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I wish moms of non-allergic children.....

Lil KateLil Kate member
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could spend one day in our shoes.  I would never wish allergies on any child or family but I would really love for people to have an understanding of what we go through.  I am frustrated because we are going to another birthday party and DS can't eat any of the food or cake.  This was easier for me to deal with when he didn't know the difference but now he wants to eat what everyone is eating....especially the really cool cakes everybody makes now.    I am sad for him :(
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Re: I wish moms of non-allergic children.....

  • pawcallpawcall member
    Poor kiddo.  I dread this day for Aidan.  Right now he doesn't know or care that he doesn't eat, but eventually, I know he will :(
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  • LovinTim912LovinTim912

    I make several cupcakes for DS when we are in situations like this, and we always offer to share with others.  Even if I don't want one of his special cupcakes, I eat it with DS anyway, so he doesn't feel left out.  Has been working so far. 

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  • Court0026Court0026 member
    I know!  Even my closest friends who try to get it say things like, "Oh, we asked if you were staying at the park for lunch because we don't know what to feed our kids besides pbjs."  I mean, I appreciate them not feeding their kids peanut butter next to my kid, but that kind of comment makes it seem like they were hoping we wouldn't stay because it was easier for them.  DS has been great so far, but he isn't that into food.  My DD would be devastated if she was left out in the same situations .  
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  • LovinTim912LovinTim912

    I *HATE* when my mother-in-law says, "BUt I feel so bad... He can't just have ONE tiny bite????"  REALLY???!!!  And this is coming from a nurse people!!!  I will never forget her rolling her eyes at me when we came home from his first scope with the directions to avoid the top allergens.  Yes, rolling eyes.  I wanted to rip them out of her head!!!!

     Will he grow out of his EOE?  I sure as Hell hope so.  But for now we are doing what we have to do to ensure that he grows up healthy.  

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  • funchickenfunchicken member

    My DD is allergic to peanuts and tree nuts, so I have it a little easier than you do, but I make fancy cupcakes for DD when we go to parties.  I keep a stash of un-iced cupcakes in the freezer and frost and decorate them just before I need them.  I have a "Cup-a-cake" container that keeps the pretty cupcake from getting messed up.  Half the time DD's cupcakes look better than whatever is being served at the party :)

    It'll get better as he gets a little older and understands it more.  My DD was diagnosed with her allergy at age 3.5, and she is really good about accepting that there are foods that aren't safe for her.  There were two other kids with allergies in her preschool class last year, so she wasn't the only one who had something different from the other kids. 

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  • SexynerdSexynerd member

    Don't be sad for him. It's a part of his life that he has to accept. Yes, it is inconvenient for us. But it teaches you to be prepared for these situations. Make him special treats. Bring alternatives to parties with you. Have Halloween candy ready to swap out when it's time for trick or treating. It's a way of life. Approach it as such.

    If you make it a sad situation now, he will only victimize himself  later. It's not too early to teach him how to live with it.

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  • CNAMamaof2CNAMamaof2

    My favorite comment so far "How can a girls from Wisconsin be allergic to milk" courtesy of my MIL. Yes as if where we live has any bearing on what allergy a child has.

    DD now wants everything that I eat, yet tonight DH wants to order pizza. I said that really wasn't fair b/c she couldn't have any, he said "feed her something else, its not fair that I can't have pizza cause she has an allergy" like I'm trying to punish him or something.

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  • TeacherVickyTeacherVicky member

    Yep.

    We've only determined that DS is allergic to sesame (we have yet to go for testing), but my sister acts like the possibility of him being allergic to nuts or treenuts is a huge inconvenience for her and her DD's.

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