FFFC

stepper1725 · July 2012

Not sure if the June '12 moms still do this, but I have some so I thought I'd start the thread....

I spend most of my days watching Real Housewives & Teen Mom and then get mad at DH for coming home and watching TV and not spending quality time interacting with LO

I'm kind of dreading going back to work, but not because of being sad to leave LO. I'm pretty sure I made some mistakes on the projects I was working on before mat leave and don't want to be a big girl and face the repercussions.

Anyone else??

chouli77 · July 2012

My DH is home with me and LO for the summer but he's not as helpful as he could be, and he's cranky. LO will cry at night if milk isn't immediate when he wakes up and DH gets mad. He claims its from lack of sleep, but I don't think he's losing near as much sleep as I am. I only ask his help 1 or 2 times a night so I can go pee - I do all the work. Actual confession - There are times where I'm "handling business" - you know, feeding, burping, changing, sterilizing bottles, folding laundry, etc and all with a smile - when I actually think I could handle being a single mom if I had to.

piedpiper07 · July 2012

I also sometimes wonder if it would be easier without DH. He doesn't do anything to do with the baby at all. I dot think he has even woke up once in the night even on his days off. I try to remind myself he does other stuff that I hate doing though like yard work. It's easy to forget!

rissa_n · July 2012

My in-laws are visiting and are driving me insane. they are wonderful people but damn, i can't take it any more. Just an example: MIL said last night she has been putting binkies that fall on the floor in her mouth to clean them off rather than wash them off. WTF...who does that?! I'm livid...

strawberrytree · July 2012

rissa_n:
My in-laws are visiting and are driving me insane. they are wonderful people but damn, i can't take it any more. Just an example: MIL said last night she has been putting binkies that fall on the floor in her mouth to clean them off rather than wash them off. WTF...who does that?! I'm livid...

Heh...my FFFC is that I have done that. DS dropped his soothie on the ground and was screaming so I popped it in my mouth, then his. I figure my germs are better than dirt from the ground.

khill86 · July 2012

the first time i told ds that i love him was last week. and when i said it, i felt immediate guilt for having waited so long. but i just wasn't one of those moms that had an immediate sobbing, overwhelming bond wiith ds. i confessed to a friend with 9 month old twin girls and when she said that she spent the first 2 months thinking, "did i really want this?" i immediately felt relief from thinking i was already a terrible mom.

claudiaudia · July 2012

strawberrytree:
rissa_n:
My in-laws are visiting and are driving me insane. they are wonderful people but damn, i can't take it any more. Just an example: MIL said last night she has been putting binkies that fall on the floor in her mouth to clean them off rather than wash them off. WTF...who does that?! I'm livid...
Heh...my FFFC is that I have done that. DS dropped his soothie on the ground and was screaming so I popped it in my mouth, then his. I figure my germs are better than dirt from the ground.

I also do this. I have somehow managed to keep my son alive for three-plus years.

My FFFC: There's not a word for the level of irritation I feel when the vaccination posts come up. Makes me want to rip out my eye balls.

unaveragejane · July 2012

I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!

rissa_n · July 2012

claudiaudia:
strawberrytree:
rissa_n:
My in-laws are visiting and are driving me insane. they are wonderful people but damn, i can't take it any more. Just an example: MIL said last night she has been putting binkies that fall on the floor in her mouth to clean them off rather than wash them off. WTF...who does that?! I'm livid...
Heh...my FFFC is that I have done that. DS dropped his soothie on the ground and was screaming so I popped it in my mouth, then his. I figure my germs are better than dirt from the ground.
I also do this. I have somehow managed to keep my son alive for three-plus years.
My FFFC: There's not a word for the level of irritation I feel when the vaccination posts come up. Makes me want to rip out my eye balls.

I have also put my dd's binky in my mouth to clean it when she was a baby. Parents doing it, fine, I figure we share most of the same germs anyway. My issue is that MIL is here for a couple days from out of town, & he's only 5 weeks old. Intrducing him to whatever germ pool she has in her saliva jut seems really unnecessary to me.

JessieCupcake · July 2012

unaveragejane:
I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!

I do the same thing. My anxiety is through the roof too. But try to be kind to yourself and not feel guilty. Taking care of a newborn is really hard. Take it one day at a time.

thatoneredhead · July 2012

khill86:
the first time i told ds that i love him was last week. and when i said it, i felt immediate guilt for having waited so long. but i just wasn't one of those moms that had an immediate sobbing, overwhelming bond wiith ds. i confessed to a friend with 9 month old twin girls and when she said that she spent the first 2 months thinking, "did i really want this?" i immediately felt relief from thinking i was already a terrible mom.

You are not alone. I was talking about this with my friend who had a baby in March. Of course you are going to see that beautiful goofy smile and light up, but thats after four hours of feeding, burping, spit-up, poop, fussiness... Its alot of work! I feel better now, but I felt bad about the attachment too. Its getting alot better.

My confession is that Ive realized Im completely insecure when it comes to my husband.

At a family outing, a distant relative of mine went swimming in her white t-shirt and short shorts. We were sitting down in the grass and she comes over, dripping wet and stands right in front of my husband. She kept shifting her hips while she was talking and being really, uh, bouncy. When I saw water dripping down her legs from her crotch about a foot from my husband's face I flipped. My husband is a great guy and thought it was funny because I always told him she was one of those girls. I was irrationally angry about it, but tried to play it off like he was.

Now, it would work out great for our family to just get a babysitter for the 4 hours a week our jobs overlap. We have a college in our town and a ton of babysitter options. I cant have a cute little college girl in my tiny house playing with my son while my husband sleeps. I just cant. Its too close. I feel insane.

edit: the four hours are actually for him to sleep before his night job. That didnt make sense how I wrote it.

ldbryan · July 2012

unaveragejane:
I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!

It does get easier. I totally forgot about the anxiety until after DD2 got here, and then quickl remembered I once felt that way about DD1. It gets a lot better once your LO starts eating and napping on a more regular schedule. Hang in there!

zinkyn14 · July 2012

I'm sick of relatives wanting to see LO. I am exhausted and the only one looking after LO. My SIL wants to see little one, but she has a habit of digging through drawers and cabinets. I have nothing to hide, but it feels like an invasion of my privacy. I would never do that at anyone's house. I feel it's rude. Can't everyone just leave me and LO alone! I know people are excited, but I feel like I'm being hounded.

Cavegeko · July 2012

zinkyn14:
I'm sick of relatives wanting to see LO. I am exhausted and the only one looking after LO. My SIL wants to see little one, but she has a habit of digging through drawers and cabinets. I have nothing to hide, but it feels like an invasion of my privacy. I would never do that at anyone's house. I feel it's rude. Can't everyone just leave me and LO alone! I know people are excited, but I feel like I'm being hounded.

This is definitely and invasion of your privacy and highly rude! My grandma did this to my mom and she threw out things of my mom's that were the only items left of my moms family. Both of my mom's parents were descended before I was born and her brother doesn't have any contact with the family so these items meant a lot to my mom. I would have your DH talk to his sister about this habit and get it to stop. It is very rude.

My confession is that I won't be letting FIL hold anymore DD until she is a year old. When he was visiting, I let him hold her while I used the bathroom. I came back to him holding her and letting her gum/taste a bit of melon. She was just four weeks old! I was very upset but tried to be nice about it. He did something similar to our nephew, feed him chocolate ice cream at six months and then started slipping him candy very shortly after that... I don't want that to happen with DD since nephew demands candy every day now.

I also feel like a terrible mom if DD has to cry at all about anything...

mkflower3000 · July 2012

unaveragejane:
I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!

This so much for me! DD is 7 weeks old, and fairly fussy, so that doesn't make the bonding any easier. Every time someone here posts about how in love they are with LO, I feel jealous and guilty. I know that I love her, and I have bursts when I really feel it, but the bursts are short. Mostly I'm kind of frustrated with her and the whole new parent situation :-/ People say to enjoy every moment because it passes by so quickly, but to be honest, I don't feel like there's anything to enjoy right now. I'm hoping that it gets better by the 3 month mark, but until then every minute feels like hours... Like I'm walking through quicksand :-/

Related to that, I just finished a grad program when I had DD, so I'm not working right now... I see all of these posts about moms who feel bad leaving their LOs to go back to work, and all I do is wish that I had a reason to leave her every day for a few hours. I think it would make time go by faster, and help our bonding too since I'd actually have a reason to miss her. I'm so sick of being trapped at home and feeling like I can't go anywhere because she's so darn fussy

Also, I EBF but I hate it. I know so many women wish they could trade places with me, and I know how good it is for DD (which is why I keep it up), but I often wish that I had no choice but to use formula... BFing is just so hard, frustrating, and isolating. I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders, and like I'm tethered to DD because she often won't give me enough free time to properly pump and make a store (which makes babysitting her difficult).

JessieCupcake · July 2012

mkflower3000:
unaveragejane:
I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!
This so much for me! DD is 7 weeks old, and fairly fussy, so that doesn't make the bonding any easier. Every time someone here posts about how in love they are with LO, I feel jealous and guilty. I know that I love her, and I have bursts when I really feel it, but the bursts are short. Mostly I'm kind of frustrated with her and the whole new parent situation :-/ People say to enjoy every moment because it passes by so quickly, but to be honest, I don't feel like there's anything to enjoy right now. I'm hoping that it gets better by the 3 month mark, but until then every minute feels like hours... Like I'm walking through quicksand :-/
Related to that, I just finished a grad program when I had DD, so I'm not working right now... I see all of these posts about moms who feel bad leaving their LOs to go back to work, and all I do is wish that I had a reason to leave her every day for a few hours. I think it would make time go by faster, and help our bonding too since I'd actually have a reason to miss her. I'm so sick of being trapped at home and feeling like I can't go anywhere because she's so darn fussy
Also, I EBF but I hate it. I know so many women wish they could trade places with me, and I know how good it is for DD (which is why I keep it up), but I often wish that I had no choice but to use formula... BFing is just so hard, frustrating, and isolating. I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders, and like I'm tethered to DD because she often won't give me enough free time to properly pump and make a store (which makes babysitting her difficult).

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. I know it is hard to do because you are EBF but try to take time away from LO for your sanity. Sometimes when my husband comes home from work, I hand over the baby and go do an errand just to get out of the house by myself. Even going somewhere for just a few minutes will make you feel a little better.

I hope things get better for you soon. You are not alone.*hugs*

notfrancie · July 2012

DH's grandma (who just turned 90) had a giant COLD SORE and insisted on kissing the baby and touching her hands. Which Baby wants to put directly into her mouth.

MIL and I used to get along great, but she now seems to want to eat my baby alive, whole, without a spoon, and it is freaking me out.

OH. MY. GOD. Insert heart attack here.

thatoneredhead · July 2012

notfrancie:
DH's grandma (who just turned 90) had a giant COLD SORE and insisted on kissing the baby and touching her hands. Which Baby wants to put directly into her mouth.
MIL and I used to get along great, but she now seems to want to eat my baby alive, whole, without a spoon, and it is freaking me out.
OH. MY. GOD. Insert heart attack here.

::shudder:: Thank goodness my son gets mad when you kiss him so its not just my rule

mkflower3000 · July 2012

JessieCupcake:
mkflower3000:
unaveragejane:
I feel terribly guilty that I am not really enjoying these newborn days a whole lot. I feel like I spend all day holding my breath, waiting for him to cry and hoping I will be able to figure out what he needs. I hope and pray for the day that things get a little easier. My complaint is when I share my anxiety with a friend and they say something like, "My six month old is driving me nuts." or "It doesn't get easier. The things you worry about just change." Argh! If you can't give me some hope, then keep your mouth shut!
This so much for me! DD is 7 weeks old, and fairly fussy, so that doesn't make the bonding any easier. Every time someone here posts about how in love they are with LO, I feel jealous and guilty. I know that I love her, and I have bursts when I really feel it, but the bursts are short. Mostly I'm kind of frustrated with her and the whole new parent situation :-/ People say to enjoy every moment because it passes by so quickly, but to be honest, I don't feel like there's anything to enjoy right now. I'm hoping that it gets better by the 3 month mark, but until then every minute feels like hours... Like I'm walking through quicksand :-/
Related to that, I just finished a grad program when I had DD, so I'm not working right now... I see all of these posts about moms who feel bad leaving their LOs to go back to work, and all I do is wish that I had a reason to leave her every day for a few hours. I think it would make time go by faster, and help our bonding too since I'd actually have a reason to miss her. I'm so sick of being trapped at home and feeling like I can't go anywhere because she's so darn fussy
Also, I EBF but I hate it. I know so many women wish they could trade places with me, and I know how good it is for DD (which is why I keep it up), but I often wish that I had no choice but to use formula... BFing is just so hard, frustrating, and isolating. I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders, and like I'm tethered to DD because she often won't give me enough free time to properly pump and make a store (which makes babysitting her difficult).
I'm sorry you're having a tough time. I know it is hard to do because you are EBF but try to take time away from LO for your sanity. Sometimes when my husband comes home from work, I hand over the baby and go do an errand just to get out of the house by myself. Even going somewhere for just a few minutes will make you feel a little better.
I hope things get better for you soon. You are not alone.*hugs*

Thanks It is getting better slowly, but I'm keeping 3 months in sight for when things are supposed to get much better. I honestly believe that when DD becomes more social and interactive I will feel a little bit better about everything. I hope I'm right!

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