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How do you tell extended family?

JACKIE_RS88JACKIE_RS88 member
in February 2013 Moms
We've both told our immediate families and asked they keep it within us until 12 weeks...early August.  But then what happens - do we just blurt it out to everyone we see?  Do we wait for it to come up in conversation?  We won't post anything related until 20 weeks....so in the interim how did you tell extended family?
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Re: How do you tell extended family?

  • bar italiabar italia member

    didn't get a chance to tell them ourselves. my MIL has a big mouth.  :|

     

    (even after making her PROMISE not to tell anybody, she blabbed when we were only like 9 weeks along. we are still pissed.) 

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  • paceyjoepaceyjoe member
    We have a family reunion this Sunday so we're going to tell them then. I'm also going to stop at my grandma's to tell her in person. Other than that, we're having our parents tell whoever they want to. If they don't hear by next Wednesday, it'll be out on facebook!
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  • phdwyfe2013phdwyfe2013 member

    I plan on calling all the aunts/uncles with the news. One of my aunt/uncle have lent us their futon so we can have guests over. I think I'll tell them the news by telling them we need to arrange to give back their futon because...we have to get a crib! 

    This LO is due around my two bff's birthday's, my bil's birthday and my cousins birthday so I think we'll tell them they have early birthday presents.  

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  • krissywavekrissywave member
    Last time we just asked that they not say anything until we got all the main people told.  After that it was fair game.
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  • bambee786bambee786 member

    Lol, well I'm not 12 weeks yet (almost there - 5 more days!) and I wanted to wait till I was 12 weeks to tell extended family...

     But for many reasons words already out! lol.  I was starting to show, so people started talking and I think a couple of immediate family members told a person each..and well it just spread like fire from there.

    I was super upset at first, because people found out so early and Ive been so nervous about everythign being safe... but then I realized good news travels fast, and all those people are happy for me and now praying for me as well.  The more prayers the better.

     So, I had my mom call her siblings (I was there with her for most of the calls) and my MIL call hers.

     My in laws family is huge, and often communicate via group emails.  So were also asking my husbands older brother and SIL to write an email 'officially' sharing our news with everyone (even though they already know!) . We'll include our due date, date we knew, favorite nicknames for baby, how we felt, and pictures of the sonogram and baby bump in the email.

     I dont think I'll make it facebook official untill after my N/T test (Aug 6).  But my husband couldnt wait and already tipped people off by  putting his status as "2 is now 3"

    !!! sigh :)

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  • kbell00kbell00

    I told my parents it was up to them who they wanted to tell after I finished the first trimester. I'm responsible for calling both my grandmothers before we put anything up on FB. I'm hoping my parents will let their siblings know, because I'm sure some of them would be offended if they saw it on FB first; so I'll probably check in with both of them first, to make sure every that needs to know, knows.

    With DH's family, once we told the immediate family, the whole family knew pretty fast so I didn't really have to worry about it.

    With DS it was soooo much simpler, because I started the 2nd trimester around Christmas time so there was no shortage of extended family gatherings at which to share the news.

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  • NechamaChayimNechamaChayim

    imageJACKIE_RS88:
    so in the interim how did you tell extended family?

    All I have to do is tell my sister and that takes care of everyone on my dad's side. She'll let the entire world know. On my mothers side I have one aunt who will also declare it unto the nations. On my husband's side...I don't know. I think his mom and dad will take care of it. They will be super excited since it'll be their first grandchild.

     

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  • meggipi5meggipi5 member
    Our plan is to call grandparents to tell them personally, then let our parents contact their siblings to spread the word. We are trying to stay facebook quiet for now, so they will have to help spread that word. I'm not ready for people to accidentally find out through facebook who should hear it from me (church family, boss, etc). 
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