What do you think about a Sprinkle??

Lusterb5@gmail.com · July 2012

I just heard of them recently, and iddnt know if a lot of people are doing them now. What are does everyone think? Is it only if your having a baby of the opposite sex the second time around?? )

MrsCarroll.6-10-07 · July 2012

I've heard of people doing them for kids of the same sex, even within a couple years of each other. I only had a shower for my first daughter. My sister asked me about it for my 2nd, but of course didn't get off her ass_ to do anhything. I told her, "These are dates we are available, if you plan something, go ahead, I don't want to know, I want to be surprised by it." If I have a boy this time around my bestie already said she wants to throw something for me.

magel050485 · July 2012

Definitely NMS and wouldn't be well received around here. The way I was raised (and the mentality around here) is that you get a party for your first child and if you get rid of that stuff, don't get gender neutral stuff, or decide to have children many years later that is your problem. My cousin had a shower for her third, there is an 11 year gap between 2 and 3 and people were clutching their pearls over it.

GraceyandTroy · July 2012

I don't really care. Where I'm from, it's fine to have another shower or 'sprinkle' for subsequent kids because people in my circle/area tend to view the showers as a celebration of the baby and growing family, not just the new mom. For sprinkles, they tend to be much smaller guest lists that include close friends and family who really want to be a part of the celebration and want to buy gifts.

If you have a friend who's offered to throw you one, say yes. It will be fun.

aimeecasey · July 2012

Sprinkles are the norm in our circle. If the baby is the same gender, people tend to do a diaper sprinkle. If opposite gender, it may turn into a bigger deal.

Jenilyn and Matthew · July 2012

In our circle, a small sprinkle would be okay. It would only be for really close family and friends, the ones who would get the baby something anyways regardless of if there was another shower. We love monogrammed and personalized things, so our sprinkles are usually personal baby items for the second child. It's more a celebration of a new baby than a "prepping the nursery" kind of thing.

BabyShipp · July 2012

I say don't ask about showers,sprinkles, or parties. If a family member decides to throw one for you, SURPRISE! How nice of them?

I'm not a fan when someone plans and throws their own shower/party. Just my opinion.

meggylake · July 2012

My husband's work wanted to throw us a shower for our second baby since he wasn't working there when I had our first. The only people that were invited were work people and a few close family members. We did register for a few items that we had borrowed the first time around and and had to give back. I think if we would have invited all of the same people who were at the shower for DD #1, they would have been pretty annoyed. So, I think it's ok depending on the situation.

melaniedel · July 2012

I definitely do not want one, even if it's a girl. I bought all gender neutral things

Cranang · July 2012

I'm trying to figure out what different genitalia has to do with anything.

So if you already have a baby with a penis, and the next one has a vagina, then it should be celebrated? But if it's another penis, well, not so much then? ::eyeroll::

Sprinkles should be super small, there should be NO REGISTRY, and gifts should be very small (onesies, pack of diapers, etc).

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dande2129 · July 2012

I don't mind them, but I think they need to be tastefully done. You shouldn't list where you are registered, even if you are. (This is my second, FI's first, and we registered just to get the completion coupon at the "end") It should be a small gathering. I'm more of a fan of the "get to know the baby" parties after the baby has arrived. More of a celebration of the baby rather than the mother, and if people were to bring gifts, that's great but it certainly should never be expected.

This is FI's first, and I know that his family and friends want to attend a shower. I'm not sure how I feel about it, and while I'd be grateful, I'd never bring it up or invite my family or friends who attended my first shower.

iamapixie · July 2012

BabyShipp:
I say don't ask about showers,sprinkles, or parties. If a family member decides to throw one for you, SURPRISE! How nice of them?
I'm not a fan when someone plans and throws their own shower/party. Just my opinion.

This. I think it is grey area to have it in your own home, too andI've seen a lot of those lately.

Heartstrings13 · July 2012

I think it depends on the circumstances. If you're remarried (or with a new SO) and have a baby, then it can be nice. Especially if there is an age gap between the children. If you just had a baby two years ago, I don't think it's appropriate. People sometimes do them for babies of the opposite sex because they maybe got all pink the first time around, but to me - it was your choice to reveal the gender and get/register all pink. My husband and I are registering for gender neutral for everything that can be reused. This way we won't have the financial burden of rebuying everything in a few years if we decide to have another.

That said, if someone surprised me with one, I wouldn't complain. Smile I just would never expect it.

epona3 · July 2012

I'd never heard the term "sprinkle" until I came to TB. In my circle, we do showers for the first one, and maybe a "meet the baby" get together for a second. I think "sprinkles" are fine, though.

yecal262 · July 2012

I'm my group of family and friends there is a baby shower for every baby. We like to party down here so I dunno if that has anything to do with it. I think it's tacky to throw your own shower or sprinkle or whatever, but it's just assumed that there will be one of your pregnant. I like the idea of a meet the baby party, but of my girlfriends throw a shower of course I wouldn't tell them no, they woud be offended.

Bee112309 · July 2012

In our area, it is common to have a small "sprinkle" for your second child. It's usually just immediate family (mothers, sisters) and a close friend or two. I would never ask for one, and will not be giving out any registry information, although we will be doing a registry at a couple of places for the completion discount.

LiteraryFoodie · July 2012

Honestly, I think it's tacky and gift-grabby. I think that if you are bringing a baby into the world you should have the means to support it without depending on other people giving you stuff. Also in my family circle, this would be an absolute no-no. You don't ask for a shower, you don't plan your own shower, you don't do 2nd showers. If someone else decides to throw you a shower, it is an expression of their kindness and generosity. I would never expect a shower.

The only way I could see having a 2nd shower/sprinkle as acceptable is if this is a the first child in a 2nd marriage and any other children are considerably older (i.e. elementary/middle school age). However, I know people who even look down on this practice.

If you want to celebrate a new life, than have a "Sip & See" a small gathering after the baby is born with some munchies and beverages, but no gifts. Or if you are religious, wait to have a celebration with the baptism/christening/brisk.

LiteraryFoodie · July 2012

magel050485:
Definitely NMS and wouldn't be well received around here. The way I was raised (and the mentality around here) is that you get a party for your first child and if you get rid of that stuff, don't get gender neutral stuff, or decide to have children many years later that is your problem. My cousin had a shower for her third, there is an 11 year gap between 2 and 3 and people were clutching their pearls over it.

This is my family too and generally how people think/act in the area I grew up in as well.

Denae'sTTC · July 2012

In my family and Cirlce of friends we have 1 big shower for your first. For your second we bring gifts to the hospital or house after the baby is born to celebrate their arrival, we also make a meal and freeze it for the new mom.....if one of us has a different sex from our first we pass things around....I barley have bought my son anything in 3 years......he gets hand me downs and that fine with me.... I got all gender neutral items to be able to reuse them, clothes is the only thing I get passed to me, since my older sister has 3 sons.....my cousin has 2 girls and she gives me all her kids clothes and I store them hoping one day I will use them or can give them to someone in our family. My cousins is pregnant with a girl due in oct so she gets first dibs! But we def buy gifts for every baby...just don't have a party....

MexiCali · July 2012

It's a "your circle" thing. In mine we generally celebrate every baby. I am still early and nobody has offered me a shower with time around yet. I am barely telling people, so it's not on my priority list. I do not oppose them and would like to do a CD type party if offered.

penguingrrl · July 2012

In my circle it's unheard of to have a second shower/sprinkle. My mom doesn't even like "first" showers because of superstition about having anything in the house until the baby comes home healthy. My ILs insisted on having a shower, so of course she came and was happy for me, but she didn't like me having stuff at home (and she lived 16 hours away at that point so she couldn't take everything to her house).

Around here the shower is considered something for the parents-to-be, not to celebrate the baby. Since you only become a first time parent once you only get one shower. The babies are each celebrated once they're here!

PandasMama0626 · July 2012

Around my family, any cause to get together for food and oggle over a big baby belly is reason enough to have a party I bought all the big stuff for our first baby and really didn't think we were going have another, so most of it I gave away to some friends who really didn't have any money or knew anyone had money to help get them ready for their baby. I felt like it went for a good cause. But now I'm kinda kicking myself lol. At least this time around I know what is worth spending the money on and what isn't lol. I went totally crazy with our first and half the stuff I bought (that was the best of the best) she never used or didn't like!

Also, I gave away pretty much all her baby clothes from the first 16 months so yeah... we are going to be in serious need of baby clothes, bottles and so on at least. lol

BlameItOnTheRain · July 2012

LiteraryFoodie:

Honestly, I think it's tacky and gift-grabby. I think that if you are bringing a baby into the world you should have the means to support it without depending on other people giving you stuff. Also in my family circle, this would be an absolute no-no. You don't ask for a shower, you don't plan your own shower, you don't do 2nd showers. If someone else decides to throw you a shower, it is an expression of their kindness and generosity. I would never expect a shower.

The only way I could see having a 2nd shower/sprinkle as acceptable is if this is a the first child in a 2nd marriage and any other children are considerably older (i.e. elementary/middle school age). However, I know people who even look down on this practice.

If you want to celebrate a new life, than have a "Sip & See" a small gathering after the baby is born with some munchies and beverages, but no gifts. Or if you are religious, wait to have a celebration with the baptism/christening/brisk.

I don't think anyone has a sprinkle to load up on baby gear because they are otherwise incapable of doing so. The one's I've attended and thrown include cute little outfits, a bow assortment, or a sweet blanket. There's not pack n plays and such.

Both sprinkles and sip and sees are common in my area, and amongst our friends/families.

I turly don't why everyone gets up in arms about these celebrations. If you think it's tacky - don't go.

beckajw · July 2012

Why just a sprinkle? Have a whole shower--especially if baby is the opposite sex of first.

People who care about you will give and will love your shower, no matter how many you have.

My friends, family and I are always having showers, parties, etc. for people who need things. It doesn't matter the reason or how often.

People who get all up in arms or think it's tacky, can just choose not to come and keep their opinions to themselves. To each her own.

beckajw · July 2012

Also, I think you should give out your registry information. I hate going to a party and wanting to buy a gift and having no idea what to buy. TELL ME WHAT YOU NEED!!

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