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October 2012 Moms
I'm already dreading coming back to work...
...and I'm still 3 months away from my due date!?!?! This is NOT GOOD. It's not that I mind my job, it's more so I already know I'm not going to want to leave my little guy.
I'm dreading leaving him full time.
I'm dreading feeling tired.
I'm dreading feeling like half my paychecks (literally) are going to go to daycare & the rest to health insurance. I'm LITERALLY working for these 2 things, and that's about it.
ST(working)M's...how did you cope?!?!?! I feel like I stress about these things daily, already, they are all I can think about. I cried for 3 hours the other night because of them. 
Damn Hormones.
?Married 11-1-08 ~ dxPCOS 9-1-11 ~ BFP 2-14-12 ~ T.J. born 11-1-12?
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Re: I'm already dreading coming back to work...
"Hate is baggage. Life's too short to be pissed off all the time. It's just not worth it."
Well, it's really tough being a working mom, not gonna lie! If all of your paycheck is going towards health insurance and daycare, is there any way to get onto your H's insurance and stay at home for longer? If you want to work that is one thing, and I fully support that, but if you are dreading it, maybe some other arrangement can be made.
I know that I have our health insurance and between that and the fact that we actually get free childcare from my Mom and MIL, it is important for me to be back at work so we can save for college/not be struggling to make ends meet.
But if you do decide to go back to work still, just know that it gets much easier the older they get. A lot of kids love daycare and learn so much there. And working is important for you too. I actually came to view my time working as almost a "break," because it was a time to be myself and not be complete wrapped up in baby things. I really like my job as a teacher though, so I don't know if you are in the same situation. At any rate, good luck with whatever situation you wind up in! Lots of moms do it...you'll be ok!
ETA: As for the tired thing, you get used to it. I literally cannot even sleep until noon anymore. It just becomes wired in your brain to work on less sleep!
Do you have to go back to work? If you can't get insurance from DH/SO then yes, I guess you must. If not, consider the true cost of working. Not just daycare, but other things like extra gas for your car, eating out for lunch, and wardrobe costs.
If you have family who can help, consider going back only part-time if that's an option. I'm considering doing a job-share w/ a coworker who just had a baby. Not always an option, but you never know.
I don't think NOT coming back to work FT is going to be an option for us. Not this time around. We don't have any family close by- so we have to pay for daycare. I think maybe once we decide to have another LO, I'm going to be more organized and prepared and MAYBE try to be a SAH when/if we have a 2nd child.... Cause I really don't know how I'm going to do this!