Family of three time is almost over. :(

BecomingFamilyofFour · July 2012

My inlaws are coming to stay with us tomorrow (until a few days after LO arrives). I'm feeling really sad about this...not because I don't like them (they will probably be a big help, and they are usually very caring), but more that I know that tonight is the last night with just my husband, daughter, and me. I have been crying about this a lot (and also just about the fact that I feel sad about our "family of three" time coming to an end). Don't get me wrong...I'm SUPER excited for our new LO to arrive! So, why do I feel this way?! Why do I have to cry about it?! Are there any moms with outside babies who had kids before who had similar feelings? If so, how are things going with both kids now? Are you still sad about it?

Murrrann · July 2012

I don't have any outside babies so I can't really relate but I have been super clingy to my husband lately. I don't want to be around anyone else but him. The thought of visiting/having people over makes me want to cry. I've actually denied a few people who asked to visit just because I want it to be just him and I. For some reason, I'm terrified of other people being here when I go into labor. I think it's special and should only be him and I.

1111skye · July 2012

I told my DH that it would not be appropriate to have his parents come right away but if they were, I'd be right where you are. I'm getting a bit emotional knowing our family of 3 will be 4 soon and that time I spend with DS will be shared now.

I like my in laws but they stayed for a week a few months ago and I was SO ready for them to go....and I didn't have a newborn yet.

I'd just try and make the most of it and take the help, and it will be just your little family soon enough. Good luck!

M&D06 · July 2012

I can definitely relate. I was a mess the night before my induction with ds2 and cried when we left the next morning. He was still sleeping so I just kissed him and off we went! Those weird feelings quickly went away once ds2 was home with us. Our toddler responded really well to his new brother and, really, had no problems adjusting. They play SO well together now and absolutely have a ball together..it's so much fun to watch.

I am a bit worried about bringing ds3 home, only because ds2 is still so young and doesn't understand what is going on. I just look at how my oldest two play together and I look forward to the 3 of them doing the same in a little while. Emotions are so crazy right now but you'll get through it and your family of 4 will quickly become the new 'norm'.

Bucks County Newlywed 808 · July 2012

When my close friend was pregnant with her son, her daughter was about 3 years old. She was genuinely worried/upset about the fact that it had just been the three of them for that time and how could they possibly become a family of 4 and still be happy? Well, now she can't imagine life/family without him. She said it feels like that's how it's always been and seeing the interaction between her two kids (now 5 & 2) is amazing. It's going to be an adjustment, but it will be wonderful. Take it one day at a time

oncoRN · July 2012

I'm a FTM, but totally feel this way about my husband...I get pretty sad thinking that it won't be just the two of us, even though I'm extremely excited to meet LO!

sassysally1 · July 2012

I feel the same way! I love DD to pieces and can't imagine how our dynamics will change. I'm excited for the new LO, but I get sad thinking of DD having to be a big sister and share attention.

Mkay&Billy2011 · July 2012

i am so glad there are others that feel similar to me. i already had my baby and sometimes i still feel sad that its not just me and my fiance anymore. i mean i love my daughter with all my heart and wouldnt change having her but i just feel this way sometimes. it makes me feel like an awful mom to feel this way.

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