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December 2012 Moms
Shower
My best friend in the world is going to be leaving for Africa on September 26 and not returning until December 10 (most likely missing my princess' arrival =[ ). I desperately want to have my shower early enough for her to be able to attend (and so does she!) but my mom is doing the planning and she says its not good etiquette to have the shower so early, and is "strongly suggesting" I don't do that. I know that my bestie would be devastated if she couldn't come, she already feels terrible that she won't be here on my due date. I'm due December 3, and we'd probably have to have the shower the third weekend of September. What should I do?
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Re: Shower
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This.
Your mom is the host and has the final say.
Go for it! Mine is early October. That way you have more time to assess what else you have to buy yourself instead of it hitting all at once right before your LO is born. I agree-there are so many variations in showers now that I don't think the "shower etiquette" from other generations is observed as strictly.
I don't really agree with this - the host should ask when you're available. There are so many busy weekends that time of year, (at least where I am) There's Thanks Giving (in Canada it's beginning of Oct.) Halloween, for me DH's bday is in November.... And I would just want it all done and out of the way before I did my Christmas shopping etc so that I know what's left to get...
3rd weekend in September seems quite reasonable....
I can definitely see both sides to this one. A shower is definitely a gift, and to a point, it is up to your mom what she's going to do. The date is the one thing though that I think the MTB should have a say in... She shouldn't pick a date that isn't the best for you, and you obviously really care about having your BFF there. Are you close enough with her that you could talk to her about how important it is?
I agree with jeny. And if we REALLY want to talk "etiquette" here the mother of the MTB shouldn't even be throwing the shower. Not that I would tell your mother that, there's not reason to hurt her feelings but I wanted to bring it up if we're going to be so technical here lol
I see nothing wrong with you asking for a certain time frame. Unless it was for financial reasons that she needed to wait. I asked my sister when she was planning on mine being and she said "October or November" I asked if i could request October and she said "of course!!! You can request any time you want"
Maybe bring it up one more time, tell her it's very important to you that your BFF be there, and that you appreciate her throwing this for you but that this means a lot.
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
Totally normal. I think you should ask to move it up. If your bestie isn't going to be at the shower, honestly it wouldn't mean as much.
At least you are getting a shower. My dad's family is really strict on marriage then babies. And I refuse to get married just because I am pregnant.
I can understand the idea behind having it later, I'd be a bit superstitious to be getting gifts early. My guess is that's why your mom and etiquette are in favor of having it later, but you have a schedule conflict with the later options & the 3rd week in September is just fine if you're fine with that.