Pg with my Rainbow Check-In

Mrs Nice · July 2012

Hello Ladies,I hope I find you all well and positive this week! If you have any questions you would like answered, please don't be shy! You can also ask the PAL ladies. Bake, little buns, bake!

Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you? Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Heatherhah · July 2012

Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you? he is more proactive with this pregnancy with Sydney he was very laid back and didn't go to many appts with me. He assumed we wouldn't lose her so he was very laid back. Now with this pregnancy I try to get him to go to the appt with me since my anxiety is crazy this time around. I figure we are in this together he shouldbe there for memore this time. He isn't anxious he thinks this baby will come home with us this time. I wish I was as positive as he is. Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours?

Yes he is if I tell him my stomach hurts he tells me like 20 minutes later his stomach hurts if I feel like I could be sick so does he after a few minutes. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I had my a/s and we are having another little girl so this is number 3 for us. I hope she comes home with us. Her name willbe Trinity Alivia , Trinity means number 3 so it just fits .

mollywobbles13 · July 2012

Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you? When I was pregnancy with Ellie he was beyond excited. He was super involved and talked to her from the very beginning. This time he's starting to act more like that (I'm 13 weeks) but he's been open about the fact that it's harder because he is scared too. Just last night he started rubbing my belly and kissing it. I missed that SO much! Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours?

No sympathy symptoms from him. He's very supportive of my symptoms and thankfully we can both laugh about it all and try to have fun with it. Even through the puking. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I just realized for my anatomy scan I'll be 22 weeks. I need to make sure at my appointment next week to talk to the Dr. about this and change the appointment if I need to. Also, I had one of those sleepgasims I've heard about the other day and boy it was strange.

Petunia844 · July 2012

Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you? He is more supportive but he also seems more guarded. He's way more willing to chip in and do more things around the house and for me.... I think he realizes being pregnant twice in a row isn't exactly what most women would choose to do. I think he's scared though, I feel intuitively that I know this baby will come home and he doesn't have that. He's started to let himself get more attached though, the more he can feel him and the closer it gets. Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours?
Nope, no sympathy symptoms.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Now that we've reached 3rd tri we've started work on the nursery again... it's surreal. Sometimes I can just work on it and feel excited.... but then I'll get a flashback of us having to pack everything away after Peyton died and it's really hard to get through that. I just really am putting a lot of faith in my intuition.

philfemgal · July 2012

Hi all--This is my first time posting on the pg with my rainbow check-in. I got a bfp last Wednesday so it is still SO very early. But so far my betas are good so I am trying to be somewhat positive.
Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you?It's so early at this point that we haven't gotten used to me being pregnant yet. My wife sometimes says she feels that she didn't take care of me well enough last time around. But I think that is just the natural tendency to feel like one should have done more or maybe could have prevented the bad outcomes somehow if one had done more. I think we are both on the same page in terms of fears and anxiety.

Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours? She jokes about have cravings as an excuse for eating more, but at this point I am not feeling much for her to share.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Thinking about how long the road ahead seems and trying not to think about all the many, many things that could go wrong during that road. We are going to make a sort of countdown chain out of construction paper where we can remove one link each day and make the links for big milestones be special colors. We have talked a lot in therapy about trying not to think to far into the future and trying not to be total pessimists all the time. So I figure maybe this is a good one day at a time sort of project.

Petunia844 · July 2012

philfemgal:
We are going to make a sort of countdown chain out of construction paper where we can remove one link each day and make the links for big milestones be special colors. We have talked a lot in therapy about trying not to think to far into the future and trying not to be total pessimists all the time. So I figure maybe this is a good one day at a time sort of project.

I did almost exactly this... I didn't do every day (mostly out of laziness) I did it by week... I started it I think around 14 weeks and I can't believe I'm down to only 10 links left! I even made the milestones different colors too. I love watching it get shorter!

jbranden12 · July 2012

philfemgal:
Hi all--This is my first time posting on the pg with my rainbow check-in. I got a bfp last Wednesday so it is still SO very early. But so far my betas are good so I am trying to be somewhat positive.

Congratulations, philfemgal!

Mrs Nice · July 2012

philfemgal:
Hi all--This is my first time posting on the pg with my rainbow check-in. I got a bfp last Wednesday so it is still SO very early. But so far my betas are good so I am trying to be somewhat positive.

Congratulations! I am so happy for you! I wish you a happy & healthy pregnancy and a beautiful rainbow at the end.

careyalis · July 2012

Congrats Philfemgal! Welcome to the pgal club

My husband has been much more sympathetic this pregnancy than he was early on in the last one. He thanks me all the time for giving up my body for two straight years and he always tells me that he is proud of me.

Thankfully there are no fake symptoms from DH!

I find myself getting mad at DH because nothing in his life has to change. It's not so much anger as it is jealousy that he still gets to be himself. He has to remind me that we are on the same team and he has been more than supportive, but it is just hard. This whole thing is hard. I feel like this pregnancy is taking more of a toll on my body this time.

philfemgal · July 2012

Thank you all for the congratulations.

jbraden12--I hope you and everyone else from the TTC my rainbow check in will be joining this check in very soon!

Petunia--yes I was thinking how nice it would be to watch it get shorter! I think we are going to do it just one trimester at a time since it is so early right now.

weddedwife · July 2012

Philfemgal, congrats! I hope this is your take home baby!

DH is way more supportive this time. It's not that he was unsupportive before, but he is way more paranoid this time. I'm having complications this time and am already on bed rest so suddenly he has to do everything, but he is doing really well. We are both in agreement to not further stress each other out but PgAL Is rough to begin with and bed rest just makes it crazy. No sympathy symptoms for him. I've got enough issues on my own that we don't have any room for his!

My a/s is next Tuesday, just hoping everything goes well.

themarquis0 · July 2012

Hi folks,

I am philfemgal's wife. I have posted a few times on this board here and there but never actually stopped in to officially introduce myself, so ... hi!

I hope you don't mind that I check in about our pregnancy even though it's not happening in my body! The first time around, when we lost Alice, I always laughed when people said "we're pregnant" -- this time around, I think I'm going to say it all the time ... we've gone through so much together so screw it -- we're pregnant!

Mrs Nice:
Is your s/o more supportive/involved with your rainbow pregnancy or is he about the same as last time? Does he have the same fears/anxiety as you do or are they more relaxed then you? This time, I feel like we're both a bit more present and involved. We've spent many months getting ready for this via tons of therapy and tons of talking through our fears together. So this time, it feels very ... mindful ... for lack of a better word. Like we're trying to value each moment of the pregnancy and celebrate each and every milestone, whether or not the baby makes it. This is a hard thing to do but it's feeling good so far. We both have lots of fears. I don't think there is any way around that. But we're trying to not let them control the process.
Is your s/o experiencing any "sympathy pregnancy symptoms"? If so what? Or do they have enough on their hands helping you deal with yours? Tough to answer b/c she's the one who is pregnant! I've definitely had lots of sympathy symptoms -- they feel so darned real and strong. Like last week, I was standing in the kitchen and I had a sudden urge to eat crackers and cheese with raspberry jam on top. That seemed so weird and wrong that I tried to resist it and in the end couldn't help myself and had to eat it -- it was delicious, btw. Philfemgal laughs and says they don't count as sympathy symptoms if she doesn't have them, too (she hasn't had really strong cravings yet).

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

The kitten we adopted, Blaise, continues to be on my mind. I'm also thinking a lot about Blaise's sister, Roz, who we are 'fostering' for a while while she recovers from surgery. Roz was hit by a car and really badly injured. She had her tail amputated and two surgeries on her badly broken back legs. She's doing great and is such a sweetheart -- she instantly starts purring and loving on you the minute you pick her up. Because of her broken bones (and pain meds), she doesn't move very much and hence seems very passive and baby-like. We wrap her up in a blanket and hold her like a baby for hours. Holding her stirs up so many feelings about Alice.

nuttycoconut · July 2012

My DH is very supportive of my rainbow pregnancy but is super nervous to get attached. He's been coming to the important ultrasounds (I've been going about 1x a week) and he kisses my belly and says he loves us but he really misses Max and Molly.

No sympathy symptoms but when I buy not-so-healthy food he has no problem helping me eat it!

On my mind: I'm in the hospital recovering from the Trans-abdominal cerclage I had today. When I'm up for it I will post about my experience for any IC ladies on the board. Overall it was an easier experience than I thought it would be.

Lbloom · July 2012

My DH is about as supportive/involved as last time. He is very much there for me. He doesn't have the same fears/anxieties that I have. He's an eternal optimist and thinks I'm being nuts when I notice little superstitions here and there. I know he is more concerned about our bean's well-being overall, I came home crying one day (totally unrelated to anything Pg) but he said I scared the hell out of him when I came walking in like that.

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