because we are young and my OB pretty much said no (I am 24 and my DF is 25) and it already feeling very bittersweet. I really want to enjoy these last few weeks of being pregnant and feeling my baby safe inside of me, but good grief I'm hurting, I'm tired, I'm huge, and his movements aren't exactly fun anymore lol.
lady_t, I am hoping to really try and include my son with as much stuff as possible with the baby and like you said make him have her own special big boy spot light ( I really like how you put that lol). I am just scared that I will fail at it and just get frustrated because of just pure exhaustion. Way too many unknowns and emotions lol.
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Also a SAHM so I know exactly how you feel and am totally worried about the same things. The only time I have been away from my first is when I was put in the hospital for a week about a year ago. He is definitely a momma's boy.
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I find you just do things with the older one and teach them that the baby has needs that they can't wait. Im sure your older DD will be fine. Naps you work with their schedules.
this is me too - uncomfortable and excited to meet my LO...
I feel the same way. Since DS is still young he doesn't get what's about to happen, no matter how much we mention "the baby".
I'm hoping this LO can hold off until after DS's birthday party (I'll be 39 weeks exactly).. not that DS knows what it means, but it'd be nice to have one last special day for him as an only child.
DS2 8/21/12
DD 9/26/14
Baby #4 edd 2/11/19
I am starting to feel a bit emotional about the transition. My daughter just turned 4, and she has been an only child all this time. I know it will be a rough couple of weeks, she is already starting to show some signs of regression just probably knowing that the baby will arrive soon. I can't help but feel a bit guilty that her world is going to change, but I know that in the long run, having a sibling is awesome (I have 3.)
I work part-time, but won't be going back until January, so hope that we will have a good routine down by then. She is doing a summer day camp program for the next few weeks and then a couple of weeks after that is over goes back to preschool. I am hoping that by keeping her busy, she will be okay with the transition and I'll be able to attend to her needs as well as care for a newborn.
I also worry because my husband is a workaholic and in general is pretty hands off with helping out lately because he feels he has to work 24-7. This has been challenging late in my pregnancy and only will become more challenging when we have two children. I am trying not to worry about it, and really hoping he realizes that helping out at home is part of his role as husband and father, but I can't keep repeating it to him.
On top of all of this, I have to apply to schools for her for kindergarten, but one thing at a time, I am telling myself.
At this point, my greatest concern is for a safe, healthy delivery of baby #2. I am hoping and praying for this and also that my #1 knows how much she is loved and that this won't change as our family grows.
Mom of 2 monkeys and 1 on the way!
Christian12/06, Liam 08/12, Monkey #3 10/10
I'm right there with you. I'm worried about my DD not getting all the attention from me that she's used to, and how she's going to react to it. She's a total mommy's girl! The other day I was talking to her about her mommy staying in the hospital for a few days with the baby, and she said, "Mommy, you can't leave me!" Talk about a stab in the heart!
In the end I know everything will be fine- I have younger siblings and I turned out fine. Well, sort of!
It's a GIRL!!
Yep, I'm right there with you.
We sent DS to my mom's for the weekend and I miss him. lol We've done a few last minute preparations and I've been bouncing on the ball all day even though I have a feeling we won't be having a baby for a few days. And Dh and I were reminiscing over how small and sweet DS was when he was a nb and how we can't wait to cuddle another little nb booty.
I honestly can't wait to craddle another tiny newborn body, I love how spindly their arms and legs are and how tiny their chests seem. They are like a wriggling screaming loaf of bread. lol But having said that I am terrified of how we will make this adjustment and how we will handle l&d if the baby doesn't come tonight. I just know DS is going to love his baby sister, he is big fan of all baby things but I also know is very jealous of my attention.
I'm like you - not "ready" exactly, but tired of being pregnant & just want to go ahead & face the chaos & craziness so I can stop wondering about it.
I can't imagine what DS is going to be like as a big brother - he's only 18 months & has no clue what is coming. It's not like he even talks much or can communicate about what is going on. I can't imagine him "helping" with the baby - even asking him to bring me a diaper or something would require repeating the request about 18 times and saying "no, not over there, bring it to mommy..." etc. for 10 minutes for him to finally do it. I know I will have to work on patience A LOT to deal with both of them & allow him to learn along the way.
This year is also going to be super hard & busy for us - DH has 2 new jobs with much greater responsibilities, as well as his other 3rd job he's had for a while. I'll be doing everything at home I'm sure, with 2u2, and trying to work part time from home during naps or who knows when. I'm going to die pretty much.
You are not alone. My DS is such a mama's boy and LOVES to snuggle me. Lately, I call him my shadow because he follows me everywhere. I get sad thinking I will have to tell him "not right now" while I'm dealing with the baby. But at the same time, I think he's going to be a fantastic big brother and love his younger sibling.
I get sad thinking I'll have to spend so much time away from him when I'm in the hospital...although my DH and I have taken vacations away from him a few times so it's not too much of a biggie. I think it's more that I'm focusing on another child over him for the first time in his life that gets me.
I cannot wait to see him holding his sibling...that will make my heart smile.
I am right there, too. I am eager to meet this LO and be done wondering when he will arrive. But I am scared of having two kids, too.
Of course I wondered when DD was going to arrive, too, but having to be able to find care for her on short notice when I go into labor makes it harder to not worry about when DS will come. There are so many more things to coordinate! And knowing how early DD was (37w exactly) makes it harder to tell myself I still have awhile to go. I might only have a week left! Or five!
I've been all over the place, and still am depending on the day.
We had gone through a decent amount to conceive DS, and although we had planned on heading back to the RE when DS was like 8 months old, never thought we would be able to get pregnant on our own. So, when I had one period and got pregnant when DS was 4 months old we were slightly surprised.
I've dealt with sadness due to wanting to share/spend more time with just DS and watch him grow a little. I've dealt with being scared of how I will deal with time management for both of them. Socializing them is important to me, and I have no idea how we will get out for awhile. I've dealt with pure joy of seeing them grow up so close, and although we want another one or two kids.. it wont be for a couple years..I want to enjoy and settle into our life as a family of four.