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December 2012 Moms
RissKay
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AW: I'm going to rant about nothing
RissKay
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So we all have a person we know that has a kid, and thinks they're the world's most wonderful mom and has it all figured out. Not saying they aren't good mothers, cause that just isn't for me to decide. HOWEVER, what IS for me to decide, is how I plan to do things with my child. I do NOT appreciate you asking my opinion, and then cutting me off telling me how I'M wrong about something. And I'm not just talking about once in a while, I'm talking about every facebook post, conversation, h3ll, she'll even text me with "just for your information" in response to something she heard I said from a mutual friend, or comment on a pin on Pinterest! I'm all for hearing different sides to something, but blatantly telling me that I'm "wrong" about child-rearing isn't right. No, I don't have my own child yet, but I have been around hundreds of kids through my life, made a living taking care of kids, and have seen many different parenting types, and have a few things I would like to try on my child. I'll of COURSE alter my attempts if something doesn't work/isn't right for my child.
She says all the time how much she hates it when people give her advice she didn't ask for. Well, hun, take a look in the mirror.
Sorry. My DH doesn't like her at all, so he doesn't want to even hear about her, but I have to get stuff "out" or I explode! 
/end rant
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Re: AW: I'm going to rant about nothing
I feel ya.
I have a friend who was all like "You don't me and my kid!" When someone told her she shouldn't put her kid front facing at 6 months.
But then went on a rant about formula fed babies, and made it a big deal to tell me if I FF, I would be a bad parent.
People just don't get it.
Everything is different for them, don'tcha know? Since being pregnant, I've encountered so many situations where all I think is "Pot... meet kettle!"
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Sounds like DH had her pegged a lot earlier. I'm glad you got it out (for now).
I have a coworker who does that sort of thing; she will complain/ask for solutions to something she's struggling with in her classroom, and then when she gets ideas, she tells you all the reasons why it won't work (yet it will be something that worked with my students who will be hers in a few years).
There are times where you just have to avoid the people as much as you can (with FB, you can unfriend her (it won't notify her, and unless she looks forward to downing your thoughts, or you're on the same board, she may not realize that's been done, I know there are some other options where you can make her not show up in your news feed, or create groups of friends that can see posts, and she's not part of it - might make more trouble than its worth though). Not so easy with texting unless you change your number or if she's sending you things through FB which has your cell # attached) .... good luck!
BAH, I would like to concur with a personal rant. I don't CARE that you pooped on the table/had terrible gas/screamed in pain/your in-laws were horrible/I'm not going to sleep for three months. I know my boobs are going to look like something out of national geographic. I know these are things that are going to happen. You're not funny when you joke that my kids are going to be messed up because I'm a psychologist -- you're kind of being a jerk.
Just say "Congratulations!" and bake me a casserole if you're so concerned. Sheesh.
Preach it!!
And, if I want to do everything in my power to have a natural childbirth, I'm gonna do it. Of COURSE I wouldn't put the baby in actual danger (as my SIL asked... stupid) by waiting it out, but if I think this is what is best for my body and MY child, then I sure as h3ll am going to do it. kthanks. Oh, also, just because I said I had been hoping for a girl, doesn't me that I was at all upset about finding out I was having a boy. Duh. I'm having a freaking baby after we thought it wasn't going to be possible. "You'll still love him if it's a boy, right?" Um. No, I thought we'd just send him back and wait for a girl. Dumb@ss.
Take yo buttinskee butt and get outta here!
Ha, ha, ha - that's great. maybe we should all get matching T shirts with your last sentence. Perhaps somewhere would give a "Dec 2012" discount.
And ya know, I think I would be way more willing to listen to advice coming from a mother who has been a mother for more than a year and a half. At this point, the "training" she's done with her son hasn't really shone exactly what she's gonna get out of it/what he's going to be like because of it. Aside from the shoving food in his face a bite at a time, him spitting it out across the room, and them yelling at him, and him doing the same thing with the next bite. (She then tried to say that the article I posted about a nighttime bedtime schedule had a bad point in saying I should try to get baby on a feeding schedule. Um. Really? The method you're using isn't proving to work out too well, friend. The one SHE posted back said something about babies that were rewarded for crying with a boob/bottle had 5 iq points higher than other kids by age 8. Um... not big enough of a difference for me to even look in to. lol)
There is a difference between what you have described above as being I feel more of "Hey this is what I experienced, take it how you will. Some food for thought." Now if you out right tell me I am wrong... or that I am doing something wrong, especially on a subject that is subjective (not talking about installing my car seat correctly, here), then I have a problem. But I view that type as people who are trying to validate what they themselves are unsure of. I don't need to give them validation for their own choices. It shows their insecurity with their own choices.