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September 2011 Moms
becasmeca
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Turning 12 months and timing for Bo baby
becasmeca
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For some reason I feel really guilty about the timing of significant events surrounding Bowen's first birthday 
September 19th is the big day! this is what I have planned:
- August 27th first year photos taken ( I realize he will not quite be 12 months, hense the guilt! The reason we are doing them a little early is so the photographer can use the shots for a trifold birthday invitation. We are incorporating some of his 2 week photos since we never sent birth announcements with mostly his new photos which takes about a week for the photographer to design.
- invites will be sent 2nd week of September
-September 19 at 9:02 am my baby love turns 1!!!!! To celebrate we are taking Bowen up to the hospital he was born at to donate 10-10$ gift cards to the familes in the NICU and to drop off thank you notes to a few nurses that touched our lives and blessed our first year! I know Bowen was lucky to have been born in such a great environment, for that, I will always be thankful. My mom has passed so the warmth of all the grandma nurses provided a tone of care taking I sure have used all year long 
I never want Bowen to forget you CAN touch people's lives to promote change! September 19th 2011 is a day I would relive forever
Going out to dinner then some cake???? Do I let him do 3 smash cakes? ( 1 for photos- actual birthday- AND birthday party?
- October 6th ( two weeks after his big day) his first birthday party will be held
We have a lot of family flying in and still no house I just feel bummed about the timing; am I doing this right? Should I scratch the 8/27 photo session and make it closer or after his birthday? If that were the case, I would make my own invitations which would be far less grand. Decisions-decisions
Any thoughts or suggestions?
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Re: Turning 12 months and timing for Bo baby
First off, that is amazing you are taking Bo to the hospital to send a giftcard to the families and cards for the nurses. You are so thoughtful and I know that will mean a lot to them. My best friends mom is a L&D nurse and she loves getting visits from the los she delivered.
With the pictures, I think it's completely up to you. Could you maybe put another picture of Bo on the invites? Or maybe do a couple pictures to show how much he's grown? I know there are a lot of websites where you can make your own card so that's something to think about.
Either way, Bo is going to have an amazing party and know that he is a very loved little man. Don't feel guilty! You're doing great mama
Visiting the hospital he was born at - that is so sweet. What a kind heart you have Ms Becca! Those NICU moms will forever remember your thoughtfulness & generosity.
I also think the pictures being done early is not a big deal at all. In the grand scheme of things, the fact that this weighs heavy on your mind just, once again, proves how much you love that little being you created. He will be thankful you put in the effort, but the small gap of time between pics & his actual bday is insignificant. You are doing it all right Becca.
Lastly, not having a house to offer to out of towners etc.... Again, not as important as the love you will shower on your son, or his party guests on the big day. You need feel no guilt Becca.
I love your heart. I love that I'm not the only overthinker on this board. I love that Bo was given such an angel for a mother. I know you think it is YOU who is blessed - but I'd like you to realize Bo is the blessed one here. He has one heck of a mother!
Xo
Beca, don't be so hard on yourself! You have such an amazing plan, visiting the hospital is such a wonderful, kind thing to do. I think you can do the pictures whenever you want to do them. You could always do a pic yourself for the invite, or go to the photog. Either way is perfectly fine. If you want to make your own invites, PM me because DH can design something for you no problem. Dinner and cake sounds fun, you can always do mini cupcakes if you want him to have something fun.
Don't worry about the family and no house. They're not coming to see a house, they're coming to celebrate Bo!
And FWIW, we are birthday buddies, and I have no clue the order of things here, other than having the date of his party planned.
Beca you are so sweet to go back to the hospital and see the nurses and bring gift cards to the NICU. I used to work in NICU and I know that all the moms and nurses there will be so grateful. And the nurses will love to see Bo. We used to love seeing babies come back to visit in the NICU and on maternity.
I wouldn't worry about the date of the pictures. It is certainly close enough to his birthday to be his 1 year pictures.
Your plan sounds so wonderful! As usual you have inspired me to do something more special on his actual birthday
Max's 1 year photos are 2 weeks before his birthday. As for the smash cake Max will have one at his photo session and at his party. I hadn't thought about his actual birthday. Maybe I'll give him a small cupcake? His birthday is the day before his party.
Hey now!
Dont be so hard on yourself!
I think that everything will happen when it's supposed to, don't stress so much! If things change so be it! What you have as a preliminary plan as of now sounds great to me! Will you have the party at your ILs if you haven't found a house? No big deal right!?
Great idea to take Bo to the hospital, you are so great for thinking of doing this!
PS: O said she was going to crash Bo's party, so beware
? Voted Cool Cat ~ 2012 Sweetpea Mom Awards ?
All of this, but especially the bolded. I think you're pretty amazing too JKGym.
If you are putting pics on an invite I don't see how you can ever get them less than a month before the bday. And we are having Bs party later as well because we will be out of town for a wedding the weekend closest to her bday...and she's not coming with us. Its not over her bday, but I still kind of consider it her "bday weekend" and am feeling a little guilt.
I think everything you have planned sounds great. And agree with Moosey...when he gets older you won't remember the exact date of the pics, etc. But that all of it happened iaround the time he turned 1.
JK, couldn't have put this better and I agree 100%! Bo is so lucky to have such an awesome mama!
"Because when you stop and look around, this life is pretty amazing."
~Dr. Suess
I agree! Bo will love every bit of it and the order/timing of events won't matter in the least. What you're planning is the kind of timing I've done in the past and I already can't remember which kid I did that with...
Elizabeth
You're an amazing person, Beca.
This inspires me to do something generous on Cara's birthday. We have been so fortunate with little Cara. Not only is she beautiful and healthy, but our family and friends have been so generous to her (and us). It amazes me how giving people are when you have a baby. I definitely want to pay it forward. Thank you for reminding me of that.