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overtonhayes
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Tearing & repairing.
overtonhayes
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Two quick-and-dirty questions.
First of all, what is a 'skid mark' in terms of labour & delivery/tearing? I've heard the term used quite a bit but never known what it means.
Second... Please be nice...
The 'husband stitch'. I'm sure everyone knows what I'm talking about. How exactly do you... Get one of those? Just ask the doctor "hey, can you add in a few extra stitches for me"? Do they just do it anyway, discreetly? I've heard people talking about their doctor putting in an extra stitch to tighten things back up, but they've never said how they went about doing that.
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Re: Tearing & repairing.
Yup, skid marks are minor tears that don't meed stitches. As for #2, pretty sure it's not really real, just another way to keep women fearful of childbirth and their vaginas, in all honesty...
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Please tell me you're joking... I don't even want to think about how painful the first few times would be if you did this.
Exactly this.
Sometimes, I'm hilarious.
True that MOST women do not tear their vaginas, but it is possible to do. I did it and it's not an enjoyable experience to heal from.
It's a tearing of the muscles on either side of the vagina (either where the bladder is or the rectum) and causes a prolapse of the walls. I have a pronounced prolapse on the side of the rectum and a minor one on the bladder side. Despite this, I retained enough control of the muscles that it's starting to heal and rebuild even though there is still significantly less control and bathroom matters aren't as easy as they were before. Through it all my husband claims he can't tell the difference when we have sex. Apparently the inward fall of the tissue created an alternate structure that is just as enjoyable though mostly out of my personal control.
A Husband Stitch is a horrible idea even if you can find a doctor silly enough to over stitch the exterior of the vaginal opening. The pain that this would cause during intercourse would outweigh the desired result and there's a good chance you would shy away from sex as a whole in an effort to avoid the pain.
I had a second degree perineal tear and even the proper stitching felt overly tight and uncomfortable for a few months after birth. I strongly recommend that if you do have major tearing, even to the muscular level, that you pursue physical therapy options and then appropriate reconstruction instead of a Husband Stitch.
Thanks ladies!
I honestly thought the husband stitch was a real thing... I can't remember which book I read about it in. Admittedly it was one of those light-hearted "here's the sh*t they never tell you about" kind of books (as opposed to, say, WTEWYE or another more 'serious' book) but they talked about it for a good bit... I bet if I were to dig the book out again it would turn out they were joking. Still, good to know it's not necessary!
throw out the Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy.
Sex hurt like a b*tch the first few times we did it. I didn't need any help being tight down there. PP sex was worse than virgin sex.
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Holy crapnuggets, that's the book!
I liked a lot of it, to be honest. There were some bits that I gave the side-eye - I think that was the one that encouraged you to stick your baby in the nursery with the nurses as much as possible because, you know, you need to sleep; and 'the whole rooming in thing' is just for those who are 'doing all that natural birth stuff' - but I really enjoyed the light-hearted-ness.
Belly Laughs, now that was an aggravating book. Maybe it's because DH and I aren't exactly rolling in money, but the whole "ANYWAY, so I was out doing this incredibly costly and frivolous luxury thing, and this embarrassing pregnancy thing happened to me! Do you know how humiliating it is when the pool boy sees your boobs?" feel really bugged me.