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Advice needed re: SIL

geekychicgeekychic
in April 2012 Moms

So, my SIL had a baby about 3-4 weeks ago.  (DD has a little girl cousin 2 months younger, which is awesome!).  She has a 2 year old boy as well.

I saw SIL on Sunday.  She looked like h-e-double hockey sticks.  It looked like she hadn't slept (like at all, ever).  She looked really skinny (aside from the i-just-had-a-baby pooch).  She didn't eat anything at dinner (she is BFing).  I am concerned.

I want to go help out, but I am not sure how.  I want to bring her a food and watch the baby while she takes a nap, but I don't think she will eat anything I bring and she won't let anyone hold the baby.

I am going to stop by today and hang out with my nephew a bit to keep him out of her hair. I am also going to bring her a fruit tart from the bakery.  Can you think of anything else I can do to help?

 

ETA:  When I say she hasn't slept, I mean not even getting the little sleep you get with a newborn.

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Re: Advice needed re: SIL

  • chelle7707chelle7707
    I would normally say take a dinner but if shes not eating.......maybe thorw in a load of laundry or clean something for her?? Good luck.....make her take a nap!
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  • ButterbrotButterbrot
    do you think she'd drink a smoothie? I know that I seriously would forget to eat when DD was born, but I'm always up for something I don't have to chew (oh yeah ... I'm THAT lazy). You could bring over fruit, greek yogurt, maybe a little oatmeal and blend it up for her with some water or milk mixed in.
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  • ToraniTorani member
    Does she have a favorite food that you know she would eat? Maybe bring by some healthy snacks that don't take much prep. Wrangling the toddler will be helpful if she won't put the baby down. Also some household chores like cleaning the kitchen or laundry. 
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  • metuckermetucker member

    It sounds like she may be depressed. Maybe you could talk to her? She might need more than just food.  

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  • LaouliLaouli
    Heck ya to smoothies! ;)
    I agree.. maybe taking the 2 yo out for a bit.. or helping with some laundry and force her to take a nap!!!
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  • geekychicgeekychic
    imagemetucker:

    It sounds like she may be depressed. Maybe you could talk to her? She might need more than just food.  

    Thanks for the advice.  I was thinking this, too.  I haven't found the tactful way of saying 'Hey! You got the PPD?'.  I plan on talking to her a little more this afternoon. 

    I am running some errands for her. My nephew is at daycare.  I wish I could help more but I usually work during the day.  Baby is giving her a rough time.  And it looks like baby has a dairy intolerance too. 

     

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