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November 2012 Moms
Sprite2012
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Who will be there for LO's birth?
Sprite2012
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Originally, I only wanted my midwife and my husband. We considered a doula, but have tabled the idea for a bit. My sister has expressed her desire to be there for the birth, which I have no issues with. Yesterday at our midwife's office, my husband said that he'd like to have my MIL there for the birth also. Her and I have a great relationship, and she is very nurturing and mothering to me (my own mom died 5 years ago). I think I'd like her to be there, if she wants to be.
Who will be there for your LO's birth? Are you adamant about certain people being there or not being there? I'm curious where everyone else's heads are with this...
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Re: Who will be there for LO's birth?
My husband, my mother, and my mother in law. My sister in law wants to be in there but I'm not sure how many people the hospital will allow. I think at that time I am not going to care who is in there or not so it is pointless to be adamant about my list. Opera could be in there if she wants! As long as this girl gets out of me nice and quick I'll be happy.
It will be just DH and I and our birth team. I am very quiet when I labor and prefer there to be minimal noise so I can ignore it. My parents were present at the hospital for the last 6-7 hours or so of my labor with DD1. They were so bored and my dad would take calls from his office still trying to be productive. It really annoyed me, but I understood. They did have to leave during the actual delivery though. They have the pleasure of watching DD1 during this birth, so it will be just us.
I think you just need to be very comfortable with whomever you choose to have present. Labor is an intense experience and it's important to know yourself and your boundaries. My MIL is loud and cries a lot; she would not be a good person to have present during this time.
With DD it was DH and the doctor/nurses. This time around we may get a doula as well, but I have no interest in having friends/family watch me push out a baby.
12/1/11 BFP, missed m/c diagnosed @ 9w2d
DH and that's it (other than teh Dr. and nurses)...very adamant about that!
Mom and MIL will be in the family waiting room and just like last time they are not to be sitting in the waiting room until I go to the labour and delivery side to stay. At my hospital, if you are able to/want to they have you walk loops around the halls and it goes by the family waiting aera. I didn't want to see anyone other than DH during the whole labour process.
Just my SO, dr, nurses...
My mom, sister, SO's parents and sister, and maybe my grandparents will probably be in the waiting room.
It will most likely be my SO, my mother, and his mother. I don't have any boundary issues with any of them. They'll all be at the side of me though! SO included unless he really wants to look but I doubt it.
I was in the room for the birth of 3/4 of my moms kids. The only one I wasn't in there for was for my oldest brother, since I was 3 at the time. Also I get the feeling that while I'm in labor I'm going to want my mommy!
I am hoping my husband, but it's not a sure thing.
My mom and my in-laws plan to come to town and be at the hospital (not delivery room). I would rather the in-laws didn't, but DH is insisting I not try to veto it.
My MIL and sister have both espressed interest in wanting to be in the delivery room but it'll be only me, DH and any drs and nurses!
(DH doesnt even want to be there! Well, he want to.. but hates pain (especially seeing me in pain!), needles, blood, etc! lol Hospitals make him feel sick!)
Anyone else is free to stay in the waiting room if they wish but we probably won't even call anyone til we know LO is on her way for sure..
With DS1 it was DH, the doctor and the nurses. My mom was in there up until I started pushing (she wanted it to be only DH and I). My ILs were at the hospital waiting the whole day, but are quite reserved so they didn't come back until A was born.
This time it will be DH and I. We are debating on whether or not we want A to come to the hospital at all. Either way, my ILs will be watching A.
For DD, I had DH, my Mom and my Dad (he stayed to the side!) and I am so glad they were all there.
For this baby, DH is deployed so it will definitely be my Mom while my Dad and Brother watch DD. I will be about 8 hours from my MIL but told her if she gets there in time she is welcome to be there too.
As I like to say, only the person who put the baby in, and the person who is taking the baby out (plus a nurse or whatever). LOL. That's during the actual delivery part... Before that stage, I may allow our parents to say hi, but I will reserve the right to boot them out on their asses.
LO's dad of course and probably my mom. That is how it was for DS, so I imagine it would go the same. Our hospital has a 2 person max rule during labor and delivery. With DS my family took turns to come in and see me for a few minutes each before I pushed. When it came time to check me everyone pretty much would leave the room. My mom used to be a labor and delivery nurse, so I found it very comforting to have her in the room. She could answer my questions and read the printouts from the monitors. I knew she would have my back if the nurses and/or doctor did anything questionable....and she did. I liked having her there for that.
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Papa Bear will be there (of course), my mother, and my sister.
Since I'm planning on birthing at a birthing center, there's no reason to keep them away, especially since these three people are the ONLY ones I really care about sharing this experience with (to be frank), since these are the only people that will be in contact with him on a daily basis
Anyone else who wants to see him can wait until Christmas, or come over to see him.