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My 1st child, DH's 4th

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Baby shower appropriate or not? My  mom has said she'd like to host one for me. DH's ex wife has all of the baby items, youngest SS is 5.

I'm sure my family and friends would think it to be fine, I'm the only daughter. But I'm concerned about DH's family.

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  • jessalaredjessalared member
    Appropriate!
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  • KarmBKarmB member
    Youre fine

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  • mama&babymama&baby member

    imagemorgann2010:
    Most people (including me) consider a baby shower an opportunity to celebrate new motherhood, not just an opportunity to get gifts. You are a new mother so I say absolutely yes! DHs ex wife got her moment, now you get yours. I'd say nobody would side eye you for wanting to celebrate YOUR first child, it's not your fault nor would it be fair to you if you didn't have a baby shower just because DHs ex wife already did. If they don't like the idea they don't have to come, but I am sure if your mother said she wants to host one, that means she is ready to celebrate her new grandchild as well and it would possibly hurt her feelings if you said no.

    I agree with this 100%

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    IT's fine. As far as his family goes- talk to him, and if you're friendly w/ his mom, talk to her.  Feel her out.  Maybe invite just the absolute closest from his family.  But - see what he and his mom say.
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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    IT's fine. As far as his family goes- talk to him, and if you're friendly w/ his mom, talk to her.  Feel her out.  Maybe invite just the absolute closest from his family.  But - see what he and his mom say.

    Exactly this.  You absolutely should have a shower with your family and friends.  I would approach the topic with your H and his mom to feel out how his family will react, most likely I would only invite the closest family members from his side.  

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  • mhickey426mhickey426 member
    yes of course you should have one

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    Most people feel that baby showers are for first time mothers...which you are.  I wouldn't not be concerned about your DH's family.  If they don't want to participate they will decline the invite.
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  • BabyHernandez03BabyHernandez03
    I'm on my 1st SO's 3rd...Sis-In-Laws are hosting a shower for me. It's not like his ex is going to give you her stuff. You're good :)
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  • duffmakerduffmaker member
    Completely appropriate! I doubt your husband's family would have a problem with it, if they do I wouldn't dwell to much on it!
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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    A shower welcomes a woman to motherhood, and this is your first baby.  It's perfectly appropriate.  Have a wonderful time!
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  • BLPL101BLPL101 member
    Definitely have a shower!
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