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MIL vent
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MIL "popped over" again today - I wouldn't have answered the door but she sent her 11 year old granddaughter to ring the bell and I didn't want to leave her standing there.
She then asked me when I was going to "get sexy" again. wtf???
We really need to move out of state.
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Re: MIL vent
ugh.. so not appropriate
I was looking for the "MIL stupid comments" message board so I could vent but I will just share with you one of my MIL stupid comments:
"I watch my other grandchild 3 days a week; I have no time for your DD" (when referring to coming over for a visit)
Yea venting! My MIL brought me baby through toddler size clothes that are completely unusable (paper thin sleeveless onesies in sizes she'll hit mid-winter, etc.). She got them at a garage sale for free since she knew the people but made a big deal about presenting them to us. When my mom gave us formula and nusery water (which we needed), MIL got pissed at her for showing her up or some other crap and didn't speak to my mom for the rest of the day.
Woohoo in laws!
I hate to say it but moving out of state doesn't help either!
We moved from NY to WA state, about 2800 miles away, and wouldn't you know they STILL cause problems! They, being the inlaws, FIL and MIL and even BIL all followed us! FIL went back to NY so thankfully MIL went, but they left BIL who refuses to get a life of his own. If you only knew how often these people call!
Our girls arrived on 6/2 and the inlaws visited. My only rule was no coming on the 4th of july because I wanted the first holiday with just my husband and the girls and I, and wouldn't you know, they came and stayed from 6/29 to 7/5! And I know my husband told them no several times and they just ignored him! We even said "we won't be home" so they got a hotel and "stopped in" everyday lasting the ENTIRE day. BIL shows up unannounced and won't leave, and if we do have to see him for any specific reason, we try to meet in public so we can say "oh, have to run errands" and he follows us! We thought after getting rid of FIL that BIL would leave too, but nope! We decided to buy a house and wouldn't you know, he decides to buy one too! We had to up our price to 300k so that he wouldn't be able to buy the house right next door to us (he tried, house next to what we're renting became available and he tried to put an offer in contingent upon us staying there, the realtor refused according to him).
Bless your heart. Your in laws sound nuts.
Christ on a cracker! I thought I had it bad - your BIL has some serious codependency issues! BTW, we had our babies on the same day!
mil has always been super competitive with dh and i (no clue why!). everything we do/get, she does one better. we got engaged, she and her now husband got engaged less than a month later. we set our wedding date for october 2010, she set hers for july 2010. our wedding was out of town only 60 people and everyone stayed at the hotel overnight where we had a breakfast buffet set up for everyone, her wedding was in town, 400 people invited personally plus an open invitation for the entire city in the newspaper, then had the reception at an old inn and did breakfast the next morning. i got 2 wedding bands, she insisted her husband buy her another a few months after the wedding. dh bought me a nice watch for my birthday, she had her husband buy her a nicer one. i got a new car, she got a new mercedes. dh put fancy crown moulding and wainscoting in our dining room, she had him put up crown in her house. dh got a van, she had her husband buy her a nicer one. it goes on and on.
so of course this has continued with the baby. oh i had an easy 7 hour natural labour and quick delivery? yeah well i don't know what labour really is because she had 3 long back labours. oh i tore? yeah well she didn't. oh my baby is a great sleeper? well dh wasn't, she made more sacrifices. ugh i just want to slap her sometimes!
Oh my, I thought mine were nutso...
Aren't MILs wonderful? The first 3 weeks after having DD MIL was over about every other day. No call. Just showed up. She treated me like I hadn't just had a baby.
DH even agreed with me that she only came over because it benefited her (even when she visited in the hospital DH had to go get her, in a different town, & when she was there she was more concerned about having something to drink - especially the free coffee they offered). She wasn't coming over to offer us help. Her AA meetings were here in town. Which, according to DH, she only went to because it gave her something to do. Plus being here meant she'd get to see her daughter who is also here in town. Whenever anyone in my family visited (which she complained that they got to visit but she didn't) they came over because they were helping by bringing stuff me & the baby needed.
Thankfully she moved to the other side of the country last week (we're in Indiana, she's now in Louisiana). I'd been hoping she'd move there for a long time now. It just sorta sucks that she moves & now I have to go back to work a month early. But at least I won't have to deal with her after, or before, work or while trying to enjoy my days off w/ DD!
Ya gotcherself a one upper there. Yikes.
DS - 7.2006 - C-Section b/c Breech
DS2 - 4.2008 - Successful Vbac
DD - 5.2012 - Successful Vbac
One uppers are always fun. MIL tried it and I told my mom she was doing it. MIL and FIL are constantly asking what my parents are doing, working, everything about their lives. I won't let DH tell them anything anymore because of it. They run a small airport and told my husband they flew over my parents house, and that because an old trailer was no longer on our property that my grandfather who used to live there had died, I had inherited money and was keeping all of this from my husband. ugh.....
so in reality, which is clearly where they do not live, my grandfather had purchased the home next to my parents and the trailer was only supposed to be temporary housing (summer in NY, winter in FL). My grandfather was alive and well, and the trailer was destroyed because it was 30 years old! But apparently my grandfather is dead, I got a boatload of cash and my husband should leave me because I keep secrets.
They tried to one up my mom on gifts for the twins, they sent 1 swing and 2 shirts, dark blue size 4T.... Then they called and said "well what did YOUR parents get???" It was the BEST feeling ever when they showed up, because I opened the girls 10' closet that is packed floor to ceiling with clothes from my mom, and a second swing in the livingroom, and 4 more tubs of clothes 6 months and older. My MIL was like "oh whatever" and I just smiled. Gosh that felt so good to one up the one upper!
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I, too, have a MIL who has issues with handing over the baby when he needs to be fed. You would think I was breaking some sacred bond between her and the baby, every time I took him from her to feed him. Literally had to chase her around the kitchen once to get him back from her.
Thankfully she lives on the other side of the country so we have a break from her right now, but I am dreading her next visit.
With all the crappy MIL stories, there should just be a separate board for all of it.
One creepy thing that my MIL does is manufacture "moments" with my baby that DH and I are not involved in. For example, she and SIL came up with the plan that SIL would learn a special lullaby for LO and then perform it for her when she came to visit. Without warning, MIL sets up the camera and tells SIL to get in place and take the baby. SIL proceeds to put on a big show for the camera while DH and I sit there like "WTF!?". MIL takes video home to show everyone how magical the bond between SIL and our baby is. No videos of baby with mom or dad though.
Thank God DH agreed to have the "no posting baby on social media sites" talk with the both of them.