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October 2012 Moms
Enjoying your pregnancy? Not me!
FTM here and I feel guilty for feeling this way, but I have not enjoyed this pregnancy AT ALL. I was throwing up for 4 1/2 months and am super self conscious about my body changing. I work with skinny gorgeous women and feel like they are sizing me up every day I come to work. I hate it! I am also super sensitive to people making comments about how "pregnant" or "big" I am getting. Overall, I have only gained about 15 lbs and am only gaining it in my belly. I am 6 mos along and just popped recently - but is it bad to feel angry when people make comments? The worst is when they come from people who don't have kids or have no idea what I'm going through! Don't get me wrong, I am so excited about having this baby and becoming a mom. I just envy women out there who say they LOVE being pregnant and it's so amazing blah blah blah.
Would love to hear from any of you going through the same emotions I am. Thanks!
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Re: Enjoying your pregnancy? Not me!
Remembering my angel baby, Ezekiel, 09/03/2011...you will forever be in my heart.
I'm not going through EXACTLY what you are - but ..
I get tired of hearing people say - ooh I miss being pregnant. I really fully believe - NO YOU DON"T you just THINK you do. Yes - feeling the baby move and KNOWING you are growing a human - ok that may be cool.. however...
Peeing every 5 minutes, getting up 5 times a night, not being comfortable, dealing with swollen ankles.. weird food problems (even if you don't have MS you definiatly have acid reflux or a host of other issues) - not being able to do what you want when you want (or at all) not being able to bend in the middle.. etc.
Add to my pregnancy the fact that she lies on my ureter (tube between your kidney and your bladder) and thus at will acts like a kidney stone and backs up my kidney causing LARGE back pain.. yeah.. to say I'm excited to have this baby is a BIG understatement. I've waited YEARS to do this and I know how truely blessed I am to do it.
but please.. do not tell me you enjoyed it and loved it. You didn't - you just think and like to remember that you did. The day in and day out of pregnancy isn't pretty - the overall picture is amazing (agreed). So.. don't feel guilty - that you don't like it all - just try and remember - you are doing this because you want this baby - and try to ignore the others as much as you can. I have never been one to care about my body (sure its scary how much weight I've put on and its going to be a b*tch to take it off) but I'm trying to NOT stress about it.
So.. let your emotions be what they are.. and realize you are also hormonal and I think some of the feelings we have at this time are about the fear of - are we ready for all of this??
I've gained 30 lbs and people keep asking me of I'm having twins! I also have not enjoyed being pregnant, though i can't wait for my little guy to be here with us! I feel you. I'm very self conscious about the weight I've put on and worry I won't be able to take it off before. I was actually considerd under weight when I got pregnant so I'm surprised I've gained so much.
I agree with this. Don't let others get to you and you have to decide to be happy each day that you wake up. Don't let those skinny b!tc#e$ make you feel bad
You can only change your reaction to these people, not anything they do...maybe they aren't "sizing you up," you just feel like they are. I doubt anyone who is thin is looking at a pregnant person and thinking, wow they are fat. I am sure they are thinking, "they are pregnant." Which you are. You can look pregnant and it's FINE. If you just don't care that people say you look pregnant, you can be a whole lot happier for the next three months. I know you weren't looking for anyone not feeling the same way as you, but I just think that you have the ability to be happier than you are.
I personally did miss being pregnant, and I genuinely enjoy it, even though I am of course, uncomfortable at times. So it's not impossible. But I am also not that sensitive to people saying weird things...people are weird!
I can't say I've enjoyed EVERYTHING about being pregnant, but I can say that there were a few perks. I have to say that I could have been worse. But I definitely keep reminding myself that the little girl growing inside me is worth it. Can't wait to hold her in my arms instead of in my belly!
For your amusement, I've listed it all out below. I'm sure you can relate and probably add to it! LOL
Things I hated:
1) The first 5 1/2 months of morning sickness so bad I had to get a nausea pill to help me.
2) Uncontrollable gag reflex, especially when I brush my teeth.
3) Round ligament Pain
4) Constipation from the nausea pill
5) Finding out that my belly button still had part of my umbilical cord attached and I'd never noticed cuz it was such an inny!
6) Colostrum leaking from my nipples. The stuff is sticky and is hard to clean off sometimes!
7) Not bending over normally.
8) Feeling my insides squishing into my ribcage.
9) Going through that awkward stage where you just look like you are fat and not pregnant for a ridiculous amount of time!
10) NO HOT DOGS! I miss them so much!
11) Having to spend a ridiculous amount of money each time I grow out of my clothes to get maternity clothes!
12) Actually finding maternity clothes that don't make me look like a whale! Why is it that designers think pregnant women gain weight EVERYWHERE when they get pregnant? I either find stuff that fits the belly but not my top, or vice versa!
13) Having Spidey Smell and getting stuck smelling every person that forgot to brush their teeth! I could have barfed on all of them!
14) Mood swings
15) Headaches
16) swollen feet
17) Feeling tired CONSTANTLY.
18) Never getting enough sleep.
19) CONSTANTLY having to pee!
20) Heartburn and that constant burny feeling you get since your insides are shoved into your ribcage.
21) Sciatica!
22) Not being able to touch your toes to cut your toenails!
23) Not being able to see your lady parts to do some landscaping. I'm turning into a pregnant contortionist here!
24) Implantation. I actually felt that. It hurt. Felt like my insides had been hit by a car.
25) Having to sleep with a pillow under the belly and between the legs, otherwise the weight shifting hurts.
26) Being hot all the time, especially at night. And now that it's summer, it really sucks.
Things I've Enjoyed:
1) My boobs growing from an A to a C, and apparently continuing to grow. I think I'm moving into D territory now. And I didn't even need implants! How bout that!
2) Having the clearest skin I've ever had in my life!
3) Not having to lift or move a thing! I get everyone else to do it for me!
4) Not having to clean the bathrooms for 9 months! Amazing! DH does it all!
5) Feeling LO kick and move inside me. Although I don't enjoy her kicking my bladder, my lungs, or snuggling against the lowest part of my abdomen. She tends to make my RLP hurt more when she does that one.
6) Feeling my LO hicup for the first time.
7) Looking at all my US's and vids, watching my LO grow inside me.
8) Hearing her little heart beat.
9) Feeling her kick to music when I play it.
10) looking forward to maternity leave and the time away from work that entails.
I've had a fairly easy pregnancy so far and honestly I can't wait to work on getting my pre-pregnancy body back. I've never been big so gaining all this weight and looking this way is bothering me. I've gained only in my belly also.
I love feeling the baby move and my newfound boobs but in all honesty, I really want to wear my old clothes again. I know once it's over, I will most probably miss being pregnant so I am trying to enjoy every single minute of what is left.
Don't let other people's comments get to you although I know it's hard. Just remind yourself that you are creating a beautiful baby in you and that no matter how you look, it's worth it in the end.
I hear you sister! haha! I am "normally" a very confident person! And feel very good about myself and body and dont really care what others think or say....
THAT IS UNTIL.... im prego!
Then I pick apart my body and my weight and what people say to me! I feel very not like myself and not comfy in my own body! But hey is only 40 weeks! we can do it!!!!
Good luck and head up! xo
I don't think I am ever going to be one of those people that says " I love being pregnant " when it's all over. I threw up, a lot, untill about 2 weeks ago. I just haven't felt myself in a long time. Now the emotions are starting, I cried myself to sleep last night.
I love feeling him move, kick, etc. And I love the attention. I just don't love how I feel. I think it's going to take me a while to want to be pregnant again, even though I know we really want another LO someday.
I know when it's all over I'll be glad I did it, and I know it will be MORE than worth it, and I know it could be A LOT worse. Just the worrying all the time, all the stuff that can go 'wrong' and being sick... I haven't enjoyed the mind games. So I can relate.
REally don't want to hijack this but:
10) NO HOT DOGS! I miss them so much!
HUH? I've been eating hot dogs and my OB never said anything - its actually one of my bigger cravings.. I do try and get the all beef mostly not processed kind.. but am I missing something major here?
Also - if you can afford it (and I actually found the little cheaper spots were the best) - get a pedicure..
That might take 2 things off your list
I feel the same way! I'm excited about my little boy getting here, but I've had so many medical issues it's just not been enjoyable.
Low amniotic fluid, the baby not growing, and through Gest Diabetes on top of that...It's just been a rough, scary ride.
I also have had issues with my weight gain. It's so hard to go from caring about what you eat to relaxing and eating more.
Anyways, hopefully it will get better, but I've already said this is my first and last pregnancy. I can't stand the stress of not knowing if he is going to be ok.
I was told to stay away from nitrates. Hot dogs are one of the big ones. I know there are some kosher dogs out there that are ok, but they don't taste the same. I've only been able to get the chicken sausages from Nature's Way that are gluten and nitrate free. They are yummy, but still not the same as a good Caspers dog. So I've put in an order with my mom for after the baby is out. LOL
This is what I was going to say.