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• LollyBug18 member

  July 2012

  Hi there! This board will do a great job of supporting you, they're pretty awesome like that! I wanted to go natural w/ my first and everyone pretty just gave me that "yeah, right..." smile and some commented that I should just go with the epi. I did end up with epi but thankfully no one said "told you so". This time it hasn't come up in conversation so I may not have anyone IRL cheering me on but at least I don't have anyone undermining me either. It's just something I keep to myself because, when it comes down to it, I don't want other's opinions or doubt dragging me down. I already feel better prepared and more confident this time around.

  

  
  

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• bandwife

  July 2012

  Yep. I had men, and women, that had never even given birth before or witnessed someone give birth tell me I should get the epidural as soon as I could.

  There's this weird culture around labor and giving birth that movies and tv continues to feed in to: labor is scary and painful and women can't handle it.

  It's bullsh**t. 

  My first was born at home and it was a great experience for me, my son and my husband. I felt very healthy and powerful and calm.

  Good luck to you!
  

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• sschwege member

  July 2012

  Hey!  A fellow Dec, mama, welcome!  

  To answer your question, yes!  I definitely got called crazy a time or two!  I haven't encountered it this time though, probably because I've already done it.

  I found it best to avoid discussing it with people and if someone asks just give them a non-committal, "We'll see how it goes."

  I guess as far as advice I would say find a health care provider who will be supportive.  Try to surround yourself with positive stories and people and really spend some time educating yourself.     

  
  
  
  
  
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• alr5k member

  July 2012

  Thanks ladies! My DH is really supportive in whatever decisions I make. And my mom had me and one of my brothers completely natural so she has jokingly said on multiple occasions that I need to do it naturally. But it's a decision I have pretty much come to on my own. I will keep an open mind when the time comes and I am in labor because who knows how it will go. I just don't want people to laugh at me or act like I am not capable. Thanks for your support. It really does help to have people to relate to

  

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• caeraRose member

  July 2012

  Absolutely. I've had a ton of people say to me "there's a reason for modern medicine". Which annoys me every time... I'm not avoiding medical help that will help me or my child, but pain medication just simply isn't necessary, IMO. ><

  I posted on TB about having back labor, and I had a ton of women also tell me that there was no way I could get through back labor without pain meds... which I've now proven wrong. I've also heard that you can't be induced without pain meds, which I've also now proven wrong. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it.

  The worst was actually my dad, because I knew his heart was in the right place... he just kept saying that he didn't want me in any pain, and that he really wanted me to take pain meds so he didn't have to worry about me feeling really awful. I appreciated the sentiment, but I just asked him what he expected labor to be like? I think a lot of his trouble was that I'm adopted... he'd never been very involved with the birth process, other than my mom having a lot of trouble with miscarriages, so pregnancy and birth in general terrified him. 

  

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