Telling older kids: when will/did you?

InspectorSpacetime · July 2012

DS is 7 and has been asking (on and off) for a sibling for years. We're not planning on 'telling' him until after the CVS, but I'm curious how you broke the news (or are planning on doing so) for your older kids - just tell them at bedtime? During the commute to camp/work? Go out for dinner?

I'd be curious to know whether you made it something of a special occasion or just mentioned it in passing - presuming, of course, your older kids were old enough to understand things.

TigerlilyBaby2013 · July 2012

My step son is 8 and a half, and is the only child on both sides. He has also been asking for a sibling on and off for years!! DH and I are SO excited to tell him, and we plan on doing so after our appt tomorrow if everything is looking good. I would love to wait a few more weeks, however it's hard always explaining that I'm tired, not feeling well, and most recently since I'm starting to look different we are afraid he is going to catch on!

So this is what we are going to do: we bought him a t-shirt that says "Big Brother", and will give him a gift bag with the t-shirt inside. We think he'll be a little confused (we usually say our dog is his "little brother"), so next DH will reveal a shirt that says "Dad of 2", and lastly I will reveal a t-shirt that says "Baby" with an arrow pointing to my belly!! I have been looking forward to this for SO long, so I'm really praying for a great appointment tomorrow so we can finally share the amazing news with him!!

tabby0521 · July 2012

We told DD right away. I wanted to practice with her so she could make the big announcement to family. She did a great job... except she kept telling everyone I had a brother AND sister in there. lol

jenlb03 · July 2012

My kids ended up finding out earlier than I planned. The 7 year old apparently told the 5 year old I was getting "chubby" and might have a baby in there so he asked me!

southrnbellmeg7 · July 2012

DS (5) found out at our 6wk u/s, I'm a SAHM & I've had really bad m/s so it will be really hard to fool him otherwise.

FutureMrsDrew73110 · July 2012

We told my 3 skids (ages 8,7 &6) after my u/s at the end of June. I was just about 6 weeks (give or take depending on this ever moving EDD). They have been asking me to have a baby for more than 2 years now and we kept telling them after we get married, then after I graduate college. Well once all that passed and I wasn't pregnant they began asking questions. When we finally did tell them I did it like a poll. "When Step-Mama has a baby raise your hand if you want it to be a girl, raise your hand if you want it to be a boy" then I told them we'd find out in February. They were a little confused until my SD7 said, are we having a baby? She is the most thrilled and her new baby sister (as everyone and their brother has deemed the baby a girl) is everything she talks about. How they're going to share a room, and she wants to go shopping and buy things etc. The boys on the other hand aren't so thrilled. The oldest even keeps saying I wish there were no more babies (their mom is also pregnant, with a boy, and they have a 3 year old sister from her)

penguingrrl · July 2012

We haven't told them yet, but plan to soon. We're not sure when exactly yet, but most people in our lives know so we want to tell them before someone else does. DH is finishing writing his dissertation this week and handing it in on Friday, so he asked that we wait until after that. We'll probably just tell them at dinner one night, not planning something specifically special.

buggirl72 · July 2012

My DH told his son immediately - like when I was 5w and had not seen the doctor yet. I was not pleased. My DH was/is super excited and it was important to tell his son but I wanted to wait until we were further along (at least after my 8w appointment). My SS is 14 and HFA. Not to be harsh, but he does not have really any sensitivity towards the feelings of others. If this pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, I could fully expect SS to randomly bring it up for the next several years. Also, SS immediately told his mom. Personally, I did not feel like the ex had any business knowing this prior to the rest of the world.

KD79 · July 2012

We told my boys when I was about 8 weeks along. We didn't do anything creative, just told them that they were going to have a little brother or sister. My almost 8 year old could have cared less (though he shows his excitement in brief moments here and there...everything has to be on his time table), and my 4.5 year old was ecstatic. Though, now the 4.5 year old doesn't want to tell anyone or show them u/s pictures, which I find a bit odd.

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