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Anyone see this? Wait-it-out "sleep training"?

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  • cantalopes24cantalopes24 member
    Wow that article is dead on. How did she know I attribute malice to my baby crying and that I enjoy making them feel as if their crib is a miserable place I abandon them?
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  • AngLK987AngLK987 member
    I was just coming back in to post that :)
      
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  • christiney06christiney06 member

    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

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  • lkm2006lkm2006 member
    It's nice to be reminded that this is just a short, short time of their lives. It doesn't last forever!

     

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  • pearblossompearblossom

    This is a very sweet sentiment, but it would have been just as sweet if she had left out the judgey bits. It sounds smug. 

     

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  • jwls84jwls84 member
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    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    Maybe the point of posting it is so people realize that there are different methods of doing stuff and moms shouldn't be made to feel like a piece-of-*** when CIO isn't our first choice or didn't work for our "broken babies" 

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  • nicki731nicki731
    imagepearblossom:

    This is a very sweet sentiment, but it would have been just as sweet if she had left out the judgey bits. It sounds smug. 


     

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  • AngLK987AngLK987 member
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    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    I have used CIO and still though it was a good article. CIO doesn't work for every baby.

      
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  • sharksfansharksfan member
    imagepearblossom:

    This is a very sweet sentiment, but it would have been just as sweet if she had left out the judgey bits. It sounds smug. 

    This completely.  While I believe in sleep training, I also believe in different parenting styles and finding what works for you.  I don't like the way this article makes it sound like I don't love and comfort my child b/c I chose to sleep train him.

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  • Shannon526Shannon526 member
    I know we are beating a dead horse with all this sleep training business, but what mom doesn't like to read an article validating her parenting choices? It doesn't make it right or wrong, it's just her way of dealing with her baby. No need to get all stabby about it.
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  • christiney06christiney06 member

    imageShannon526:
    I know we are beating a dead horse with all this sleep training business, but what mom doesn't like to read an article validating her parenting choices? It doesn't make it right or wrong, it's just her way of dealing with her baby. No need to get all stabby about it.

    i'm not stabby at all...i just like a good debate :)

    you can probably find an article/blog post validating feeding your kid McDonalds every night.  she's not an expert, she's just a mom and she's judging CIO moms.  she also states things in there that are false, like a baby can't play you.  they most certainly can! they learn pretty early that crying =you coming in for a snuggle. so if some new mom reads this she might actually believe what she's spouting off and set her kid up for years of crappy sleep b/c of it.     

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  • cantalopes24cantalopes24 member
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    imagechristiney06:

    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    Maybe the point of posting it is so people realize that there are different methods of doing stuff and moms shouldn't be made to feel like a piece-of-*** when CIO isn't our first choice or didn't work for our "broken babies" 

    So it's ok to make judgey crappy comments about CIO but no one can comment at all on babies with sleep issues. Got it. 

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  • mrsgabusmrsgabus member
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    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    Maybe the point of posting it is so people realize that there are different methods of doing stuff and moms shouldn't be made to feel like a piece-of-*** when CIO isn't our first choice or didn't work for our "broken babies" 

    So it's ok to make judgey crappy comments about CIO but no one can comment at all on babies with sleep issues. Got it. 

    I dont think anyone should be making any comments on either parents decision on CIO but you see how well that usually goes. 


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  • Shannon526Shannon526 member

    imagemrsgabus:

    I dont think anyone should be making any comments on either parents decision on CIO but you see how well that usually goes. 

    Amen.

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  • soon2bjmnsoon2bjmn member
    I liked this. We used the ferber method but I was not offended by this at all. I'm always saying to brand new parents that sleep is not a competition and that the longer your baby sleeps the bigger he's getting and you won't have that little bitty baby anymore. I didn't hate not sleeping, that's more the feeling that I got from this blog. That it's not terrible, not a sacrifice and that she (like all of us) would do it all over again. 
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  • jwls84jwls84 member
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    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    Maybe the point of posting it is so people realize that there are different methods of doing stuff and moms shouldn't be made to feel like a piece-of-*** when CIO isn't our first choice or didn't work for our "broken babies" 

    So it's ok to make judgey crappy comments about CIO but no one can comment at all on babies with sleep issues. Got it. 

    I Never made a judgey comment, it is however nice to see an article about sleep training that happens to hit home for me instead of always hearing I am not doing my child right by teaching him self soothing skills. I personally think that was way more judgey then the actual article.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member

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    I don't like the way this article makes it sound like I don't love and comfort my child b/c I chose to sleep train him.

    Right.  I'm her mother, I know her cries and her fusses.  I can tell when she needs me for comfort and when she's trying to figure it out.  When she's trying to figure it out, I let her.  When she needs me for comfort, I go to her.

    I think mothers know when their baby needs them.  And responding to that need is natural and it's what most mothers do.  If you sleep train, it doesn't mean you never go in to comfort.  And if someone else's baby needs more comfort in the night than mine does, it's not because their baby is "spoiled" or because I'm withholding love.

    I sing her a song, I put her in her crib smiling, I leave, and she goes to sleep.  90% of the time, she doesn't make a peep after I leave.  If she didn't think her crib was a safe place, she wouldn't be doing this.  And anyone who knows this girl certainly knows I didn't "break her spirit."

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  • cantalopes24cantalopes24 member
    imagemrsgabus:
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    imagechristiney06:

    :::giant eye roll::::  

    I hate articles like this, i really do.  what is the point of posting this? to say "see, i'm not the only softie who can't stand to teach my child the important skill of self soothing!"?  we get it, there are lots of you.  

    Maybe the point of posting it is so people realize that there are different methods of doing stuff and moms shouldn't be made to feel like a piece-of-*** when CIO isn't our first choice or didn't work for our "broken babies" 

    So it's ok to make judgey crappy comments about CIO but no one can comment at all on babies with sleep issues. Got it. 

    I dont think anyone should be making any comments on either parents decision on CIO but you see how well that usually goes. 

    I've never personally said anything other than do what works for you. I just find it irritating that people get up in arms over people commenting on those who aren't sleep training but yet it's ok to link an article that basically calls CIO moms unfeeling biotches who abandon their babies in their cribs.
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  • iverske9iverske9 member

    I think to each your own...if you want to CIO go for it, if you don't then don't. I did the CIO (modified, not just letting him cry all night or anything) and within 3 days he was STTN. It worked for us, if you do not want to then don't...just do not complain about being tired if you think it is the right thing for your baby. 

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