UO Thursday

hockeyfan42 · July 2012

Let's hear 'em.

Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.

catlackey · July 2012

I think the Olympics is a total waste of time with too much hype... But I do love Michael Phelps.

wychets · July 2012

hockeyfan42:

Let's hear 'em.

Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.

You will probably "hate" me for this but...I never sent out thank you cards for my shower Embarrassed I brought them, filled them out, and then a few days later I was induced and had DD. It totally slipped my mind after having a NB. FWIW I think poeple understood.

*people

Smgrochowski · July 2012

The Holloween posts made me think of mine.

I don't like when people bring babies trick-or-treating with a candy bag. I understand the baby (usually) has an older sibling, and I love seeing the cute costumes, but the treat bag is over the top.

kwinkle1980 · July 2012

I don't think a baby is really giving kisses when he pulls your face to his mouth. I think he is just tasting it like everything else...that is how babies learn textures and whatnot.

InTheSun · July 2012

kwinkle1980:
I don't think a baby is really giving kisses when he pulls your face to his mouth. I think he is just tasting it like everything else...that is how babies learn textures and whatnot.

LOL ITA. I think a lot of what babies do is based on our reactions...like fake coughing for the funny face I make at him. I don't think he's really kissing, really hugging, or really waving bye-bye.

InTheSun · July 2012

hockeyfan42:
Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.

ITA. As a matter of fact, writing thank you notes is on my "to-do" list today. I'm including DH on my list of recipients because he did A LOT for me yesterday and topped it all off by making my favorite peanut butter brownies. He deserves a thank you note...plus...!!!

emilyerin13 · July 2012

hockeyfan42:
Let's hear 'em.
Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.

I TOTALLY agree! I send thank you cards for just about everything. I've sent out thank yous for all of DD's birthday gifts (and of course shower and birth gifts) and even for those who attended but did not bring gifts. I also sent them out for the thoughtful and generous Christmas gifts she received. I'll do the same things now with DS too.

My cousin recently got married and she sent everyone a picture of them taken on their honeymoon with the words "Thank You" at the bottom of the pic. That was all, nothing else. I think it was incredibly tacky and rude. Similarly, we just attended a birthday party for a 3YO. A week later there was a message on the FB Event page created for the party thanking everyone for the gifts (they didn't open them during the party). I don' think its too much to ask that you write a heartfelt thank you to the person/family for attending your event and thank them for the specific gift you received.

ccip82 · July 2012

Smgrochowski:
The Holloween posts made me think of mine.
I don't like when people bring babies trick-or-treating with a candy bag. I understand the baby (usually) has an older sibling, and I love seeing the cute costumes, but the treat bag is over the top.

I am in full agreement with this...I hate it too...why you ask?

1. Your kid is too young to even know what candy is

2. You are only doing this for free candy yourself

3. That's one less piece of candy for me

Piggybacking on this topic...I hate when I put the bowl of candy out and some little turd takes a huge handful. My mom taught us to take one piece of candy, I never would have had the balls to take a fistful. (I'm talking about kids old enough to know better here) I snatch the bowl back and tell them to take one...

Greenbaby3114 · July 2012

InTheSun:
kwinkle1980:
I don't think a baby is really giving kisses when he pulls your face to his mouth. I think he is just tasting it like everything else...that is how babies learn textures and whatnot.
LOL ITA. I think a lot of what babies do is based on our reactions...like fake coughing for the funny face I make at him. I don't think he's r
eally kissing, really hugging, or really waving bye-bye.

Oh I agree. But DH swears he is doing this stuff. I've been around and worked with a lot of babies and children of all ages. I kind of have an idea DH swears he waved bye to him at the babysitters. Even the baby sitter said it too. Fact is DS makes that hand motion a lot...to be picked up, when he is excited, playing with his shadow, etc. I see it all day! I just let him believe it. We're still modeling bye bye for him but I'm not convinced yet he actually knows what he is doing. Haha. And here comes my UO: parents who think their children are more advanced than they really are. Being a teacher I get so annoyed. Do they really not see what I see daily?? Or they just don't know because they've never been around other children besides their own. One year I had a parent want a conference to talk about their 2nd grader's "career path" What effin career? He is 7 yrs old...let's calm down. My school is super competitive. I have to take several parents down a notch every year.

iluvmylab · July 2012

I think people who don't save for their future are ridiculous and selfish. DH ended up with thousands in student loans and worked over 30 hours a week to put himself through college because his parents didn't save anything for him. We are still paying those back when we could be saving that money for our children.

And I think adult children moving in with their parents and parents moving in with their kids because they didn't save for their own retirement is ridiculous too. There are different circumstances, but if you don't plan ahead that's your fault, don't mooch off someone else.

hockeyfan42 · July 2012

emilyerin13:
hockeyfan42:
Let's hear 'em.
Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.
I TOTALLY agree! I send thank you cards for just about everything. I've sent out thank yous for all of DD's birthday gifts (and of course shower and birth gifts) and even for those who attended but did not bring gifts. I also sent them out for the thoughtful and generous Christmas gifts she received. I'll do the same things now with DS too.
My cousin recently got married and she sent everyone a picture of them taken on their honeymoon with the words "Thank You" at the bottom of the pic. That was all, nothing else. I think it was incredibly tacky and rude. Similarly, we just attended a birthday party for a 3YO. A week later there was a message on the FB Event page created for the party thanking everyone for the gifts (they didn't open them during the party). I don' think its too much to ask that you write a heartfelt thank you to the person/family for attending your event and thank them for the specific gift you received.

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I send TYCs for everything. I also make it a point to get them all done within a week of the event or whatever the reason might be.

Most recently, I sent a baby gift to a friend. I spent a ton of time making a quilt, bibs, receiving blankets & burp cloths plus bought a few registry items. She send my child a gift back in December as well. I sent her a TYC. She sent me a FB message that said, " got your package. thanks." It makes me feel like she didn't appreciate it and makes me think twice about sending her anything in the future.

This is probably more FFFC, but I love picking out or designing new thank you cards. Writing them makes me happy. To me, it's just good manners.

jvg6909 · July 2012

I don't have any desire to cloth diaper and am fine with using disposables.

iluvmylab · July 2012

I have another one. I think people over think solids.

ccip82 · July 2012

iluvmylab:
I have another one. I think people over think solids.

Guilty...

Until I posted about it a while back and realised it.

catlackey · July 2012

Agreed! They are pretty basic and straight forward.

bendylim · July 2012

I totally agree on people over thinking solids- unless there is a history of allergies I don't think it's that tough.

I think if you take your child to the beach, you should play with your child on the beach, in the water- especially if they are young and can't swim well. If you don't want to swim, you should at least sit close to the water- not 100 yards away or so talking on your phone, eating a snack. You should especially not have an older child who can barely swim watch a younger child who can't swim. I see this ALL the time at the lake here in town and it irritates me immensely.

InTheSun · July 2012

hockeyfan42:
emilyerin13:
hockeyfan42:
Let's hear 'em.
Mine is lame and about thank you cards. I think when someone gives you a gift or hosts a dinner you attend, etc, they should get a thank you card. Not a facebook message. Not a text. A thank you card. With a thoughtful note expressing your appreciation. Apparently, most of my friends think this is dumb. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine.
I TOTALLY agree! I send thank you cards for just about everything. I've sent out thank yous for all of DD's birthday gifts (and of course shower and birth gifts) and even for those who attended but did not bring gifts. I also sent them out for the thoughtful and generous Christmas gifts she received. I'll do the same things now with DS too.
My cousin recently got married and she sent everyone a picture of them taken on their honeymoon with the words "Thank You" at the bottom of the pic. That was all, nothing else. I think it was incredibly tacky and rude. Similarly, we just attended a birthday party for a 3YO. A week later there was a message on the FB Event page created for the party thanking everyone for the gifts (they didn't open them during the party). I don' think its too much to ask that you write a heartfelt thank you to the person/family for attending your event and thank them for the specific gift you received.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! I send TYCs for everything. I also make it a point to get them all done within a week of the event or whatever the reason might be.
Most recently, I sent a baby gift to a friend. I spent a ton of time making a quilt, bibs, receiving blankets & burp cloths plus bought a few registry items. She send my child a gift back in December as well. I sent her a TYC. She sent me a FB message that said, " got your package. thanks." It makes me feel like she didn't appreciate it and makes me think twice about sending her anything in the future.
This is probably more FFFC, but I love picking out or designing new thank you cards. Writing them makes me happy. To me, it's just good manners.

DH and I have an ongoing competition to see who can write the best thank you notes. We both get compliments from people all the time about our TY notes and then brag to each other.

I, too, hate when people don't send a thank you card. My friend has four kids and I send gifts frequently. She doesn't even acknowledge them!!!! It drives me crazy! For her 3rd child I created an elaborate gift basket and spent tons of time on it (the baby clothes were shaped like flowers so it looked like a bouquet)...she didn't even tell me she got the gift! I was so pissed! Ugh! Send a freaking note!!!

ccip82 · July 2012

I have another...

I find it inconsiderate when someone has their wedding over a holiday weekend...especially when the majority of your guests live out of town...yes I am talking to you BIL..

1. airfare is always friggen more expensive

2. some people make family plans on holidays

alber2am · July 2012

I hate seeing toddlers walking around with pacifiers in their mouths all day long. It's unsanitary for one thing-they are constantly taking them out, setting them down and then putting them back in and it's bad for their oral development.

kwinkle1980 · July 2012

I think it is a bit silly that so many parenting choices have become philosohies. BLW, cloth diapers, Ferber, baby wearing...I mean really.

Happily Overwhelmed · July 2012

kwinkle1980:
I think it is a bit silly that so many parenting choices have become philosohies. BLW, cloth diapers, Ferber, baby wearing...I mean really.

Yes

MadisonMommy23 · July 2012

I agree about the thank you notes. I write thank yous for everything we receive. I stock up on those $1 packs of blank cards from Target. I keep them at home and school. I always write one to students for acts of kindness or gifts I receive. I think I am helping teach my students the importance of showing respect and gratefulness. I plan to teach DS to do the same. DH doesn't ever write them; it makes me frustrated.

MesmrEwe · July 2012

kwinkle1980:
I think it is a bit silly that so many parenting choices have become philosohies. BLW, cloth diapers, Ferber, baby wearing...I mean really.

Yes Yes

It's not just these but so many others as well! What ever happened to using what works for each particular child..

Mine (and maybe it should be a FFFC): I hate getting notes this week about my late grandfather's what would have been 100th birthday and people gushing over him and how wonderful he was and how much they miss him. To say I have very little nice to say about the jerk/AH/pick your verb - would be an understatement, but I'll keep my mouth shut because I'm way too nice to expose the "man behind the green curtain"... (I could go on for a week the cruel things he did to our family and myself)..

kwinkle1980 · July 2012

MesmrEwe:
kwinkle1980:
I think it is a bit silly that so many parenting choices have become philosohies. BLW, cloth diapers, Ferber, baby wearing...I mean really.

It's not just these but so many others as well! What ever happened to using what works for each particular child..

Mine (and maybe it should be a FFFC): I hate getting notes this week about my late grandfather's what would have been 100th birthday and people gushing over him and how wonderful he was and how much they miss him. To say I have very little nice to say about the jerk/AH/pick your verb - would be an understatement, but I'll keep my mouth shut because I'm way too nice to expose the "man behind the green curtain"... (I could go on for a week the cruel things he did to our family and myself)..

Oh, wow, I can really relate to this. My DH's grandparents are really awful people...abused their 4 children to the point where two of them can hardly function and the other two have serious issues as well. They are MEAN. I strongly dislike them. Every year they throw an anniversary hooplah where they rent a hall and have the entire universe out to celebrate and shower them with compliments. It sickens me.

I could also go on and on about the cruel things they did...and are still doing to this day.

brookie9 · July 2012

I don't have a smart phone for a couple reasons...that's a lot of money to spend for instant Internet access when I have unlimited access at home and work...and I feel like so many people are constantly "plugged in" and are missing out on the real life that is going on around them. I am so sick of coworkers and others I know b!tching about how broke they are when I know they and their spouse each pay for a data plan, pay for cable/satellite TV, maybe have an expensive car payment. Do the math, people, and make some sacrifices or quit complaining.

Happily Overwhelmed · July 2012

brookie9:
I don't have a smart phone for a couple reasons...that's a lot of money to spend for instant Internet access when I have unlimited access at home and work...and I feel like so many people are constantly "plugged in" and are missing out on the real life that is going on around them. I am so sick of coworkers and others I know b!tching about how broke they are when I know they and their spouse each pay for a data plan, pay for cable/satellite TV, maybe have an expensive car payment. Do the math, people, and make some sacrifices or quit complaining.

Weirdly we only have smart phones because it was cheaper to. DH uses it a lot for work and adding me to that package was cheaper than me getting a boring old phone.

I do feel way too "plugged in" though. Personally I only feel like I NEED it for traveling. I'd be cool with an old school CB in my truck though.

alove4chevys · July 2012

brookie9:
I don't have a smart phone for a couple reasons...that's a lot of money to spend for instant Internet access when I have unlimited access at home and work...and I feel like so many people are constantly "plugged in" and are missing out on the real life that is going on around them. I am so sick of coworkers and others I know b!tching about how broke they are when I know they and their spouse each pay for a data plan, pay for cable/satellite TV, maybe have an expensive car payment. Do the math, people, and make some sacrifices or quit complaining.

agreed! This is especially annoying when they are on foodstamps, wic, gov housing, childcare paid by the state and have multuple children on the state.

CountingUp · July 2012

Happily Overwhelmed:
brookie9:
I don't have a smart phone for a couple reasons...that's a lot of money to spend for instant Internet access when I have unlimited access at home and work...and I feel like so many people are constantly "plugged in" and are missing out on the real life that is going on around them. I am so sick of coworkers and others I know b!tching about how broke they are when I know they and their spouse each pay for a data plan, pay for cable/satellite TV, maybe have an expensive car payment. Do the math, people, and make some sacrifices or quit complaining.
Weirdly we only have smart phones because it was cheaper to. DH uses it a lot for work and adding me to that package was cheaper than me getting a boring old phone.
I do feel way too "plugged in" though. Personally I only feel like I NEED it for traveling. I'd be cool with an old school CB in my truck though.

my smartphone is on a pay as I go/no contract plan. I spend 20/month and that's all the data buying I need.

Happily Overwhelmed · July 2012

I think birthday cards are a waste.

Don't get me wrong. I love when people remember my birthday. But $4 for a glorified piece of paper? And what the heck do I do with them? It doesn't help that my brother works for Hallmark corporate (so I feel like I have to buy pricier Hallmark cards).

asyph107 · July 2012

I don't think this is too unpopular..I'm a huge believer in thank you cards! It's just good manners no matter the circumstances, especially if someone stays in your home as a guest overnight or receives a gift.

robynlynn83 · July 2012

My UO: I don't think there is anything wrong with parents not paying for their children's college education. I am AOK with the student loan debt I have, I chose an expensive college, I graduated in three years so as to not incur a lot of debt. I applied and received a Fulbright to further my education and I am paying back my student loans. My parents paid 0 for my college education and I respect them for it.

hockeyfan42 · July 2012

asyph107:
I don't think this is too unpopular..I'm a huge believer in thank you cards! It's just good manners no matter the circumstances, especially if someone stays in your home as a guest overnight or receives a gift.

Maybe it's just unpopular with my group of friends. I'm glad to know other people feel the same way i do.

hockeyfan42 · July 2012

robynlynn83:
My UO: I don't think there is anything wrong with parents not paying for their children's college education. I am AOK with the student loan debt I have, I chose an expensive college, I graduated in three years so as to not incur a lot of debt. I applied and received a Fulbright to further my education and I am paying back my student loans. My parents paid 0 for my college education and I respect them for it.

i agree with you. I don't see why my parents should have to pay for my choice. I think paying for my own education kept me accountable and motivated to do well in every class.

Greenbaby3114 · July 2012

hockeyfan42:
robynlynn83:
My UO: I don't think there is anything wrong with parents not paying for their children's college education. I am AOK with the student loan debt I have, I chose an expensive college, I graduated in three years so as to not incur a lot of debt. I applied and received a Fulbright to further my education and I am paying back my student loans. My parents paid 0 for my college education and I respect them for it.
i agree with you. I don't see why my parents should have to pay for my choice. I think paying for my own education kept me accountable and motivated to do well in every class.

Or your parents just couldn't flat out afford it. My mom was a SAHM until we were in HS then she got a job which didn't pay much. My mom and dad lived basically pay check to pay check. DH's mom and dad too. My sis got KU when she was 16. What was I going to do? Not go to college? DH and I both have student loans. It is what it is. We're living a life our parents never did and we are ok that we had (still have to) pay for it. We will start a college savings fund for DS but I doubt it will pay for everything so the kid is going to have to hit the books hard and/or play sports for scholarships. OR dum dum dum...take out student loans like the rest of us poor suckers.

kwinkle1980 · July 2012

I am there with you, Greenbaby. My parents did not have money. It was not their fault--just a set of circumstances beyond their control.

I am proud of my parents, and I don't feel that they wronged me. I have students loans, and they have a very low interst rate. I can pay them and still save for my child's future.

That said, it is a HUGE source of pride for me that I put MYSELF through undergrad and my master's. I would not have had it any other way.

It is not a crime or bad parenting to be poor.

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