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DD is 3 ***pg mentioned***

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DD turned 3 on Monday. We had a birthday party for her on Sunday. It was such a bittersweet day. Of course I am so in love with her and truly blessed to have her. But she's growing up fast and she should've had her baby brother at her birthday but she didn't.

I remember being pg at her Bday party last year, and thinking how next year she'd have a sibling to celebrate with. I had such morning sickness at this time last year; I was so tired and miserable and I can't help but think, what was it all for? Now I am of again and having lots of complications and I worry that all of this will be for nothing too. I'm trying to stay positive but I was so sure of everything last time...

My good friend was at the party with her 3 month old. Her son was born about a month after my EDD. It took me a long time to see her and her baby after he was born and sometimes I still have pangs of sadness when I look at him. At one point DD was sitting and rocking him in the bouncy seat and it just made me so sad cause she should be doing that with her brother. Everyone in the room was watching and just saying "aw how sweet" and I just wanted to scream.

Theres really no point to this post, just had to get this off my chest and I know you ladies understand. 

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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    I'm so sorry weddedwife. I don't have other children, but I can imagine it must have been really painful to watch your DD with your friend's son. I will always be sad for what my future rainbows miss out on with their big sister. ((HUGS))


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  • tuscanbride2007tuscanbride2007 member

    I am so sorry, sweetie. My DD's birthday is coming up next month and I was in the first tri last year during her party totally going through morning sickness. It sucks to think that our children miss out on a sibling. Every time my DD mentions her sister, I get this lump in my throat. I want her sister to be here and play with her and experience all of the great times. It is just so unfair!!

    ((HUGE HUGS))

     

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  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member

    Even though I don't have any other children, I do understand the pain in remembering where you were a year ago and all the expectations and hopes you had.  I know it is so hard to look back and think of the time when you were pregnant.  I often compare it to running a whole marathon, crossing the finish line, but not getting the award.

    It's good to get those feelings out when they come up...don't hold anything in.  

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  • SJHodgsonSJHodgson
    I am so sorry, I recently saw a friend of mine who gave birth to her twins on my EDD. It was hard to watch how my 3 and 2 year-old interacted with them, and thinking why is my baby girl not here. Sending you thoughts and prayers, I have seen some of your posts on the PgAL board.
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  • lmielocl1lmielocl1 member

    I am so sorry.  My DS will be 2 right before we were due with our angel.  That is one of the hardest things for me; knowing that my DS will miss out having his brother to play with & grow with.  I was so excited for him to have a sibling.  And I see how much he enjoys being around other kids. 

    I am sorry to hear about your complications.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

     Please know you are not alone in your feelings.

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