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Medical History....

rsp247rsp247 member
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So I haven't heard from LO's father in a little over 2 months. I'm fine with that. And I am fine and somewhat relieved that he wants nothing to do with it as I won't have to worry about him asking for custody or anything. 

I realized that as she gets older if anything were to happen to her or she gets sick I wont know her family medical history from his side. I know people who get adopeted have to deal with that all the time, but I was wondering if I should just call and ask him, send him paperwork to fill out or e-mail him?

I found a form online that was pretty generic and had a list of things and asks you to list who had those diseases or ailments.

What do you ladies think?

 

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member
    I showed up at his house unannounced with paper work and started asking questions. I was young and dumb then, so I wouldn't advise it now unless you know the father very very well and there isn't ANY kind of domestic violence including emotional abuse.
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  • rsp247rsp247 member
    Yea he is a bit over dramatic and likes to try to kill himself so I don't think I want to just show up. Heck he is still holding my stuff hostage at his house and I have keys to his house. When I asked for my stuff he called me a selfish b!tch. I may be able to get the information via his ex who is the mother of his first child. She may have asked for it already. I didn't know if I sent it through a lawyer if it would make it look more official and he may just fill it out and send it back. I have a friend who is a lawyer unfortunatly he is in criminal law and not family law but he would probably send it for me.
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  • rsp247rsp247 member

    I was more concerned because they thought LO had a heart defect and I was sent to see a specialist to have an echo done. I realized that I didn't know if heart problems ran in his family. No one in my family ever had any heart issues.

     I figured that it might be easier to find out sooner then later since he tends to like to try and kill himself.( Apparently it's a favorite past time of his.) So I thought I might want to find out before I don't have anyone to ask.

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  • keychain01keychain01

    My son E kept having fevers above 103 (still does) so one night while we were still at the hospital I called his father. I was tired and the doctors KEPT asking me if there was any medical histories that they needed to know about. E's father answered and I asked him. He gave this crazy long list of problems HE had when he was younger that NEVER came up while we were together. I had him on speaker phone and one of the aids wrote down everything he said. I'm glad I asked him because it shed some light on things, including E's reoccuring problems. Let me say by the way that E's father wanted nothing to do with E but when I called him from the hospital and told him that we had been there for almost three days he wiped the crust from his eyes and got down to business. I would hate for you to have to get as far as I did to find out if there is anything you should know. And thats just my opinion!

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  • rsp247rsp247 member

    Unfortunately his mother passed away from cancer I believe it was lung cancer and his father had a stroke and spends most of his time in and out of rehab and hospitals because of it. 

    I hope I never have to be in the situation that Keychain01 was in but if I was I would hope that I would be prepared for it.  

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