Hi,
My 10 month old has a giraffe lovey since he was born. We only allow him to have it in his crib or on long car trips. Lately he's been throwing it out of his crib in the morning (at 6:15am) and then cries for it. Additionally, I've been reading that it's good to get rid of the lovey sooner than later. The problem: I feel too guilty! His face lights up at the sight of his lovey! Not to mention that he falls fast asleep as soon as he has it Anyone else had these feelings??
Re: Guilty feelings getting rid of lovey?
I'm not sure why you would want to get rid of his lovey, it's a comfort item for him. I think comfort items are incredibly important at this age and even for a while now. I don't see the big deal in a giraffe lovey being around for the next few years. It could be worse!
Maybe he is ready to get up for the day at that time? Does he go back to sleep when you give it back?
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
Then don't get rid of it.
Either go get it for him and then return to bed until 7, or let him cry. Or get up at that time.
I get getting rid of the paci early (we are in this boat/dilemma), but I don't see the big deal in keeping a lovey around for a while.
My daughter is 9mo. She's never had a bottle at night. She used a paci until about 7mo and she stopped on her own. She has a silky blanket that she snuggles with. I understand your apprehension letting your LO keep the Lovie but really, a bed time snuggle buddy is not so bad. My 2.5year old nephew has a blanket he sleeps with. As long as he has his blanket he can sleep anywhere, in the car, at grandparent's house, in a hotel, on vacation etc. He doesn't carry it around during the day or hold it when he eats, just when he goes to sleep. IMO I don't think there is anything wrong with a toddler having a Lovie/blanket etc. for comfort. I wouldn't take it away. However, I certainly wouldn't go in every morning to get it!
This. The true benefits of a lovey come much later, like during DS's first overnight at grandma's and trips to the doctor. They provide a lot of comfort, stability and familiarity that parents often can't. My oldest's lovey -- aptly named Lovey -- has truly become a member of our family. Even at 4.5, we have no plans to wean him... it'll eventually happen on its own. Or go to college with him.
~Working Mom~Breastfeeding Mom~Cloth Diapering Mom~BLW Mom~
Blog - No Longer on the DL ~ The Man Cave
Shawn and Larissa
LO #1 - Took 2 years and 2 IVFs ~ DX - severe MFI mild PCOS homozygous MTHFR (a1298c)
LO #2 - TTC 7 months, surprise spontaneous BFP!
I would not get rid of the lovey either.
Hell, I'm trying to get my kid to HAVE a lovey. I'm it lately.
I wouldn't - I didn't. DD#1 is going to be 4 in two weeks and still sleeps with about five!! She doesn't take them all over the place with her (some kids won't leave the house with them) as we always told her they were for bed. She loves them...hippo, lamby, ducky, nemo and baby ducky! They are a part of our family! LOL
As for the issue of throwing it out of the bed and crying - my suggestion is just to correct that behavior. LO could become attached to a blanky or something else and just keep doing that with another item.