Showers in two different states?

nmo941 · July 2012

I know it's probably early to begin thinking about this but I can't help it

I'm originally from NY and have been living in Florida for the last 2 years. My life is established down here. But I was born and raised in NY and that is where a lot of my family friends are etc. Is it cheesy to have 2 showers? Or should I just invite everyone to the one shower down here, knowing that if they don't come, they can send their gifts?

Also, at what point do you think it's appropriate to have your shower?

tiffmatt · July 2012

I don't see if being a problem if people in both states offer to throw you showers. You shouldn't plan your own shower, but if you have family friends in NY who offer and friends in FL who offer then enjoy.

sesigs · July 2012

You can have as many showers as people offer to throw you. If someone in NY and someone in FL both offer than go for it. It is not unusual for people to have multiple showers. But you can't throw your own shower - it is tacky and gift grabby.

As far as when to have it, most have it 30+ weeks but it depends on your situation especially if you have to travel to the shower, you get put on bed rest, etc. Personally, my hostesses have decided on November 3rd which would put me at 28 weeks. A little early but I am due in January and they want to have the shower before the holiday season gets in high gear!

EastCoastBride · July 2012

If two showers are offered, then have two showers.

If only one in FL is offered, be careful about inviting "everyone" from NY. CLOSE family (like mom, sister, maybe any aunts or cousins you happen to TRULY be close to) - sure, they'd probably apprecaite being invited.

But more distant family who you hardly ever see/ never contact on your own? No, I wouldn't invite them. They don't need "permission" (I.e. a shower invitation) to send you a gift. If they watn to send a gift, they will - period.

To many people, getting a shower invite (which IS a gift giving event) for someone they really aren't close to comes off as gift grabby.

So - IF you don't have a NY shower, exercise caution in who is invited from NY. IT's a shower, not a wedding.

Ladiebug710 · July 2012

Lots of people have showers in their home state, so not it wouldnt be weird. I think 32-35 weeks is good.

Faith 21 · July 2012

I think you may have a better turn out with two seperate ones. More fun. More games. More food to enjoy.

golfbride44 · July 2012

Are we the same person?

I am from NY and live in FL as well. My mom and MIL have both offer to host showers in different states. I don't find it cheesy at all. My mom is planning the NY shower and is having it co-ed so I could see friends and relatives that I do not get to see very often. It will be nice to celebrate with people I love in both states.

MelleTX · July 2012

I am from Louisiana but now live in Texas. My college friends are throwing a small shower for me in LA over labor day weekend because I will be in town. I will only be 22 weeks, but with twins, it was the latest I could go and still be able to fly.

I will have two showers in Texas - one for family and one for friends.

You can have as many showers as people offer to host for you if the guest lists make sense. I wanted my two in Dallas to be less than 20 people each so when my girlfriends offered to throw me a shower, it made sense. I will be 28 and 29 weeks for the Dallas showers.

brenaxtruthx · July 2012

I say go for two if it's easier on your family. I'm in the same boat but not so far away.

I go to college in North Dakota and the majority of my family lives in Minnesota.

My friends are throwing me a party here so all my girls from school can attend and my family is throwing me one in Minnesota so my family can make it.

amb5353 · July 2012

I had a shower in another state. I live in PA but went to visit family in MO. When I went to visit I was 24wks. This may be considered early but it was the only time I could go to visit.

I should note I didn't ask for a baby shower. It was a suprise. Originally I had just asked my mom and grandma if they wanted to do a little get together. Do lunch or dinner then go back to someones house for cake. Then the inside of the cake could be pink or blue and we could let my family know what we were having. I wanted to make them feel included. I knew none of them would be able to come to my shower here in PA, but I didn't want to ask for presents. They suprised me though with a little shower!

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