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August 2012 Moms
Not the best way to start the day
As I have mentioned before, my DH is currently on a 6 month deployment with the US Navy on a sub. We only received these new orders when I was about 5 months pregnant, and he would be underway one month later. I was a little upset as you can imagine, but I put on my big girl panties and sucked it up. This sort of this was bound to happen. I'm not the first and I won't be the last to not have her DH at delivery.
Well, before he left we were assured that DH would be sent home once they reached a certain port in order to see the birth, and then he would have to fly back out to another port after the birth to meet up with the boat again. I thought, "well that's nice," but didn't get my hopes up... until they kept reassuring DH that there was no way he was going to miss this baby. Then I got my hopes up... really up, while still keeping a grain of realism in the back of my mind.
This deployment has been one for the records, apparently. Their schedule has changed more times than I can remember. Once it looked like DH was not going to make it home, I put all of my backup plans in place. I'm not happy about it, but I have to do what I have to do, right?
So I thought that was it, but I received an email today from our ombudsman that the guys' email system will be down for quite some time (well past my EDD). I can deal with not receiving emails because I know his job comes first and he might not have time, but the fact that I can't even send an email that says, "I'm doing well," or "things are progressing," or "my doctor appointment went well," really kills me.
I've been staying so positive and strong throughout this ordeal, but this latest bit of information has really defeated me. I'm going to maybe go for a walk and start organizing to try take my mind off of it.
Everyone please hug and kiss you DH today, even if he is being a pain in the butt. I so wish my DH was here, annoying me by leaving his socks all over the place.
Sorry for being a debbie downer.
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Re: Not the best way to start the day
You are NOT being a dd! It is okay to feel this way. Thank you for enduring so much to keep our country safe! I am not for war and those sorts of things, but I can appreciate all you are sacrificing. I will deff hug my fiance and tell him I love em. He was in the Navy but got out before we even dated. Take some time to yourself today and reflect on the great things going on in life. I know sometimes life gets to be soo much to handle, but there is always good in tough situations. Stay strong and tell your little one how much daddy loves him/her already! hugs!
Thanks, Jnmac. Now if only I could have one of those frozen maragaritas... that would certainly help! lol
BFP#1 10 wk missed mc
BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14
This is exactly what I was going to say!
I know this may sound REALLY silly but my DH is deployed too and on days when the internet is down and I can't talk to him or they have to go on lockdown for a time I write him letters. They don't always get mailed but just writing them helps.
I fully intend to write him a letter on the day our little girl is gone and I'm making him a photo album, stamping her feet in it, and sending her receiving blanket to him.
It might be worth a try to write letters, might make you feel better. It always makes me feel like I'm talking to him... silly as that may seem.
DS2 8/21/12
DD 9/26/14
Baby #4 edd 2/11/19
I am sort of in your boat as well... Active Duty Navy hubby about to miss our baby being born as well...
We are military wives, we are strong, and handle more than others can imagine, we can get through this... I am sorry it so hard... I know the feeling!
We have spent 5 years on sea duty, and 5 years trying to get pregnant, and now that its happened, he may miss the birth of his son... But I keep emailing him, and keep telling him how things go, and I hope he gets my emails, cause i dont any of his back... Thats the worst part, not knowing if he is even receiving...
We can do this girl! Stay strong! And PM me if you want to chat ever!
Good Luck! and congrats on your baby!
Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses....
All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!
Baby Dust To All!!!
Thank you for the encouragement, everyone! I am going to try writing him letters, even if there is not a good chance he'll even get them (long story about the deployment itself, and I don't want to violate OPSEC rules). That seems like a good therapeutic idea. I'll keep trying to send emails and hope something goes through, but sadly they have all been kicked back to me over the last few days. I can always hope something goes through, right? I just hope the email situation is an IT problem and not related to their work.
I will definitely be contacting the Red Cross when our little lady is born. That is probably the only way to get the information to him. For those of you who know what family grams are, we are unable to use them at the moment because of a personnel problem. Can you even imagine?
I hate to sound whiny and weak. I really am not that kind of lady. This is all just happening at a less than ideal time, and hormones are certainly not helping.
Your encouraging words have given me a good boost to start the day. ::hugs:: to everyone out there.
I frickin' love this board.
You're not whiny and weak. You love your husband, that is all.
It's been 3 months since DH deployed and I still cry all the time.