Can someone make the tantrums stop?

waterfall11 · July 2012

DD has gone through periods before where she threw little protest tantrums but this week has been just awful. Any time I put her in her carseat, stroller, high chair or change her diaper or change anything she screams and cries and sounds like she is being beaten. I am at my wits end on what to do. I try distracting and redirecting but nothing seems to work. Just spent the drive home crying and right now I feel so defeated and like I never want to leave the house with her again because I am so tired of fighting to get her in the carseat. Any suggestions?

MommaA117 · July 2012

I feel ya. I take a magazine away. Flip out. I set her down on the ground. Flip out. I take too long getting her food to the high chair. Flip out. I think it's normal for this age. I try to tell her no and let her know it's not looked on nicely but I'm sure she doesn't get it.

JsMama11 · July 2012

Right there with ya....especially strapping him into anything. I am just trying to be firm and NOT letting him win. He needs to understand I am the boss lol. Hoping to survive the next couple years.

M&M227 · July 2012

JsMama11:
Right there with ya....especially strapping him into anything. I am just trying to be firm and NOT letting him win. He needs to understand I am the boss lol. Hoping to survive the next couple years.

This, there are plenty of things in life we don't like but oh well. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do. I let her scream, if we're having a really difficult day I set her down and walk away.

waterfall11 · July 2012

JsMama11:
Right there with ya....especially strapping him into anything. I am just trying to be firm and NOT letting him win. He needs to understand I am the boss lol. Hoping to survive the next couple years.

I hope this part doesn't last for a couple years! Ready to be on to the next challenge- this one has gotten old. Glad to know I'm not alone.

jellybeanjean · July 2012

waterfall11:
JsMama11:
Right there with ya....especially strapping him into anything. I am just trying to be firm and NOT letting him win. He needs to understand I am the boss lol. Hoping to survive the next couple years.
I hope this part doesn't last for a couple years! Ready to be on to the next challenge- this one has gotten old. Glad to know I'm not alone.

Then I won't tell you abt the massive tantrum DS1 threw when I tried to get him to pee yesterday before nap time. My WORD. It was like something out of a horror movie. Flailing, screaming, sobbing. It is not normally like that with him, so I was a bit blindsided.

They get easier to reason with, they get more verbal...so that's good. However, they get more strong-willed, more physically strong and much more independent. Different tantrums and battles of the will, but yes...you will be fighting them for YEARS.

ETA: I think you're doing just fine. It's such a normal part of this age, asserting their newfound will. I think the key is to keep fighting the important battles, and then let go of the stuff that doesn't really matter. I have such a hard time drawing that line (and definitely have a tendency to draw it to the side where everything matters), but keep going...one foot in front of the other on hard days.

waterfall11 · July 2012

jellybeanjean:
ETA: I think you're doing just fine. It's such a normal part of this age, asserting their newfound will. I think the key is to keep fighting the important battles, and then let go of the stuff that doesn't really matter. I have such a hard time drawing that line (and definitely have a tendency to draw it to the side where everything matters), but keep going...one foot in front of the other on hard days.

Thanks for the encouragement. I was handling a few short tantrums a day fine but these ones are long and frequent and it's just wearing on me. Wondering if it has something to do with her never seeing DH anymore because he is working long hours 7 days a week. She has always been a daddy's girl.

jellybeanjean · July 2012

waterfall11:
jellybeanjean:
ETA: I think you're doing just fine. It's such a normal part of this age, asserting their newfound will. I think the key is to keep fighting the important battles, and then let go of the stuff that doesn't really matter. I have such a hard time drawing that line (and definitely have a tendency to draw it to the side where everything matters), but keep going...one foot in front of the other on hard days.
Thanks for the encouragement. I was handling a few short tantrums a day fine but these ones are long and frequent and it's just wearing on me. Wondering if it has something to do with her never seeing DH anymore because he is working long hours 7 days a week. She has always been a daddy's girl.

I wouldn't be surprised if that has something to do with it. At this age, I feel like they have such strong emotions (joy, anger, frustration, confusion) that they really can't appropriately express yet. Anything can really push them over the edge, easily. Maybe she's getting it out of her system now and will be an angelic 2yr old. Smile

waterfall11 · July 2012

jellybeanjean:
Maybe she's getting it out of her system now and will be an angelic 2yr old.

I sure hope so! According to my mom I was an angelic 2 year old but a terrible 4 year old.

vigurl · July 2012

I am convinced terrible 2 is a farce and it really is at 1 instead. I refuse to belive there is a stage with more tantrums than this one.

waterfall11 · July 2012

vigurl:
I am convinced terrible 2 is a farce and it really is at 1 instead. I refuse to belive there is a stage with more tantrums than this one.

Completely agree!

march2008 · July 2012

waterfall11:
vigurl:
I am convinced terrible 2 is a farce and it really is at 1 instead. I refuse to belive there is a stage with more tantrums than this one.
Completely agree!

My friend told me that it doesn't get better....only different. lol

mom6311 · July 2012

MommaA117:
I feel ya. I take a magazine away. Flip out. I set her down on the ground. Flip out. I take too long getting her food to the high chair. Flip out. I think it's normal for this age. I try to tell her no and let her know it's not looked on nicely but I'm sure she doesn't get it.

THIS! I don't know what to do either. I'll tell you what...you stop reading Baby Bear Baby Bear and we've got a huge issue!!! Hopefully someone will find a great way to handle them and we can all help each other out! Big Smile We can also hope, right?!

Sa2827 · July 2012

lurking and have to comment on this.... I AM SO GLAD WE ARE NOT THE ONLY ONES! I do play groups and a music class and literally We are the only ones with temper tantrums and what is so funny is that my pedi is in our music class and DD is throwing a fit because I wont take her to the drums!

I just started laughing and putting her down and tell her that everything will be ok she just needs to let me know what she will like and id gladly do it, she then flings herself all around the house crying and then looking at me to see if im going to pay attention to her. When she realizes i wont pay attention to it she finally stops and starts playing.

As far as the car seat, its tough but once i hand her lovie and shes gets to help buckle herself in she is fine.

and when we are at a store i turn bright red, go to an empty aisle and pretend to throw a tantrum right back and she then cant stop laughing..... but it only lasts for so long and i know i have maybe ten more min and to get my butt moving and get what i need

thatgirl84 · July 2012

I just don't feed into it. I am convinced that babies know how we are reacting internally...they can smell fear! She can arch her back all she wants when getting strapped in to the stroller, but she will still get put in there. I rarely get frustrated with her. I have mentally prepared myself for this, and it helps that I am not outwardly emotion anyway.

Having said that, she is an awesome little girl 90% of the time. Diaper changes do require a distraction these days, even one of her shoes seems to work.

I hope I can keep this calm when the terrible twos hit, but I keep reminding myself of the Happiest Toddler on The Block, and how communicating with a toddler will help immensely, and right now most of us cannot in any way reason with our LOs right now Soon! We will get there

Mason n me · July 2012

Mason is pretty good 90% of the time as well.

However he has been throwing a tantrum for the last 10 minutes or so because I let the dogs out and didn't let him go outside!

Turtle143 · July 2012

LOL I read all of this to DH and we just had to laugh. Just soooo glad Liv is not the only one like this!

She's sometimes okay in the carseat after the first 5-10 minutes. She then just babbles to herself or blows raspberries. Some days though she cries until we are home or she falls asleep.

Hang in there. I've been praying this is just a phase!

pooksmom · July 2012

Yay I'm not alone. You ladies made my day - as usual.

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