So, I have decided... (name related rant)

pepperchanning · July 2012

to not tell a single family member of our middle name choice when we come up with one. I had one that I LOVED, but we announced it during our reveal party and after listening to everyone's mixed reviews on the video again and again I have decided that I don't want to know what they think until it's final.

Lucille was my mn choice and I wanted to call her Lou as a nn... Wellll, bf's family all laughed at me and said that "Lou" reminded them of this guy Lou Garfinkle who used to work with their dad... They all said it pretty much in unison and it pissed me off. That was my favorite so far and I will always know they are reminded of it and blah di blah... just can't do it.

Stupid. I don't know why I'm thinking about it this morning, but it still bugs me. Angry

Then my dad hasn't liked ANY middle names I've come up with and he keeps suggesting these dumb middle names that he loves and then he gets mad when I don't really like them.

F! It's my kid and I'm going to name her what I want to name her and THAT IS FINAL!

So, I am going to continue bouncing around middle names that go with Quinn as the first on here and I am not telling a single family member the choice until it's written down on that damn piece of paper and they have no say!

EDIT: Also, the Gap is having a sale on their sale items, but they don't have sh*t in my size! POO!

ngarden01 · July 2012

I think that Quinn Lucille is an adorable name! What jerks for not liking it.

Who gives an F what they think, right?!

I like the idea of not sharing name ideas with anyone too. My best friend has already given me her thoughts about my name choices and I've wanted to punch her in the face multiple times. Don't people realize that they have absolutely ZERO say in the names that we choose for OUR children. Gahhh

pepperchanning · July 2012

ngarden01:

I think that Quinn Lucille is an adorable name! What jerks for not liking it.

Who gives an F what they think, right?!

I like the idea of not sharing name ideas with anyone too. My best friend has already given me her thoughts about my name choices and I've wanted to punch her in the face multiple times. Don't people realize that they have absolutely ZERO say in the names that we choose for OUR children. Gahhh

YES! It sucks now because I KNOW that they don't like it and they will be secretly pretending that they do! I am irritated about it and haven't been able to say anything to BF because it was HIS family with the issue. Haha

Amaryllis619 · July 2012

this is exactly why i kept DD's name secret until they got to meet her. i don't care if you like it or not, because what matters is that DH & I do. She's our daughter, and honestly once you see the cute baby even if you don't like the name, its hard to not like the cute cuddly baby associated with it.

we won't be sharing this LO's name until her birth either.

ilenegrace · July 2012

I love Quinn Lucille! A friend's daughter is Lucy and they call her LuLu I love this nn. So maybe that would be better than Lou. But really who cares do what makes you happy!

LittleFish1 · July 2012

If you do stick with Lucille, and call her Lou, they'll come up with a new association for the name. Meanwhile, not telling them sounds like a good idea (or come up with some off the wall name that you "love" (or so you tell them which you truly think is horrible), that way they'll be pleased when it's not really the chosen name.

Argh! towards your dad & in law side of the family.

BLuvsE · July 2012

No one but my husband and the bump knows my names. That's how my mom did it too so she completely understands.

hiphopdancer2007 · July 2012

I wish I would have kept my name choice a secret. We are going to name her Maezie Marie. Maezie after DH's grandma Mae and Marie comes from me and my mom. Everyone seemed to like then BIL got involved. He told everyone how much he hated the name and it is a stupid choice and he feels sorry for her! I wanted to punch him in the jingleberry's.

itsmevkb · July 2012

LittleFish1:

If you do stick with Lucille, and call her Lou, they'll come up with a new association for the name. Meanwhile, not telling them sounds like a good idea (or come up with some off the wall name that you "love" (or so you tell them which you truly think is horrible), that way they'll be pleased when it's not really the chosen name.

Argh! towards your dad & in law side of the family.

I agree with this that right now the Lou they know is the only person they have to associate the name with. Once you have your baby they will have a totally different take on the name since it will be attached to an adorable baby girl. I would stick with the name you love.

I got a ton of flack from my mom and MIL over wanting to name my son Shannon but both now admit that they couldn't imagine calling him anything else.

cjdottie · July 2012

My nickname was Lou growing up. I loved it. It started because I reminded my dados that old cartoon Little Lou Lou. And eventually got shortened to Lou. Do what you love.

sweetsunnyc · July 2012

Don't worry about what your family thinks- Lou is an adorable nn for a girl. I happen to be huge fan of unique names. My daughter's middle name is Poppy and I got so much push back from family- Now, as a 4 year old, she prefers to go by Poppy and it fits her perfectly- she's bright, sunny and cheerful like the flower. Of course, everyone loves it now.

I plan on keeping this name a secret.....

mrsgillilan · July 2012

Just do it!! our middle name is different and I know not everyone is going to like it, in fact I know they are not going to know what to say, but we don't care, we love it! My vote is to stick with Lucille!!!

ShellShockedMama · July 2012

I learned this the hard way with my son.they hated his name and gave me so much grief, I refuse to tell them this child's name until he has been born. They can't hate a name when it's already attached to a sweet newborn

ShianneKrogman · July 2012

You shouldn't have to change a thing. . . .I named my (now 5 year old) Aubrey Lucille and we still love it.

LGalipp19 · July 2012

You should still name her that if you want! The name will grow on them as they see her and hear the nick names. We chose Kate as a middle name. It was hard because I could tell my mom didn't care for it because it's "informal." As we use her name in conversation though I can tell it has already started to grow on them.

minervacullen · July 2012

I think your choice is beautiful. Who cares what they think. I am of the mind that if you tell me your opinion, I am not going to listen anyway. I am excited about names and have told a few people. Of course I've gotten "the look" from several and a few people told me I'm not allowed to name my kid x because they know someone with that name and that person sucks. Sucks to be them. I hope those people feel guilty when people choose a name they bashed.

alr5k · July 2012

I love the name Quin Lucille! It sounds like a movie star name. I say go with what you want. Are they really going to laugh at the baby and make fun of her name when she gets here?? If they are then they may not need to be around her anyways. Sorry Gap doesn't have your size by the way. that always gets under my skin too.

minervacullen · July 2012

hiphopdancer2007:
I wish I would have kept my name choice a secret. We are going to name her Maezie Marie. Maezie after DH's grandma Mae and Marie comes from me and my mom. Everyone seemed to like then BIL got involved. He told everyone how much he hated the name and it is a stupid choice and he feels sorry for her! I wanted to punch him in the jingleberry's.

OHHHHH! i would have went on a hormonal (I'd pretend it was hormonal anyway) rampage and told him off. That name is great, he's an idiot.

SingleMom31 · July 2012

My brother and his (now ex-) wife were going to name my neice Chloe Rose. My mom HATED it and acted like it was the end of the world. They ended up with Katherine Ellen (Ellen being my mom's middle name). I'm definitely not sharing until the ink dries on the birth certificate.

kescalera · July 2012

For the record, I think Quinn Lucille is beautiful! Its unique and classic all at the same time.

Don't let other people's opinion on your child's name change your mind. We are getting that alot too but we just tell people, we have chosen it, its our baby & the name means something to us, not up for discussion. Of course, my dad has already christened our child "Red" since both my DH & I are Irish with red/auburn hair

magnoliablossom00 · July 2012

Quinn Lucille is precious! I would absolutely keep it and just tell them you "haven't decided yet." Then name her that anyway. Lucille is fabulous!

magnoliablossom00 · July 2012

hiphopdancer2007:
I wish I would have kept my name choice a secret. We are going to name her Maezie Marie. Maezie after DH's grandma Mae and Marie comes from me and my mom. Everyone seemed to like then BIL got involved. He told everyone how much he hated the name and it is a stupid choice and he feels sorry for her! I wanted to punch him in the jingleberry's.

Maybe they'd back off a little if you went with the traditional spelling of Maisy, then call her Mae for short? I love the nn Mae. My grandma always called me Mae. Big Smile

kerribear1717 · July 2012

Good for you, do NOT tell anyone! It's really the best way to go. Oh and I loved giving out fake weird names to others.

jldowns123 · July 2012

For what it's worth, I think your name choices are great. Quinn Lucille (Lou) is simply wonderful.

4910bride · July 2012

I LOVE your name choice! I think it is GORGEOUS! Don't let anyone get you down, all that matters is you and your BF like it! Not many people liked DD's name (Calleigh - pronounced like "Cali" ((California)) ); & this time with having a boy I only told a couple people (MIL and my mama) our name choice, and it has gotten a negative review, BUT oh well, we are just keeping it a secret from everyone else until he gets here I guess!

KatyDidlettes · July 2012

Don't let them push you around, one of my best friend's name growing up was Julie Lou and I thought it was the most adorable name of all time.

payn0045 · July 2012

I think we have our names chosen, but we are not telling. It's going to be tough though. My parents ask every week if we have name ideas, and so far, since we haven't been sure, I've just said "we've got some ideas".... but eventually this isn't going to work anymore. I don't know how to flat out tell them they don't get to know!

weddedwife · July 2012

Who cares what they think? This is why you shouldn't tell anybody any of your names before the baby's born.

Ashley5704 · July 2012

My DH's aunt has given us all kinds of rude feedback on our middle name. So basically I stopped telling ANYBODY what our names were until we found out we were having. And I told them what the name was and that's final. And they can just keep their opinions to theirself.

It's YOUR baby... not their's! Btw: I think Quinn Lucille is so cute!

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