Two steps forward, three steps back.

D&S724 · July 2012

We first found out about my m/c two weeks ago, and my D&C was on Tuesday. DH and I are starting to come to terms with our loss and looking toward the future. Just as I am starting to get out of my funk, I get a letter in the mail from an ultrasound company that said something to the effect of:

"Congratulations on your pregnancy! We offer 3D/4D Ultrasounds...."

I have no idea how they got my name or knew I was pregnant, but seeing that felt like a knife in my chest. Ugh! When does it start to get easier?

raashton · July 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Much strength and love to you right now.

The pain does get easier with time; however, there will still be though blindsides that take your breath away. They do get fewer and further between but will still exist. It sucks and it isn't fair.

JennOH85 · July 2012

dillngr9:
raashton:

I am so sorry for your loss. Much strength and love to you right now.

The pain does get easier with time; however, there will still be though blindsides that take your breath away. They do get fewer and further between but will still exist. It sucks and it isn't fair.

This. Exactly. I still get the wind knocked out of me from time to time, but I'm finding that I'm growing stronger each day. I'm so sorry you find yourself here, but hope that you find comfort here!

All of this. Time passes, but sometimes it still feels like yesterday I was sitting in the doctor's office getting the news. I'm very sorry for your loss.

RedPhoenix625 · July 2012

I'm very sorry for your loss. There will be many reminders as you grieve, but perhaps none so sharp as the freaking ultrasound ad. Ugh! I swear these baby companies are vultures.

ALB1067 · July 2012

I can relate to where you're at right now. I have a few great days, and then will get totally blindsided by something. Last week I was feeling pretty good and very much looking forward to the future. This week, I have just been so, SO angry. I know I won't ever forget, but that it will get better with time.

I'm so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs)) to you!

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Ana0927 · July 2012

I am sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, reminders will always be around. I don't think they will ever get any easier to deal but hopefully you can move from them quickly.

khays8785 · July 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss, and i'm sorry you had to get a crappy reminder like that in the mail...

It's almost been two months and I just got an email reminding me of CordBlood Banking and a discount I'd get if I registered before 31weeks...

it gets easier, but I think there will always be moments...

April! · July 2012

((hugs)) I'm sorry for your loss. Getting those little reminders is so painful.

It takes time, but the rough edges of your grief will start to fade. It helps to let yourself grieve, and not resist your feelings of sadness or whatever you're feeling. Take care of yourself, most of all. My acupuncturist says to let yourself have the feelings, but to not get stuck in them. It's ok to be sad for a while. It has been four months since my miscarriage, and my grief is not so sharp but is still always in the background.

Julesg22 · July 2012

Totally know the feeling....two weeks or so after I started back to work, one of my patients came in and the first thing she said was "let's see that baby bump"....obviously when I told her she was mortified and so embarassed. But that's just the type of thing you may run into a few times, and it hurts each time it happens. I'm sorry for the painful reminder.

HoolahZinger · July 2012

I got information just recently about considering cord blood donation. How did they even get my information? I'm sorry, I feel your pain

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