DE/DS/GC check in

jcath · July 2012

I am so sorry I am so late with the check-in this week. I've had an insane week with little computer time.

This group is open to anyone who has already gone through donor egg/donor embryo/gestational carrier, is in the process of it, or plans on doing it in the future.

This check-in posted each Tuesday.  If you?d like to be added to this group, please reply to this message, and I?ll make sure to add you for next week.  Welcome to the lurkers!  We know this can be a difficult journey, but we welcome you with open arms.  Let us know if we can answer any questions.

GRADUATES ARE WELCOME AND ENCOURAGED TO POST!

FACEBOOK GROUP: Yellow_Daisy has restarted a PRIVATE Facebook group (meaning no one can see it in your feed, that you are a member, etc.) for the ladies from IF and SAIF who are using/have used donor eggs/embryos or donor sperm.  If you would like to join, please page Yellow_Daisy and ask for an invite to the group.  This might be a nice way to keep in touch in a more private setting and address issues that may arise down the road.

***** If you are a donor or interested in donating, we would be happy to answer questions.  Please start a new post with ?Question for DE ladies? as the title. *****

Status Update: Where are you currently with the DE/DEmbryo/GC process?

QOTW: How did you decide on the clinic you used for DE, what made you willing to travel or decide not to travel

((hugs)) to May2806. I think I speak for everyone when I say we are just heartbroken for your loss.

Currently Cycling/on BCP's or Lupron

M&MBride0506 ? Medicated cycles with sister, final IUI was negative, moving on to IVF, IVF#1 = BFN (((hugs))), cycling with sister again, on Lupron, monitoring appointment on 5/23

PetraStonegirl ? Fresh-frozen DE cycle in late July, had scar tissue and uterine septum resection in May, on Estrace and Provera, phone meeting with IVF RE complete, next steps: schedule post-op SIS, work with RE on getting onto BCP?s and Lovenox, get calendar, contemplating number of embryos to transfer, had the last of the blood work and a PAP done 6/19, add Lupron to the mix next week. Waiting for the clinic to start the thaw and fertilize process, and day now. Has 3 five day frosties!

rebaann ? Two pregnancies from IUI that ended in miscarriages and D&C?s (((hugs))), now pursuing DE, mock ET on 4/12, everything looked good on repeat HSG, repeat S/A, annual GYN appointment, mammogram, social work consult, injection training, mock EEP cycle, picked a donor! Waiting for third recipient to choose donor, started BCP?s, probably cycle in Sept

~*~Recent Successes~*~

lynn0926 ? Pursuing DE out of state, found a local clinic willing to do monitoring and submit to insurance, started mock cycle on 4/2, accepted into guarantee program and lining looks good, chose a new donor, psych eval complete, signed legal agreement, baseline appointment complete, started estrace, doing acupuncture, donor starting stims on 6/8, travel plans are set, depart on 6/15, had 25 fertilized embies. Transfer on the 28^th, HPTs+ Beta 2500! 2^nd beta at 13dp5dt was 6131.

amethysgrrl ? Pursuing DE, have selected a clinic and a donor, planning for a June cycle, successfully completed evaluation cycle and had SHG done, got calendar! Began Lupron on 5/22, Cleared to begin cycle! ER planned between 6/14 and 6/17 with ET between 6/17 and 6/22 , transfer complete Beta 7//2

sekura ? Had WTF for IVF#1 and decided that DE is best option, considering RBA, consult scheduled for 3/6, cycling now at RBA?s frozen egg program! 3 out of 5 donor eggs fertilized, 5dt of 1 blast on 5/12, beta is 5/22, also have 2 frozen embryos ? BFP! Beta #1=306, Beta #2-818, third beta scheduled for 5/31

Waiting to Cycle/Between Cycles
BeckyP005 ? 2 IUI?s both BFN?s, RE says DE is best option, not 100% sure about this option but beginning required testing, cycle on hold until August or September due to repeat mammogram needed, mammogram scheduled!

ceemonkey ? High FSH on her side and sertoli-cell only syndrome on DH's side, joined donor embryo program and submitted some picks, matched with donor embryos! Next step is more testing and then waiting on a few more things before getting ET schedule, in the 2ww from an IUI cycle with OE, waiting to get matched with more donor embryos

Ginger71 ? Staring the DE process in the New Year, considering DE + DS, decided on a guarantee program and moving forward, working on financial details
happywifemomofone ? 100% OOP, considering shared DE cycle, DE consult scheduled at Advanced Fertility went well, would like to cycle in June or July, contemplating guarantee programs, delaying cycle due to financial considerations, applying for a grant through Baby Quest
harriet93 ? ET May 2011, lost baby at 9 weeks (((hugs))), hoping for FET soon, growths in uterus removed, waiting on lab results before moving forward

kbrodie06 ? Has a 3-year-old daughter, considering/researching DE for second child, checking with doctors in the area and weighing options, secured a shared donor! Cycle hopefully starting June 30, put down a deposit on the donor as the second recipient in a shared cycle , on BCPs for shared cycle

mielkede ? Decided on DE in August 2008, DD born August 2009, 2 frozen embryos, FET = BFN (((hugs)))

Mom2Reese ? Have a daughter from previous IVF cycle, pursuing donor embryo for a second child, chose a donor with 13 frozen embryos, started Vivelle patches, lining check on 5/11, transferred 2 blasts on 5/18, m/c (((HUGS)))

rewdew ? Going straight to DE with ICSI after removal of one ovary and elevated FSH, also dealing with MFI, DE IVF #1 = BFN (((hugs))), 2 morulas frozen, planning on natural FET
sarahtoledo ? Looking into traditional surrogacy after a third loss
vawad82 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor ? m/c, huge hugs

RFBsbride ? Fresh DE cycle and FET in 2009 both BFN's, pursuing DE again after unplanned 2-year break, started BCP?s on 12/15, everything looked good on saline sonohystogram and bone density scan, DH going for a physical and will get a referral to a urologist, all testing done, transfer complete! - BFP! M/C ((Hugs)) Still waiting for beta to be zero to cycle again

krod2010 ? IVF #6 with identical twin as donor, 16 eggs retrieved but none fertilized ((((hugs)))), DE cycle, ET 1/16, transferred 3 blasts, nothing to freeze, BFP followed by m/c, cycling with the same donor again? 30 eggs retrieved, transferred two blasts, chemical pregnancy ((((HUGS))), 18 frozen embryos, hysteroscopy and laparoscopy complete, started delestrogen, FET on 6/15, Beta negative ((hugs)) cycle again 8/31.

reb259 ? DE consult schedule for 11/3, DE IVF#1 with frozen eggs did not work out (((hugs))) WTF and appointment with reproductive urologist scheduled, phone consult with RBA went well, meeting with psych and had more blood work done on 4/20, picked a donor! Finished BCP?s, planning travel to RBA for thaw and fert on 6/4, u/s on 5/30 to check lining, hoping it is 8+ transferred 2 low grade embies, home test negative ((Hugs)), deciding next steps

mtlaurel ? Pursuing DE after two failed IVF cycles, DE consult complete, scheduled required mammogram for April, DH?s SA numbers are up, chose a donor! started BCP?s on 4/3, another recipient selected donor! ER anticipated for 6/13 with ET on 6/18, started Lupron week of 5/17, started Delestrogen on 5/28, dilapan done, next up is lining check, transfer of 2 grade A embryos, Beta on 6/28 C/P ((hugs) waiting for test results

may2806 ? DE IVF cycle was BFP, having bleeding episodes but heartbeat is good, NT scan went great but blood work showed high HCG and low Papp-A, amnio scheduled but not done, late m/c ((((HUGS)))), determined to be caused by a huge SCH behind the placenta, hysteroscopy showed uterus looks normal, waiting for next cycle with donor, completed Lupron Depot, now starting daily Lupron and IVIG, transfer 6/20 Beta 1 ? 261, beta 2 ? 546, 6 week u/s shows twins! M/C ((hugs))

Looking into Options
emca ? Decided on DE after 7 early miscarriages (including after IVF with CGH testing), chose a donor but cycle then cancelled due to donor thinking she was pregnant, decided to cycle one more time with OE, BFN with no frozen embryos, unsure if it is an egg quality problem, looking into gestational carrier

hrtbreakr ? Has been going through IVF/Infertility for 4 years, told DE is the best option
militarywife2b ? Considering embryo adoption, first consult with a new RE unsatisfactory, pursuing private adoption of baby who is due in May, also working on losing weight

Mrs.McIrish ? phone consult with CNY to discuss options

~*~Graduates~*~
07may07 ? DE cycle with sister's eggs, 3dt, BFP! Beta at 11dp3dt = 190, Beta at 15dp3dt = 927, it?s twins! A boy and a girl!, feeling better, baby girl on the lower end of normal for weight so keeping an eye on her, 34 weeks! Babies are growing well
aebaby ? Cycled with RBA?s frozen DE program, HSG showed polyp which was removed, hysteroscopy for 11/2, 6 eggs fertilized after the thaw, SET on 12/14, 3 to freeze, beta on 12/22, early HPT?s positive!
ashleyann82 ? Chose a new donor after first one backed out, shared cycle, DE eSET on 6/19, 4 frozen, BFP! Heartbeat is looking great on ultrasounds, baby looked great on a/s, it?s a BOY!, failed GTT, appointments set up with RN and dietician, going to start exercising more and watching diet, hit 35/35 milestone
bluebabka ? DE IVF #1 - 13 eggs retrieved, ET of 2 blasts on 2/19, BFP! First u/s showed two but follow-up showed one beautiful baby with a heartbeat of 174, baby boy born 11/3 via C-section, planning on FET in April or May
BRSAugust20 ? BFP (singleton)! Joseph is here! Contemplating next steps regarding frozen embryo, on a parent panel for RESOLVE?s NIAW activity! Starting a new job, did another parent panel for RESOLVE and one scheduled for November

Bubs711 ? Selected donor! Sonogram as follow-up from mammogram showed fibrocystic breasts, biopsy of both breasts on 2/16 ? mass was drained, TSH came back high, went on Synthroid, ET of 2 day 5 embryos, beta #1 = 477, beta #2=1,777, first u/s on 4/25 showed one heartbeat, EDD is 12/12/12, OB appointment went well, bleeding scare (((hugs)) but everything looked good on u/s, first trimester scan went well, heard heartbeat, officially graduated from RE

dreamalotmp ? DOR, AMA, DE IVF + ICSI cycle, chose donor, cycle planned for November, donor dropped out of the program but selected a new one, ER and ET complete, BFP! Beta #1 = 243, Beta #2 = 489, first u/s showed one healthy developing yolk sac, everything looked good on first trimester screening, diagnosed with gestational diabetes, great anatomy scan on 3/5 showed a girl! First monthly growth u/s complete, baby looking great

gemini667 ? Pursuing DE after 2 losses and 3 failed IUI?s, started Lupron for DE cycle, received 4 eggs in a split cycle, on PIO, ET on 3/17! Transferred 2 embryos, HPT shows BFP, Beta #1=625, Beta #2=1,527, Beta #3=3,697, u/s #1 scheduled
hep01 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor ? m/c ((huge hugs)) blood work results are back and showed a strand of MTHFR started Lovenox before ET, transferred 2 frozen embryos on 2/1, BFP! It?s twins! Two baby girls!
hooliface ? DE cycle, transferred 2 embryos (8 cell compounding grade B+ and an 8 cell grade on day 3, BFP!
Imanurse03 ? DE IVF #1 - ER on 5/31, ET on 6/4, 16 frozen embryos! BFP! It?s a BOY! Complications including low amniotic fluid levels, IUGR, welcomed baby boy on 1/18/12!
iwannababy2010 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor! Everything looked good on NT scan, baby is here! Trying for a second baby with FET in March
jcath ? Donor egg cycle with frozen egg bank, chose donor and back-up, had endo biopsy, 5dt on 1/26, beta #1 = 118, betas have been good, first u/s on 2/21 showed identical twin girls! Arrived safely on 9/2, the girls are now crawling!
jhleap ? Has a toddler from DE, did an FET in November and got a BFP, expecting baby #2 in early August, first OB appointment scheduled for week of 1/16
JM1977 ? DE IVF #1 = BFN, DE IVF #2 - eSET on day 5 (12/15), beta on 12/28 = 1,035, beta on 12/30 = 2,234, first OB appointment showed baby measuring right on track, baby girl M arrived on 8/30/11!

kb1965 ? Baby girl from DE who is 18 months old, FET of one day-3 embryo on 5/2, BFP! First and second betas both looking good!

kdussault ? Donor egg cycle with known donor, 3dt on 1/22 of one perfect embryo, BFP! NT scan went great, anatomy scan on 5/19. It?s a boy!
koyn ? Cycling at RBA, transferred 2 embryos on 9/19, froze 1, BFP!! Beta #3 was 14,621, first u/s showed TWINS! 1st MFM appointment and saw both babies dancing around, hit 28 weeks
LBR_NJ/LisaBRM ? BFP! Baby girl Alana arrived on 12/9/09! FET scheduled for 12/10 but embryo did not survive the thaw (((hugs)))
lenebene ? Split DE cycle underway, on estrogen, donor started stims, ER on 4/25, ET is done - BFP! Beta #1 = 314, Beta #2 = 664, u/s showed one bean, u/s #2 saw heartbeat again, released to OB, team green!, passed glucose test
lhcooper ? Cycling with DE at out-of-state clinic, ER 12/5 - 16 eggs retrieved, got 5 in split cycle, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 5dt of one embryo on 12/10, beta #1=413, beta #2= 3952, first u/s showed a healthy baby with heartbeat of 138 bpm, second u/s also went great, CVS on 2/14 showed healthy baby GIRL! She looked perfect at 20-week scan, shower scheduled for June, starting monthly growth scans, passed 3-hour glucose test

lisaiesha ? DE cycle with an anonymous, proven donor, transferred one Day 5 blast on 3/12 ? BFP! Due date is 11/29, second u/s scheduled for 4/27, 10 weeks, 6 days! Done with estrogen shots and PIO

ljhgrey ? Diagnosed with POF at age 16, unresponsive to Follistim, matched with donor in January, started estrace and more blood work on 3/2, everything looking good! ER was 3/7! ET was 3/12, transferred two beautiful blasts, beta scheduled for 3/23, 3 frozen embryos, HPTs show BFP! Beta #1=114, Beta #2=301, first u/s showed one sac and one yolk sac, next u/s scheduled for 4/6
Lulubelle ? Diagnosed with POF at age 19, has a daughter from a previous DE cycle, original donor contacted and agreed to donate again, BFP! NT scan results looked great, anatomy scan on 8/15 - it's a boy!
lunatwo ? September cycle cancelled due to ovulating on Lupron, DE IVF#1 - ER was 11/11, 13 eggs, 6 fertilized, 5 B-grade embryos, ET on 11/16, BFP! Beta #1 = 485, Beta #2 = 2,495, first u/s showed twins!! A boy and a girl!
njohnson1972 ? Last attempt with OE, transferred 2 embryos on 11/6, BFP!  Jack is here! IVF cycle with OE unsuccessful, currently on a break and pursuing DE during the summer
RachelD83 ? BFP on 2nd FET (single embryo transfer) - boy! Jonathan born on 12/8 at 38w3d, he's starting to crawl!
shyntrue ? Donor selected! Surgery to have septum removed, cycle postponed to December, had second SHG and uterus looked good, DE IVF#1 - 3dt of 2 embryos on 12/10, BFP! Beta #1=890, Beta #2=10,967, first u/s on 1/11 showed TWINS! NT scan scheduled for 2/24, two trips to the ER and an overnight hospital stay, extensive u/s showed (most likely) 2 boys! Failed 1-hour glucose test and going back for 3-hour . Boys have arrived, still in NICU but doing well
snoangel79 ? Dx with POF, DE cycle: 15 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 2 embryos transferred, and 8 frozen, BFP! Twins! NT scan went great - strong heartbeats and good growth, a boy and a girl!, babies small for their gestational age but doing well, welcomed babies on 2/24!
strudel82 ? Success with DE cycle in Dec., pregnant with twin girls! Both are over 1 lb. and kicking, enjoying being pregnant with these girls, heading into third trimester!
Vet-Tech ? BFP with donor embryos, baby girl born 9/20/10! Considering pursuing donor embryos for a second child

glueck · July 2012

Would you please add me to the DE group?

Status Update: Where are you currently with the DE/DEmbryo/GC process?

We just returned from Czech Republic where we have chosen a wonderful clinic. We have a tentative transfer date of Oct 6! We are nervous and excited.

QOTW: How did you decide on the clinic you used for DE, what made you willing to travel or decide not to travel We live in Switzerland where DE is not allowed. The closest country that does DE IVF is Czech Rep. We just drove there and had consults at a few clinics. We loved the feeling of this clinic, the technology available, and the success rates. We feel very good that this clinic is the right choice for us...we hope we are right!

mtlaurel · July 2012

Status: Having difficult discussions with DH on what's next for us Sad . My panels came back not so bad (full results next week), DH's results not so good. He is having a really, really hard time thinking about the possibility of him not having a genetic connection. Meanwhile, I just want to move forward int he most financially responsible way we can.

QOTW: Success rates were the main concern for me, pricing was a concern to us both, and DH wanted to be within reasonable driving distance (ended up a 3-4 hour drive one way). I don't regret our choice, even though it didn't work, and would like to continue to work with them.

lhcooper · July 2012

Update: at 34w1d, last week, baby girl was estates to be 6 lbs 15 oz (95th percentile). Yikes. So far my OB is ok with attempting vaginal birth, bu we'll know more at my 38-week u/s. Here's hoping she slows down a little!

QOTW: we wanted a shared-risk guarantee program, there isn't a local one, and the clinic we used is also basically in my hometown so I could stay at my mother's house. I also liked the idea of going out of state for DE, reducing chances that I would ever somehow encounter the donor or anyone else that had used her, but that wasn't our main reasoning. Honestly I really didn't mind the traveling and only had to go twice. I imagine it would have gotten old fast if it hadn't worked on the first try, however.

lynn0926 · July 2012

Update: We had an u/s earlier in the week, which revealed twins with beautiful heartbeats. I pray they keep on beating!

QOTW: I chose SDFC because of their stats and I really wanted an inhouse pool. Their pool fit us well and had plenty of girls that fit our liking. I didn't mind having to travel and it was a nice vacation admist all the stress of cycling.

Imanurse03 · July 2012

Welcome recent graduates! And big hugs to May2806. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

QOTW: How did you decide on the clinic you used for DE, what made you willing to travel or decide not to travel ? We stayed with our RE for our DE cycle. We had done several IUIs and several failed attempts at IVF using my own eggs and that's when he suggested using an egg donor. We had done shared risk for our IVF cycle and so he was kind enough to make our shared risk contract into a donor egg cycle. We did have to use a 3rd party agency to find our donor, as our RE didn't have his own donor pool. We chose that particular agency because our RE had worked with that agency before and they came recommended. I also like that all of the staff there had some personal experience with DE/GC. And a lot of communication could be done via email and telephone.

Status update: DS is 6 months old! Not sure where the time has gone. Def. bittersweet. He was diagnosed with milk and soy protein allergies at 4 months and has been very slow to gain weight. He is now on the growth chart at the 3rd percentile for height and weight. DH has been talking a lot lately about doing a FET early next year to try for #2. I am not sure I'll be ready. I was on bedrest for 14 weeks with DS and delivered him early at 35 weeks. I'd like to get my body back in shape and just enjoy the time with DS before possibly adding another child to our family.

sekura · July 2012

Status: Baby L is doing fine; NT scan and b/w results all came back normal. Now if I would just stop having m/s, I'd be great

QOTW: How did you decide on the clinic you used for DE, what made you willing to travel or decide not to travel ?

RBA is right here in Atlanta, which meant that we wouldn't have any travel costs, and wouldn't have to take vacation time. And they had an in-house frozen donor program with a large pool (and are extremely experienced with it), so there were no downsides. The costs were reasonable as well for in-US, and they have the guarantee of 2 quality embryos. So the choice was pretty easy for us.

Mrs.McIrish · July 2012

Status Update: Where are you currently with the DE/DEmbryo/GC process? I will be doing my mock cycle when AF shows up next week. Then I will be waiting for my turn on my donors' waiting lists...

QOTW: How did you decide on the clinic you used for DE, what made you willing to travel or decide not to travel : I traveled for IVF3 and 4 with OE so traveling for DE was acceptable to me. I chose my place based on cost with my insurance and that they had an in-house pool. It is about 3 hrs away driving which is no big deal at this point and less than my last RE..

Jen12573 · July 2012

May I please be added to this group? DH and I are meeting with our RE on 8/10, where we will be discussing the donor embryo program they have at the practice. I'm still in the research phase of this part of our journey, so I really don't have much else to add.

History on me - been seeing an RE off and on since 2007, I've got high FSH (my endocrinologist suspects this is a result from untreated hyperthyroidism for a year before it was finally treated), uterine fibroids removed in 2008 (size of a lime, a tennis ball and a baseball lodged at the base of my spine), and premature ovarian failure. I guess you could add mild endo on my left ovary too. That's the scoop - DH is all good (darn him!)

Thanks, and good luck to all!

rebaann · July 2012

Update: I'm still hanging out on BCPs, but I get to start Lupron on Saturday. I think I will finally feel like we are moving at that point.

QOTW: We picked our clinic based mainly on the fact that they took my insurance and they have several locations, one of which is directly across from our house. It turns out that they have good success rates too, but we definitely would have considered traveling to a clinic further way if it meant a better chance for us.

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