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Overwhelmed!

steph8289steph8289 member
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My best friend and My cousin are throwing my baby shower. I know my cousin throws awesome parties, but she keeps calling me and venting about the party planning cause my best friend doesn't have a lot of money with being a single mother!

She called me today to ask me if she thinks we should have the shower in her basement or rent a place...I am just not sure what to tell her because I have NO clue on how many people are going to show up! I can take a guess and I have given her my guess on how many people! I am not worried about the fun of the party just tired of getting called about do you want this or that...and then when I do give her advice or tell her I can help with something like making phone calls she turns down my help. My best friend has also told me that she is trying to take some of the work load off of my cousin and she just keeps saying she will do everything but then turns around and tells me she doesn't wanna be up all day making phone calls (she works 3rd shift) but yet she won't let anyone else help!

I have offered my help, Both my mother and mil and best friend have all offered to help with things and it's like we are talking to a brick wall and I just don't know what else to do...anyone else have something like this happen to them? What do I do. I dont want to hurt her feelings and I dont want her to get mad at me over something so little, but she gets angry and stressed easily with her job and other issues!!!

UGH HELP!

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Re: Overwhelmed!

  • dufferoodufferoo member

    I always tell people the best thing to do is just stay out of the planning of your own baby shower to avoid getting involved in stress and drama, but it sounds like you are trying to, and they just keep trying to suck you in anyways. I'm sorry, that really does sound frustrating! I guess the only advice I have to you would be to maybe say to your cousin or friend the next time they start venting, "I'm so excited you are planning this shower but I feel so uncomfortable getting put in the middle of you guys. Is there any way I could just stay out of it?" Easier said than done, I know. Good luck.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    If she doesn't take your suggestions then stop making them.  Sounds like she is just venting and maybe she thinks you are the only one that "understands".  Just let her vent...it will make her feel better.  Obviously she doesn't think your friend will do as good of job as she herself can do...but she herself doesn't really have the time for it.  Just ask your friend to be there - in the end.  That is when she will need the most help - physical help.
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