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Inviting co-workers

teresamartini11teresamartini11
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So my sister is throwing me a baby shower. At first I was thinking of having it just family members and close friends. Now I am started to think that some of my co-workers would be offended if they weren't invited (some have made comments about giving me gifts or wondering if/when I am having a shower). My problem is I don't know how I should decide who to invite. Some people at work I am close to others I barely know because they work different shifts. I don't want to offend people by not inviting them if they would have wanted to come, but I also don't want to invite people who feel they barely know me and have them feel obligated to come. I don't have a specific department I could narrow it down to either. I also don't have anyone addresses so it will be difficult to try and find everyone's address. 

 Should I just not invite anyone from work?

Or should I only invite a few that I am sure would want to come and mail them invites and risk offending others?

In the past other co-workers have either put up a flyer or laid out invites on the table in the break room. I like this because it opens it up to anyone who wants to come, but people don't feel as obligated as if they got a personal invite. Is this extremely tacky? (the host says she can be pretty flexible with numbers so if a lot showed up or a few showed up it would be ok)

I am friends with most of them on facebook. Would a facebook invite be more or less tacky then the breakroom thing?

 If any of you have other ideas that would be great to.

 

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Either invite none or invite those that you really do consider friends.  TRUST ME, most of your CW's really don't care that much.  And I'd be rolling my eyes HEAVILY at someone who invited me who barely knew me all so that she didn't "offfend" me.  Offend me?  WHy care when you hardly even KNOW me????

    Breakroom or FB invite is tacky no matter how you roll it.  So what that others have done that?  Don't do it.

    If you decide to invite none or stick to just the ones you really consider friends, just say "Oh, we're having a small shower, but thanks for asking" w/ a smile and then change the topic.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    To add- you have to remember that you having a baby is a PERSONAL event in your life.  It's not a work event.  Two different parts of your life.
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  • tiffmatttiffmatt member
    I think it would depend on your relationship with your coworkers.  I have 16 ladies at work on my team in three different areas.  I am close with women in all three areas and friendly with the others.  We all do team gatherings and meetings so I interact with all of them from time to time.  Since I know there are people in all three areas who I truly want to invite I am inviting all 16.  I will deliver the invites to their work mailboxes, but I won't hype things up at all in the event some prefer not to come.  I would feel weird in inviting some and not others, but again, I am at least friendly with each and everyone of them, even if we do not visit regularly.
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  • jnjmommy0609jnjmommy0609
    The breakroom idea is tacky and gift grabby. Don't do it. My suggestion is either invite the ones you are close with or none at all.
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  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    To add- you have to remember that you having a baby is a PERSONAL event in your life.  It's not a work event.  Two different parts of your life.

    This is a really good way of thinking about it.

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  • christieepchristieep member
    imageEastCoastBride:

    Either invite none or invite those that you really do consider friends. 

    This is a good guideline.  It might be hard to decide where to draw the line, but there are people you see and talk to everyday and those you don't.  If anyone not invited really wants to give you a gift they will still get it to you and the chances of someone being offended by being left out is small. 

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  • Snebel84Snebel84
    I am in the same boat and basically I just decided to invite those I am closest with. You cant please everyone and its not about pleasing everyone, its about doing what your most comfortable with.
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  • SoEnamoredSoEnamored member

    I figured that if I hadn't otherwise hung out with them outside of work then I wouldn't invite them to my shower.  Maybe they'll throw you a work shower and that'll be a good way to celebrate with them.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    imageSoEnamored:

    I figured that if I hadn't otherwise hung out with them outside of work then I wouldn't invite them to my shower.  Maybe they'll throw you a work shower and that'll be a good way to celebrate with them.

    This.

    I have actually worked at a place where the women would put out an invite (that basically invited all the women) to their shower in the breakroom.  Those that knew the woman would go (or not) and those that didn't know the woman would ignore the invite.  Maybe it was tacky...although no one ever said so that I heard...but it definitely solved the problem.  No one was made to feel bad for not attending the shower.

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