I feel guilty...don't know if I should

mavs41 · July 2012

MIL and SIL came to town for my baby shower (2 hour drive). We invited them to come early and have lunch with us, because DH was going to work pretty soon after the shower and we knew we couldn't spend time with them then. This morning as they were driving down (running late so no lunch) they mentioned they got a hotel where we live for the night. I feel bad with them staying the night here and not getting to spend time with DH (they saw him when they got to town and right after the shower because DH babysat nephew). But they didn't tell us ahead of time they were planning on staying and they knew DH's schedule.

I shouldn't worry about it right?? Maybe they just wanted a night away from home.

mom2skh · July 2012

You shouldn't feel guilty, they didn't discuss this with you so you didn't know to invite them to stay. They may have just wanted a night away, or maybe they don't like driving in the evening. Whatever the reason, they decided without mentioning it.

If it were me, though, I would still invite them to either stay at my house or to have dinner with them so DH could see them. It's the polite thing to do, and it is up to them whether they want to or just want to go to the hotel and relax.

mavs41 · July 2012

Thanks for your response, we really don't have anywhere for them to stay with us and the shower went later than I expected so DH had to rush off to work as soon as we got back, we would have definitely done dinner if it was a possibility.

hmp1 · July 2012

Don't feel guilty. I would still offer to hang out with them tonight even though DH is at work. Can you guys all do breakfast tomorrow?

Boots&Bows · July 2012

I'd give them a chance to relax in the hotel tonight and then take them to breakfast in the morning.

SarahJean0 · July 2012

hmp&mrj:
Don't feel guilty. I would still offer to hang out with them tonight even though DH is at work. Can you guys all do breakfast tomorrow?

Listen to hmp, shes so smart and sweet!! ?

Breakfast sounds like a great idea.

mavs41 · July 2012

DH said he just talked to them and they're playing at the pool having a good time. That makes me feel better. When he gets off in the morning he's going to go by their hotel and spend some time with them (it's on the opposite side of town from our house, but on his way home, and he has my car).

Thanks!