Hi, all. I haven't been on TB in awhile but wanted to see what others' experience is with issue we're having. DS is still nursing and we bedshare. However, at almost a year old, he still wakes frequently...sometimes hourly! Is it bc there's so much happening developmentally right now, or is this abnormal? I thought he'd get closer to STTN as he got older and I'm not sure how much longer I can function on such poor sleep. Any chance this may correct itself? Any advice or insight would be appreciated!
Re: Is this normal or a sign bedsharing should end?
We didn't bedshare nearly as long as you have. We did bshare until 5 months, DD was constantly waking up. We tried her crib and she slept 12 hours the first night without waking up and almost every night thereafter.
I think babies let you know when they are ready.
This is what happened to us to around 6 months. I could not have gone that long with hourly wakeups. DD did not STTN for 12 hours until very recently and it is still only a sometimes occurrence, but the hourly thing was too much. We are getting back into part time bedsharing now, which I really enjoy.
More Green For Less Green
Around that age DD also started getting up a lot. We transitioned to her crib and she started STTN. I would give it a shot. If she still is up all the time, you can rule it out and try something different.
Could it be teething? Maybe some tylenol before bedtime would help?
And yes, even if you do nothing it will resolve on its own. Both of my kids learned to STTN on their own without me pushing them to and are great sleepers now.
We had night weaned at that age and partially weaned from bedsharing, and he still woke up every hour. Thankfully, we are down to only two wakings now at 19 months! I think it's probably just normal toddler behavior.
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Ugh, my older son was waking up that often at 12 months, it was hell. We got a crib mattress and side-carred it to our own mattress, which sort of helped. You could also try sleeping away from him, and having your partner do night-time duty, have your LO sleep in a spot in the same room, but away from your bed.
"Good Night, Sleep Tight" by Kim West has some gentle night weaning tips, and she talks about getting babies/toddlers to sleep independently from parents, too.
All in all, I think it's a pretty normal thing for a baby who is breastfeeding and co-sleeping, and not necessarily a sign that they need to stop (obviously, this doesn't apply if it's bothering you).
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Dr. Jay Gordon is highly rec'd on this board. It didn't work for us - Ferber's night weaning method worked better. Ferber's night weaning method is not the same thing as his CIO/gradual extinction method. Ari was a committed reverse cycler, so I think he really needed the gradual cut back in calories to make it work.
Basically, it works by holding your LO off at each nursing request for 30 minutes, then add time each night. We had to modify this - some sessions, Ari could only be held off 10-15 before getting too hysterical, some I could say "no milk till morning" & he would be back to sleep for 2 hours.
All in all, we had no crying after night 2, & he was night weaned within a week. The crying was minimal (no more than a few minutes), and we always held him & comforted him.
Dr. Jay Gordon is highly rec'd on this board. It didn't work for us - Ferber's night weaning method worked better. Ferber's night weaning method is not the same thing as his CIO/gradual extinction method. Ari was a committed reverse cycler, so I think he really needed the gradual cut back in calories to make it work.
Basically, it works by holding your LO off at each nursing request for 30 minutes, then add time each night. We had to modify this - some sessions, Ari could only be held off 10-15 before getting too hysterical, some I could say "no milk till morning" & he would be back to sleep for 2 hours.
All in all, we had no crying after night 2, & he was night weaned within a week. The crying was minimal (no more than a few minutes), and we always held him & comforted him.