Sharing Name

Raeily · July 2012

When do you plan on sharing your baby's name with everyone?

Originally, I thought we were going to share the name as soon as we knew the gender, but Hubby just told me he wants to keep it a secret until baby is born in case we change our minds.

I'm nervous about this thought, at least if it's a girl, because we've found a name we're both really, really in love with. I have so many friends and acquaintances that are also pregnant and given my luck I wouldn't put it out of the realm of possibility that one of them might happen to pick the name. I kinda wanna lay claim on the name as soon as possible. lol I know that there is no reason to believe that someone else might want or choose this name but I have bad luck and don't want to take a chance. lol

So, what's your plan? And do you think I'm crazy and should just relax?

JennV514 · July 2012

We don't name until after we see the baby, so, then.

You can't really "lay claim" on a name, so I would chill on that. But, if you are excited and want to share- go for it. Just be prepared to hear opinions.

pistolpackinmomma · July 2012

Just because you say you're going to use aa name doesn't mean nobody else can use it. In fact you may draw attention to a name they hadn't thought of before.

Raeily · July 2012

I know I can't "lay a claim" on a name.

But if I see that a friend of mine chose the name I was thinking about or even had my heart set on I would change it. It wouldn't bother me if they choose the name after we announce it. I'm not trying to be b*tchy.

I know that people will have opinions and I really don't care about that. A friend asked me about the boy names we were thinking about and she kinda tore through those and it didn't change my opinion one bit.

I just wanted to know when you guys were planning on announcing.

ungraceful13 · July 2012

If someone else chooses your name it isn't the end of the world. You both can still name your child whatever you would like.

I think we are going to wait and tell after we give birth. Since we are finding out the sex I would like something to be a surprise for our families.

bundymommy · July 2012

We won't until after the baby is born. We did the same thing with our first. It's just a personal choice we make, mostly because we don't want to hear other people's opinions on our name choices. (Although the name Natalie is very normal, if you ask me...)

Also, we think it adds to the excitement. We're even team green. Smile

But, if you want to share, by all means go ahead and do it! Another possibility is to wait and see what you are having. If you're having a boy, then you don't even need to worry about a girl's name right now.

karen_loy · July 2012

We'll probably share it when we figure it out! Hopefully when we have our a/s on sept 5th we'll already have chosen the name

With DS was easier and by 10-12 weeks we had already chosen a boy and a girl name, so as soon as we found out it was a boy everyone started calling him by his name

jenn248 · July 2012

Once we make a final decision on names, we'll probably tell people. Our top choices are both family names, so I wouldn't want anyone to have hurt feelings if we end up changing our minds.

Kie310 · July 2012

Not until they are born. We honestly didn't name our son until after we met him. We went into the hospital with top 3 boy names & picked one when we met him. The plan is basically the same this time. Even if we only have 1 name we like I will keep it to us until after we meet LO & I know it fits.

Raeily · July 2012

I completely understand the desire to wait until after you actually get to meet your baby to make the choice.

I kinda want to be able to talk to my baby with their name while he or she is still in my belly. lol I like the idea of everyone being able to call him or her by name. We'll see...

Allison546 · July 2012

Not until after the baby is born either. We probably won't have a final decision made by then anyway. When people ask me I throw out several names of each sex that we like, but I don't really tell which ones are the frontrunners. We're team green, so obviously I like the surprise element, but that's our preference.

LoriLue31 · July 2012

We've already shared our names. My girl name has been something I've always had my heart set on and our boy name we've had for awhile as well. If we decided to change the name, we still reserve that right, even though we've told people- which I'm almost 99.9% sure we won't.

jessicabalthis · July 2012

We told everyone once we picked it after we saw her on the ultrasound.

thesarahg · July 2012

We aren't finding out the sex and we aren't sharing any potential names until after the kid is here and named. With one exception... I have been bouncing names off of a very close friend who I know will keep my secret, because my husband has been coming up with some bizarre choices and I need to ask someone if they were just too weird for use.

brianabrad · July 2012

JennV514:
We don't name until after we see the baby, so, then.
You can't really "lay claim" on a name, so I would chill on that. But, if you are excited and want to share- go for it. Just be prepared to hear opinions.

This! My BFF never shared the name until after LO was born and it always bothered me because I wanted to know but now that I'm pregnant I get it! We won't be sharing the name until after LO is born because I don't want to hear the opinions. Naming is up to DH and I and I don't want to be swayed by family or friends. MIL and my mom weren't very happy about it but they will deal.

tailanis · July 2012

We are not sharing the name until we meet our baby? Mainly because we received way too many unwanted opinions with our DS name. I do however understand what you mean about "claim" No one really owns the name but you don't want to have 2 or 3 of your friends choosing the name you have in mind before you bring it out and this is understandable. (is all about dibs lol!)

You must do what works for you, if it bothers you too much just speak to your DH about it and hopefully he will change his mind.

simplein06 · July 2012

We will not reveal the name until the baby is born. There are way too many opinions that we just don't want to deal with. I personally do not see any benefit in telling people the name ahead of time. If DH and I like the name I really don't care what others think and don't need to know if they don't like it.

You cannot lay claim on a name. If someone else wants to use it is their right to do so even if you want it. I think you are setting yourself up for unnecessary drama.

My best friend has 2 boys. We are considering both of their first names as names for our baby. I don't see what the big deal is.

pghctwife · July 2012

we are mostly not sharing (and are also team green). DH really wanted/wants to keep names private because he doesnt want to hear comments etc. Personally, I would be happy to share them but it is more important to him than to me. That said, my mom and sisters did know our names for Henry (before I knew how DH felt, though, oops). Ive done a few boy name polls on my local with the few names currently on the table but wont share the final choice. Our girls name is set - same one we had picked out had Henry been a girl.

mrsodonnell12 · July 2012

We will be calling baby by name as soon as we know the gender.

Raeily · July 2012

simplein06:
We will not reveal the name until the baby is born. There are way too many opinions that we just don't want to deal with. I personally do not see any benefit in telling people the name ahead of time. If DH and I like the name I really don't care what others think and don't need to know if they don't like it.

You cannot lay claim on a name. If someone else wants to use it is their right to do so even if you want it. I think you are setting yourself up for unnecessary drama.

My best friend has 2 boys. We are considering both of their first names as names for our baby. I don't see what the big deal is.

I'm not expecting to "lay claim" to a name. If I wanted a complete unique name I'd make up some ridiculous name with some off-the-wall spelling. My personality however would not allow myself to use a name that a friend used even if it was one I had my heart set on, especially if they had their baby around the same time as me. I think it's awkward.

I'm not setting myself up for unnecessary drama. I wouldn't even mention it to a friend I would just feel a little sad and pick a new name. I just don't want to do that.

this decaf life · July 2012

If it's a girl we'll tell right away we both love the name and it took forever to decide and we need to commit (I'm incredibly indecisive)

Ithink we're set for the boy name but I might not share as quickly because I still don't know if it's "the" name.

dulcemariamar1 · July 2012

this decaf life:

If it's a girl we'll tell right away we both love the name and it took forever to decide and we need to commit (I'm incredibly indecisive)

Ithink we're set for the boy name but I might not share as quickly because I still don't know if it's "the" name.

This. We have a name for a girl but we are still deciding between two names if it is a boy. My parents know the names and we will probably tell other people once we find out the sex of the baby because we are not going to use Spanish names and they some members of my DH's family will probably need to prepare for it.

runlong3 · July 2012

brianabrad:

This! My BFF never shared the name until after LO was born and it always bothered me because I wanted to know but now that I'm pregnant I get it! We won't be sharing the name until after LO is born because I don't want to hear the opinions. Naming is up to DH and I and I don't want to be swayed by family or friends. MIL and my mom weren't very happy about it but they will deal.

All this.

BLPL101 · July 2012

DH and I talked a lot about baby names before we were pregnant, but since we've become pregnant, we haven't discussed it at all. He wants to wait to find out the sex before we talk about names which is annoying, but whatever. Once we find out the sex and settle on a name, I will tell people.

mamak0328 · July 2012

We haven't decided yet. DH and I can't agree on anything so we may not tell people because we are not sure ourselves.

I understand where you are coming from though. I wouldn't worry about it until you know the sex. Right now it is "what if".

LovelyLou23 · July 2012

We won't be sharing until the baby is born, which is what we did with DD. Our main reason was that I didn't want anyone's opinions. For some reason, people feel a lot more free to comment when the baby is unborn, than if the child is right in front of them. Plus, it was kind of fun to keep a little secret between just me and DH.

RachelG1016 · July 2012

We had a girl name picked out before I found out I was pregnant. DH has always loved the name Zoey and even before we met wanted to name his future daughter that.

I happen to love the name too and was fine with it.

DH picked the boy name too. Henry.

I picked the middle names. We are both happy with them and everyone knows the names we picked out and everyone likes them.

Right now until we find out the sex DH put Zoey and Henry together and we are calling the baby Zenry. Once we know if it's a boy or girl we will start using the name we have picked.

qteepie42899 · July 2012

We don't share at all until baby is born. With DS we were team green and went to the hospital with 2 boy names and 2 girl names. Decision was made after he was born. We didn't even share the name until family arrived....just that it was a boy. With DD we knew she was a girl and DS actually picked the name! It was sort of on accident and with the speech issues he had no one figured it out. LOL. This time around we are team green again and will go just like before 2 of each and make the call when LO arrives. I have a big fear of telling the name and then hearing it ALL the time. I don't like to name my babies with the most popular names on the list, but also don't pick funky names either. I also don't want to hear all the opinions on this name and that name and what sounds better etc. Do what feels right for you.

+lisamarie+ · July 2012

Opinions can be a very bad thing if you choose to share your name. My DD has a different name than I originally wanted because of opinions. I still love the other name and will be using this time if this one is a girl regardless of what people think. We are team green and have our names already picked out, but wont be sharing them with the masses!!

sesigs · July 2012

We already have our names chosen and our immediate family knows them. Once we know the sex we will probably tell more people.

MrsRiceARoni · July 2012

Last time around we had one name of each picked out before our a/s so as soon as we found out we were having a boy we bagan referring to him as "Noah". This time around we're having a hard time deciding on names so I'm hoping we will narrow it down shortly after our a/s and will refer to him/her by names once we chose one.

rachnmcd · July 2012

We will not be sharing any names because I don't want opinions. We've gone through enough drama just naming pets with my parent's input that I have already learned it would be a drastic mistake to discuss baby names. My husband's been busy so we haven't talked about it much and decided to put it off until when we know the sex...on one hand, I'm anxious to discuss, on the other hand, the longer we go without talking about it, the shorter I have to keep it a secret

As for the OP's concern, I get the laying claim thing because I am super sensitive about naming overlap w/other close friends/family...I think it's awkward. At the same time, I think if multiple people are pregnant at the same time and not sharing names and you both choose the same name, it would be silly to get upset. If I were in the OP's shoes I might see if any closer friends wanted to share first names and ask them to keep it a secret and keep it loose (ie "we're thinking about x, y, or z" even if you are settled on x) and then not share with anyone else. If you don't give a final name, it will be harder for them to spill the beans to anyone else and then you can be confident about possible overlap, but still get to keep the full first + middle name a surprise for the most part. I wouldn't worry at all about "acquaintances" as I don't see a reason to worry about people you don't know that well or talk to that often.

TofuMama7 · July 2012

Last time we announced the name when we found out we were having a boy. We got SO many opinions and suggestions that this time around we will announce after the baby is born (so people don't think they can get us to change our minds).

Also, the plan this time is to go to the hospital with 3-5 names and choose once we've met the baby, but we'll see if we make it!

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