How did you make it through third tri?

ShopperKristi · July 2012

So I am feeling kind of sorry for myself today (and know I shouldn't be). At my 30 week appt. yesterday I was measuring what a singleton would at 40 weeks and the thought of feeling 40+ weeks pregnant for the next 7-8 weeks completely overwhelmed me.

My body has actually adjusted really well and on paper everything looks great (no BP problems, no cervix issues, babies growing well, etc.) so I know I should be SO grateful BUT I am getting so uncomfortable and the thought of two more months makes me want to cry. My Dr. sees no reason why I can't keep working full time and commuting two hours a day because I have no medical issues but it is exhausting!

So my question to you lovely ladies is - what did you do to get through your third trimester? Did you have exercises that relaxed you? A mantra? A position you felt most comfortable in? Something to distract you? I'm just not sure what to do with myself right now to help push through to the end. Open to any and all suggestions (or just tell me to stop being a whiney bish)

SpinningJess · July 2012

I can't stop you from being a whiny bish because that's exactly what I was!! Like you, on paper everything looked great but I was contracting 5-10 minutes apart for 4-6 hours a day by this point and was just comletely miserable. My doc said she would take me off of work whenever I wanted, so at 32 weeks I called it. I sat at home watching Days of Our Lives and Make Room For Multiples for 4 weeks before they were born. Everything hurt, breathing was so challenging it left me out of breath. Blah blah blah you are familiar with it all by now. You just have to take it one day at a time, and if you are just too miserable to work tell your doc you need a reason to be off work (if it works for you financially). HUGS - you're in the home stretch even though it sure doesn't feel like it!

JustcallmeGG2 · July 2012

shopping got me through!

and plus, you probably won't go the whole 2 months... i delivered at 35 weeks just when it was getting way too hard to function.

ETA: My 3rd tri really wasn't that bad. The worst part was sleeping (or lack therof). I didn't have any heartburn, and my feet were swollen for months so i was used to it.

LadyNikon · July 2012

dude.. that scares me. But I am glad you brought this up! I have been wondering at 20 weeks how I will make it because I feel so tired all the time. Hang in there mama!

icedcoffeeluv · July 2012

I have no advice because I am feeling the exact same as you right now.

It looks like I am one day behind you (30 wks 3 days today) and this morning I have just been so uncomfortable sitting at my desk. My legs were swollen before I even left my house and I just can't get into a comfortable position at my desk. I got out of bed early because I just couldn't lay there anymore my hips were killing me.

I feel so guilty complaining because I feel so lucky and blessed to have been complication free up to this point (and hopefully going forward).

So I wasn't trying to turn this around onto myself but just wanted to let you know I completely understand how you are feeling right now!

scorch · July 2012

Oh ,I have so much sympathy for 3rd tri MoMs. I had to take it one day at a time. Everything hurt. Heartburn, pressure down there. I stopped bending over for anything, and my DD got away with murder. I had a pretty good pregnancy and didn't start feeling bad until 34 weeks, after that was a day to day endevour. 36 weeks I started begging my dr for this to be the end, and I asked my husband to push me down a flight of stairs, I was only half kidding. I had my babies at 38 weeks and they were both 6 #12 oz each. I heard a statistic that for every day they are inside is two days they don't have to be in the NICU. Good luck, keep up the good work cooking those babies.

LadyNikon · July 2012

icedcoffeeluv:
I feel so guilty complaining because I feel so lucky and blessed to have been complication free up to this point (and hopefully going forward).

You aren't complaining you are expressing how you feel to woman who understand what you are going through. It feels lonely at home or at work when no one has gone through a multiple pregnancy. I realized this .. this morning waking up and trying to get out of bed.. exhausted and dizzy because DD needs to get to daycare. I asked my husband for some help and started crying out of frustration. His answer was "its not needed to cry over something so silly.." I could have slapped him. I explained to him that I am scared as to whats to come and he just looked at me with a blank face. We are here to support each other in the bad and celebrate with each other during the good . At least that is my take on what this board is for..

BritterBee05 · July 2012

I know how you feel and it's okay to be whiney! I was in the same boat as you except I have a 3&5 year old so there was no time to rest, and laying around actually made my body hurt worse. I found that swimming helped so much, even just lounging around in the water made a huge difference. If all else fails like pp said go shopping!!

everam01 · July 2012

Snoogle, lots of warm baths, lots of resting with my feet up. From 33 weeks on, dr ordered bedrest.

milton2 · July 2012

I'm 33 weeks today and just told my husband last night that I don't know how I'm gonna be able to keep doing this! The only time I feel somewhat good is when I am laying down, and that's tough with a 6 & 2 year old running around! This pregnancy has been by far the hardest of my three and I can't wait until the end. Hang in there! I feel like a whiny b'*%h constantly!

Capri22 · July 2012

I feel your pain! I am 29 weeks but measuring 36 and really starting to fall apart - lots of contractions, incredible swelling, extreme fatigue. Like you, my doctor would not write me out of work less I had a serious medical condition. However, he suggested that I should start wrapping up work in the office and after 31 weeks, I would work from home full-time. He said this would help in carrying the babies as far along as possible and avoiding any hospital bedrest.

Perhaps thats an option for you as well? I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!

kelandspence2012 · July 2012

You arent being whiney ! Im 13 days post partum and delivered at 37 weeks and 2 days and i was miserable and Im not one of those women who hate being pregnant ..... I loved being pregnant but twin pregnancy is rough and i Couldnt wait for my boys to be born ! Im 4 ft 11/ 5 ft and i measured at 55 cm 2 days before i delivered ! I just kept reminding myself the longer they stayed in the better and it would all be over soon ! Just try to put your feet up and rest as much as you can ! GL to you !

BananaPancake · July 2012

Girl, you are NOT complaining. You are among friends, most of whom have been there and can sympathize like no one else can. Third tri has got to SUCK, but you're getting 2 for 1, so...I know that can't help much when you're feeling so sore and tired. Just imagine me sending you a whole bunch of love from Texas. This WILL go by quickly, believe it or not. You're going to blink and you'll be planning a 3rd birthday party and you'll think, "Wasn't I just complaining about being pregnant?"

I know it's hard to enjoy, but you will look back on it as a really special time, even with the misery of being enormous for 10 weeks. :-/ Hang in there, honey. You're in the home stretch, you really are!

ShopperKristi · July 2012

Thanks so much for all of your responses! I appreciate it all - the tips, the commiserating, the encouragement. It really helps to hear from those that have been there or are there right now! Like LadyNikon mentioned - sometimes you just feel kind of alone and that no one (that I know in person) can really understand. Like last weekend I straight up bawled because my husband didn't understand how to use the grocery store coupons I had meticulously clipped (SO dumb and trivial!). What he didn't really get was that I wasn't mad at him, I was more mad at my situation because I would have much rather just gone shopping myself instead of trying to explain everything to him. I also randomly start crying when I realize these two babies have to come out at some point and I'm terrified of that too!

I also appreciate the reality check from those of you that have other children around to take care of - I can not even begin to imagine how hard that would be on top of everything else! I have so much admiration for you strong moms!

Thanks again guys, it means a lot!

reillyroowho · July 2012

One. Day. At. A. Time. Oh, and lots of time in the pool because feeling weightless is the BEST!

ShopperKristi · July 2012

reillyroowho:
One. Day. At. A. Time. Oh, and lots of time in the pool because feeling weightless is the BEST!

I must try this! I just realized this summer that my (fairly large) city has no public pools!! I'm contemplating booking a night at a hotel just to swim haha. My doc also gave me the ok to go in the lake so I may give that a go too!

Rnihernandez · July 2012

I am right there with you... I am going on 25 weeks and everything hurts... First couple of months were so hard so I was put off work... My doctors has kept me off but everything I do hurts and the lack of sleep is getting to me. Don't know how much I can Handel anymore. Kids go back to school tommmorrow and I don't want to get up early cuz I don't sleep good at night. I just keep praying that I will last.

cutebride73 · July 2012

I feel your pain - completely. I am 28w3d and I am measuring 36w. It seems I have a good or should I say decent day, followed by a bad or horrible day. I can't imagine how I will make it another 8-10 weeks!! And I am off for summer break right now. I am supposed to start back to work when I am 31w and I just don't think that is going to be possible. I sleep horribly most of the night (until early morning) and when I work I have to get up before 6:00am. Right now I am trying to decide if I should try to go back part time (half days) or just have the docs write me out. Working from home is not an option since I work at a school.

And I totally get your frustration about not being able to do normal things, like grocery shop. I can make it 1 loop around Target and then the braxton hicks start to get really bad and I am exhausted. I went to Gymboree tonight and I felt terrible when we left. Just standing in there and looking at clothes was too much.

I really hope that your dr. will listen to you if you say you need written out of work. That is crazy that they said they wouldn't unless you had a serious issue. Why put you in that position? A serious issue could be avoided if you were able to be home.

Somehow we will get through this!!!

shaket83 · July 2012

That last couple months were rough! Hang in there!!!

What got me through...Every day I told myself that every day that they are in there is one more day they get to grow stronger. It doesn't make it hurt any less, but it reminds you that you're hurting for a cause Also, I kept moving. Sitting still made everything hurt more, and doing stuff kept me distracted. Last but not least...it sounds horrible, but I reminded myself that no matter how hard it was being THAT preggo, it was going to be harder once they were born. (I'm happy to add that it is harder, but sooooo worth it!) Good luck

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