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Oprah taught me

solsburyhillsolsburyhill member
in September 2011 Moms

So I listen to Oprah radio all the time now, maybe that should be my FFFC??

 

The other day, they were talking about facial expressions and the impact they can have on others.  They said when your loved ones walk into the room, your face should light up because you are happy to see them.  This blew my mind.  It's such a simple thing but it really is huge mentally.

I was talking to my cousin about it.  Both of us struggle in our relationships with our moms.  We love our moms, they are decent moms, but they are super hard on us and extremely judgemental.  We both said no, our moms faces do not light up when we walk into the room.  My mom ALWAYS eyes me up, she's worse than some pervert in a bar.  Head to toe back up to head, she gives a full inspection and I can just feel the judgement.  Her reaction to me is like the perfect symbol for our entire relationship.

Now my ILs on the other hand, whenever we see them we are greeted with big smiles and hello!!  Hi guys!!  Look who's here!!  It's so welcoming and pure, again, the perfect symbol for our relationship.  They never judge us, they just love us, it's so nice.

Since hearing this probably 2 weeks ago, I make sure to be concious of my facial expressions.  I always great A with a huge smile and hug.  I do it to my 18yo brother too, he was my first baby and I want him to always feel my intense love and pride for him.

Just wanted to share this with you girls : )

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  • Ms5586Ms5586 member
    Yes
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  • linzicalinzica member

    Very cool.

    I think the only person who lights up to see me is Q. But he is my favorite person so its all good.

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  • mnewleemnewlee member
    Such a good thing to remember.
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  • Pips09Pips09 member
    That's a really beautiful message. Smile
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  • solsburyhillsolsburyhill member
    imageMRoss1982:

    Great idea. Also, what channel and what time is Oprah on the radio?

    I have XM radio, it's channel 111.  It's the Oprah station so it's all Oprah, all the time!  They play old shows, they'll do topics and Oprah will talk about it and pick clips from old shows to make her point, they play her Life Class series, and they'll have her and Gail chatting.  Once in a while Dr.Laura will do a segment too.

    It's on Sirius too but I don't know that channel.

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  • CottonCotton member

    I remember when she had Maya Angelou on the show saying that! I think about it ALL THE TIME. Maya Angelou is amazing. She's got it ALL figured out, I swear.

    Thanks for the reminder!

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  • rebecca9725rebecca9725
    I love this!
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  • solsburyhillsolsburyhill member
    imageCotton:

    I remember when she had Maya Angelou on the show saying that! I think about it ALL THE TIME. Maya Angelou is amazing. She's got it ALL figured out, I swear.

    Thanks for the reminder!

    I couldn't remember who was telling Oprah about it, yes! Maya Angelou!  Smart, smart lady.

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  • T&HLoveT&HLove member

    ThAnks for sharing! Such a good thing to always keep in mind 

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  • becasmecabecasmeca member

    I LOVE that you are able to observe a facial expression and apply it as a picture of a relationship! My Dad does not light up for me. In fact I am lucky if I get a good morning or see ya later! Now towards my sister he lights up- hugs her and gives her a kiss ( he honestly will lightly hug me and do the one should- hand pat hug)... That is exactly like our relationship-- he mostly ignores me but I try and make him notice me. 

    My ILs are speeshawl :) mil rarely says hello to me- but will acknowledge Bowen. They do say hello to my H but it is kinda a somber hello. Very interesting. I seriously felt jealous when you said your inlaws are welcoming, warm, and pure! I would die to feel welcomed by ANY family!!! I will always HANDS DOWN NO MATTER WHAT light up for my boys! My husband is the only man I do a double glance at! I get so excited when my eyes catch up to my memory and ahh ha! That is my man!!! Yahtzee! 

    With Bowen I alway have said the same things when entering the room " hello gorgeous! Show me your eyes so i can see your world" I love him dearly- smiles ' purely' happen every time I see those baby blues! 

    After the room is all lit with love ( and witnesses have finished gagging) My H and I make sure we show affection in front of him and do lots of family hugs! We are the three best friends that anyone could have :) what movie?  

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  • valzeevalzee member

    Just love this! It's true too, I remember several years ago when DH and I were going through some difficulties, he said to me "You don't seem very happy to see me when I get home." That really stuck with me.

    To add to it too, someone once told me that when you love someone "Always speak with love in your voice."

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