XP: Choosing one nanny over another

gymnst1013 · July 2012

We are in the market for a new nanny and have it narrowed down to 2. Both equally qualified, same pay, etc. We have chosen one of them but what would you tell the other as for why you are not choosing her? Or would you just say "we went with someone else"? For some reason I feel like I need to include an explanation.

DreamChaser246 · July 2012

Was there a reason? Like a qualification or something she can fix, or did you just mesh better with the other person?

If there was something that the other person had that made you hire them, I would maybe mention it, so that she knows and can improve. If it was just a "feeling" I would just keep it simple and say that you found someone else.

I'm a total coward when it comes to these things though. I feel so bad letting someone down, so I have a hard time saying why. I guess if it were me and there was something not on my resume that I could add, I would want to know.

justme04 · July 2012

I know. Why don't you send your second choice to me! I'm in Pittsburgh too and I'm looking for a nanny. I've been schedualing interviews for a month and only one has shown up. Thats ridiculous!

The one who has shown up is really qualified and the boys like her. But I don't want to end up having a nanny by fault. I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Edt- And I'm not sure I feel completly comfortable in hiring the woman we have interviewed.

gymnst1013 · July 2012

DreamChaser246:
Was there a reason? Like a qualification or something she can fix, or did you just mesh better with the other person?

If there was something that the other person had that made you hire them, I would maybe mention it, so that she knows and can improve. If it was just a "feeling" I would just keep it simple and say that you found someone else.

I'm a total coward when it comes to these things though. I feel so bad letting someone down, so I have a hard time saying why. I guess if it were me and there was something not on my resume that I could add, I would want to know.

Nope there was really no reason other than we can't hire 2 And yeah, I'm the same way!

DreamChaser246 · July 2012

gymnst1013:
DreamChaser246:

Was there a reason? Like a qualification or something she can fix, or did you just mesh better with the other person?

If there was something that the other person had that made you hire them, I would maybe mention it, so that she knows and can improve. If it was just a "feeling" I would just keep it simple and say that you found someone else.

I'm a total coward when it comes to these things though. I feel so bad letting someone down, so I have a hard time saying why. I guess if it were me and there was something not on my resume that I could add, I would want to know.

Nope there was really no reason other than we can't hire 2 And yeah, I'm the same way!

Then I'd probably come up with some excuse as to why we don't need a nanny right now, just in case the other one doesn't work out, or down the road a year from now you want to be able to call her and see if she is still available. I'd rather leave the door open, if that makes sense.But I'm non-confrontational like that.

gymnst1013 · July 2012

justme04:
I know. Why don't you send your second choice to me! I'm in Pittsburgh too and I'm looking for a nanny. I've been schedualing interviews for a month and only one has shown up. Thats ridiculous!

The one who has shown up is really qualified and the boys like her. But I don't want to end up having a nanny by fault. I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Edt- And I'm not sure I feel completly comfortable in hiring the woman we have interviewed.

If it makes you feel better when we hired our current nanny, she was the only one we interviewed

Where in Pittsburgh do you live? And you're on care.com, right? I can probably put you in contact with our other choice. I'm just not sure how far she's willing to travel.

justme04 · July 2012

gymnst1013:
justme04:

I know. Why don't you send your second choice to me! I'm in Pittsburgh too and I'm looking for a nanny. I've been schedualing interviews for a month and only one has shown up. Thats ridiculous!

The one who has shown up is really qualified and the boys like her. But I don't want to end up having a nanny by fault. I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Edt- And I'm not sure I feel completly comfortable in hiring the woman we have interviewed.

If it makes you feel better when we hired our current nanny, she was the only one we interviewed

Where in Pittsburgh do you live? And you're on care.com, right? I can probably put you in contact with our other choice. I'm just not sure how far she's willing to travel.

We are in Forest Hills and I am on care.com. I've had 4 change their minds about interviewing because we were too far away. I was going to go with a daycare but I didn't like our local daycare choices at all.

kellymacc · July 2012

We're going to be doing the same thing very soon. I have interviews set up for this week. We already have a favorite but we haven't met any of them yet so that could change.

Is was there a reason? Or are you just more comfortable with one over the other? If it's a comfort thing maybe just say "Thank you so much for applying and coming to meet with us. We loved (fill in the blank) about you/your experience and enjoyed meeting you. We hired someone that we thought might be a little better fit for our family . . . There's probably a better way to put that but you get the idea I think.

This one is hard but I'm interested to see what everyone else says.

JuneBugsMommy · July 2012

The one time someone was chosen over me, I was given an explanation, the other nanny had a lot of dogs and the little 6 year old boy liked that :-/. I don't think you necessarily owe her an explanation but I think she deserves one so she's not left wondering. If you decide not to give her an explanation be prepared for her to ask why she wasn't chosen, I know I would!

amberpro · July 2012

I'd just say, thanks. we really appreciate your time and think you were a great interview, but we decided to go a different direction at this time and good luck! We'd love to keep your number in case we need your help in the future.

gymnst1013 · July 2012

justme04:
gymnst1013:
justme04:

I know. Why don't you send your second choice to me! I'm in Pittsburgh too and I'm looking for a nanny. I've been schedualing interviews for a month and only one has shown up. Thats ridiculous!

The one who has shown up is really qualified and the boys like her. But I don't want to end up having a nanny by fault. I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Edt- And I'm not sure I feel completly comfortable in hiring the woman we have interviewed.

If it makes you feel better when we hired our current nanny, she was the only one we interviewed

Where in Pittsburgh do you live? And you're on care.com, right? I can probably put you in contact with our other choice. I'm just not sure how far she's willing to travel.

We are in Forest Hills and I am on care.com. I've had 4 change their minds about interviewing because we were too far away. I was going to go with a daycare but I didn't like our local daycare choices at all.

I can ask her. She's in Robinson so it might be a bit far for her. Are you looking for full time or part time? She is looking for part time work.

justme04 · July 2012

gymnst1013:
justme04:
gymnst1013:
justme04:

I know. Why don't you send your second choice to me! I'm in Pittsburgh too and I'm looking for a nanny. I've been schedualing interviews for a month and only one has shown up. Thats ridiculous!

The one who has shown up is really qualified and the boys like her. But I don't want to end up having a nanny by fault. I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Edt- And I'm not sure I feel completly comfortable in hiring the woman we have interviewed.

If it makes you feel better when we hired our current nanny, she was the only one we interviewed

Where in Pittsburgh do you live? And you're on care.com, right? I can probably put you in contact with our other choice. I'm just not sure how far she's willing to travel.

We are in Forest Hills and I am on care.com. I've had 4 change their minds about interviewing because we were too far away. I was going to go with a daycare but I didn't like our local daycare choices at all.

I can ask her. She's in Robinson so it might be a bit far for her. Are you looking for full time or part time? She is looking for part time work.

Part time. I'm going back to school and I need someone to watch the boys while I'm in class. Robinson will probly be a bit far of a drive for her. I think we need to move! I can't wait till we are out of apartments and have a house. I am soo sick of renting.

simbaby · July 2012

amberpro:
I'd just say, thanks. we really appreciate your time and think you were a great interview, but we decided to go a different direction at this time and good luck! We'd love to keep your number in case we need your help in the future.

I'd go with this. I more matter of fact.

kimbo1216 · July 2012

DreamChaser246:
gymnst1013:
Nope there was really no reason other than we can't hire 2 And yeah, I'm the same way!

Then I'd probably come up with some excuse as to why we don't need a nanny right now, just in case the other one doesn't work out, or down the road a year from now you want to be able to call her and see if she is still available. I'd rather leave the door open, if that makes sense.But I'm non-confrontational like that.

Personally, I don't think you should make up an excuse. I'd just be truthful. Tell her you've decided to go with someone else but that you really appreciate her interviewing and thought she made a great candidate. I would take this approach because it's the truth, and most of the time, the honestly really is the best policy.

kellymacc · July 2012

amberpro:
I'd just say, thanks. we really appreciate your time and think you were a great interview, but we decided to go a different direction at this time and good luck! We'd love to keep your number in case we need your help in the future.

THIS!! It's what I was thinking but couldn't get out correctly . . .

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