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Is there a "right" way to do this?
I have a 7 year old, H has a 9 year old. This baby is our first together. His family is very "celebrate every baby" and mine is the total opposite. My family loves to attend get-togethers, his does not.
My best friend wants to throw me a shower. When I told my mom this, she basically said "why? this is your second child". I really don't need anything for this baby because I saved almost everything from my first and I'm really leaning against agreeing to this shower. However, I know my best friend is really excited about this baby and wants to do something for me (along with her mom).
I really don't want to have this shower. Of course it would be a lot of fun if I thought our families were on board with the idea of a get-together to celebrate this baby, but I don't see it happening. Is there a right way to suggest that maybe my friend and I just have a girls day or something rather than her throwing me a shower? Or, do I just decline with no other suggestion?
LO #1 (2/10/05)
Expecting #2 (11/24/12)
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Re: Is there a "right" way to do this?
If I was your friend and was dying to throw you a shower, I'd be bummed out if you declined
But I would want you to want it too.
I think your suggestion of a ladies lunch or something is fine. But be prepared that she may push back.
Suggest she throw a "celebration" party vs a shower, or perhaps a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born.
This is your best friend- be honest. Tell her that your family frowns on showers for 2nd babies and while you REALLY appreciate the offer, you really don't want to offend your family.
I would hope she could understand that.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I ditto that. Tell her the truth and maybe suggest either a girl's day out while you're still pregnant or a meet the baby party after the baby is born.
See bolded above...
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How sweet of your friend to be so excited.
I get what you are saying. Second showers are not done in my circle. I had never heard of anyone having a second shower until I came on the bump.
If you are uncomfortable, tell her. As others have said, don't call it a shower. Just have a celebrate the baby party or wait until the baby is born and have a meet the baby party. This is a win/ win. It won't offend people that feel second showers are a no-no. It won't offend people that feel that every baby needs a shower.
I agree with Christy, make sure that there have been no recalls or expirations. Register for the items you find that you need. But, don't put it on the invite. Register for the completion coupon.