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anyone else prego & live far from family?
So I'm in Colorado and my (and DH) entire family lives in Pa (DH's job relocated us)
and I'm not really worried but curious, if they want to throw me a baby shower would I then fly back to Pa for it or how would that work? If you live far from your family and had this issue what did you do? I don't even know if I should register or not. I wouldn't expect everyone to come to me.....
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Re: anyone else prego & live far from family?
I live about 800 miles from home. I'm not having a shower close to where many of my family or friends live; however, I have registered at stores close by them. Surprisely, many have asked how could they get me a gift.
I say register and if someone is willing to throw you one at home and you can go, do it. Just make sure it's within the time you can still travel comfortably.
Yes. I'm from PA but live in TN. Personally , the idea of traveling for a shower was overwhelming so I declined offers. Just wait and see if anyone offers to throw one.
Yes to registering. People will get you gifts regardless. Plus, you'll want the completion coupon.
Yes, if yhou wanted a shower, you'd fly home for it. The guests will hopefully take into account that you have to travel and will buy you small stuff. Or you can ship it. Or you can return it in PA and rebuy at home.
If you don't want to do this, then you can decline. Please do NOT do a "virtual shower".
Register anyhow. Registries aren't for showers only
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I am originally from MI, but I live in TN now. My stepmom and mother-in-law are throwing me a shower this weekend which we are driving back for. For us, it is cheaper to rent a car and drive (we never take our own trucks on road trips). That way we can bring back anything big and we can also take one of our dogs with us instead of having to spend money on boarding her. We have a friend watching our other dog who doesn't travel so well.
I was hesitant to have a shower myself because I didn't know if we could afford the trip since I am on unemployment at the moment. I decided it would be a good time to head home for a few days and see family and we figured out how to do it on a budget so it works for us.
I'm travelling to where my family lives five months after the baby arrives. They wanted me to come out before the baby for a shower. But, I would have had to take unpaid time off work, when I will not be working after the baby arrives-- and they would have shipped the present here anyway. Plus, everyone really just wants to hold the baby. So it works out.
They all pitched in and sent a large gift ahead of time, I'll probably get a couple little (easy to pack) gifts while I'm there.
It was incredibly difficult to convince my family of pushy women this, but I convinced them this was best for everyone. I was so worried about looking ungrateful of their offer.
I'm confused - is this a rule? All of my friends have had bridal and baby showers where they currently live, not where their mom/sister/family are. My sister and I both had our bridal showers where we each lived (across the country from each other, we each threw the shower for the other). I've never heard that you should go to them, for one thing then all your local friends would need to travel or you'd need to accept a shower for every primary "area" of the country you have family?
Not saying I don't get the purpose, I just don't know I've ever heard of any of my friends or female relatives flying back to their hometown or something for the baby shower, I've always gone to where the mother-to-be lives and a friend or relative is hosting in her city. For me our family is scattered, I have friends all over the country, the one "main" place people would be coming from would be where I live, almost everyone else would have to travel no matter where it was. So even if that's really far from my mom (who is throwing mine), is the official etiquette that I would go to her? Going to her never even came up as an option when we discussed, I never even considered it until the OP asked.
Prego = pasta sauce
Pregnant = with child
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
We're in a similar boat -- family is a 14-hour drive or a flight away... and I don't feel comfortable traveling too far into pregnancy (can you imagine all the bathroom breaks for a road trip?!). So, we're taking up baby shower offers back home in the form of a meet-the-baby party.
We're due in November and planning to make the trek in February once we're a bit more acclimated to things. I'm sure hopping on a plane with a 3-4 month-old is no picnic, but it beats traveling while pregnant -- plus this way people who might otherwise not get to meet the baby get to do so.
My sister moved to PA and we are all in CA. She wasn't doing anything and I felt so bad. She didn't want to make the long flight so I decided to throw her a card shower. I asked her to go register and made sure she was comfortable with the "invites" I sent out.
They read:
Please join us in a card shower honoring My sister and her husband.
Since we can't have a proper shower, we wanted to do something special by throwing them a card shower. Please send them a card with your well wishes for their new baby set to arrive in April!
Address, "Host" me and my # for questions. Then I put (in small print at my sisters request) If you would like to send them a gift, they are registered at ___.
I got quite a few phone calls saying we are so glad you did this! We didn't know what to do and wanted to get them something. Thank you!
They mostly got gift cards, so they could get what they needed most. Worked out good and did not seem tacky at all. We only sent to people we knew would want to be involved.
Preggers, is that better? don't mock my word choice. I chose it for a reason. It is something my sister and I used during all three of her pregnancies. If you don't like it then don't post under my Prego post.