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What do you love about being a mom?
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I am a FTM who is in love with her job. My pregnancy was unplanned, and I still have some roller-coaster-y feelings about it. It's still so disconnected from reality for me that while I intellectually believe I will feel fortunate and blessed to be a mom, it just doesn't always feel that way yet. In fact, most of the time, it just feels terrifying.
I would love to hear from you ladies what about being a mom makes you happy 
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Re: What do you love about being a mom?
Different stages have brought different things. Right now, I love his little kisses!
I also love that he's trying to say "I love you mama!"
The first smile, the first laugh, the first time he figured something out on his own and realized it. I love how he cracks himself up jumping. I love how he spins around now to make himself dizzy, etc.
There are so many things you'll come to love about being a mother!
Watching my DD grow and change is like having front row seats (with backstage passes) to the best show I've even seen, but didn't even know existed. It is an ahhhhmazing privelege to watch another human being grow and change. And, I'm not a particularly sentimental person, but OMG is really is awesome.
Also - its really getting interesting now to see someone else reflect back my best and worst traits and habits and it makes me so much more aware. I hate to say this, b/c its sounds so lame and cliche, but I feel more connected to everyone since becoming a mother.
Getting genuine, unprompted "I love yous" is pretty awesome too.
Also - I wasn't such a fan of the newborn, little bitty baby stage, but older infanthood (crawling) and toddlerhood on - have been hilarious - DD is a total character and cracks me and others up on a regular basis.
For me, it was true that everything shifted/changed when our first baby was born. It changes your whole world view, somehow (although I was never in love w/ my job). I LOVE my little people like I never knew you could love someone. It's a whole new level. I love the way they smell. I love to cuddle them. It makes me happy just looking at them or thinking about them. As they grow, they do and say really funny things and bring a lot of laughter to our lives. I love watching them grow and seeing them learn, and seeing their personalities develop. They make everything new and fun for adults--holidays are magical. Going places you've been a million times is all new when you're introducing them to your kids. You get to play with (and pick out!) super cool toys. You have lots of opportunities to be creative. When they are little, like mine are, you are the star of their world, and they love to be with you. They come running when I come home and they give great hugs and kisses. They absolutely light up my world.
The spontaneous, "I love you mommy."
When he comes and swishes between me and the arm of the couch.
The rare occasion he falls asleep on me.
How cute he is about my pregnancy. He pats my tummy and says, "gentle with the baby." he always wants to hear the heartbeat. And he is super cute about feeling the baby's movement.
How he sings songs. Super cute. Or says off the wall stuff.
I never wanted kids. I had DS for DH. I can't imagine not being a mom now. And im super career driven. I'm a medical director at a prison. Ob/gyn trained.
KathyrnMD said it best for me too!
In addition to what some of the others have said . . .
Having a LO helps me keep things in perspective. When I'm in the middle of a particularly aggravating interaction with a jerk of an opposing counsel, I remind myself that DD will run and excitedly give me a giant hug when I come home from work that day. It doesn't matter as much whether I lose a particular argument because the judge believed the other side's false statements. The most important thing is that we have a happy, healthy family life and everyone feels loved and appreciated.
Also, I love seeing me through her eyes. She is so sweet and adoring. For example, I have spent a ton of energy fighting my weight. The first time LO saw me in my new bathing suit, her eyes lit up, and she said, "How cute, Mommy!" She was proud to be wearing a cute little bathing suit like Mommy, and she was so excited to go swimming. I'm not sure I would have been brave enough to strut around in my bathing suit at the pool before LO.
This.
I wasn't really into kids very much prior to having DS, but now I am ridiculously in love with this little kid who is hilarious and adorable and weird and who I miss every night after I put him to bed. I never expected to love being a mom so much but I absolutely f*cking love it.
And I agree...I wasn't a fan of infanthood. Toddlerhood is so much more fun.
Having DD has changed our lives in the best possible way! I love seeing her sweet little smile in the morning. I love seeing her learn new things every day. I love her hugs and kisses. I could go on and on.
I feel so fortunate to be her mommy, and I can't imagine our lives without her!
She is our greatest accomplishment, and I am so very proud!
So many good points have been mentioned!
In a different vein, I love how DS has brought us closer to our parents. We were close before, but now we make more effort to see them and share DS with them. They have been so wonderful. It makes me realize just how much my parents love me. Happiness all around!
Great post!
I love walking holding my kids' hands, smelling their drooly breath in the middle of the night/morning (I know it's gross but I can't explain why I so enjoy this), watching THEM hold hands and "take care" of each other, their hugs, my son's "kisses" (biting my nose), the look of pure wonder when they see things that wouldn't otherwise move us (the bunny on the lawn, the lights on the boardwalk, the squeals when they chase, hobbling (the little one, anyway) after the seagulls), the silliness, hearing their version of words (thumans, instead of humans, or racatoon, instead of raccoon), the little "lightbulb" look when they figure something out on their own, watching them do kind things for each other and their "peers" and knowing I've done something more important in this world than take care of me. I could go on...
What a wonderful question!! I, like you, love what I'm doing at work but it's definitely not all, or even most, of who I am. Some things I love about being a mom:
- morning cuddles & nursing - so full of smiles! I was never a morning person before
- toothless grins and her little giggles
- happy splashy bath time
- seeing the world with new/borrowed eyes: so many "firsts" and new sensations, seeing my daughter react to new sounds, sensations, tastes, etc
- being helpful - all day, every day
- breastfeeding & even the pumping
The roller coast continues in the first few weeks of motherhood, or it did for me at least, but it starts to even out and by 1 month, I was having so much fun with my little girl.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
First of all I can't believe I could love someone so much instantaneously! I love his smiles and laughs, I love when he snuggles with me. I love that he thinks I'm funny and a good singer. I love the way his little legs kick in excitement when I walk in the room and his scream of excitement. How he growls when he eats meats, and always manages to give himself a mustache with food. I pretty much love it all. My mom asked me if it was anything like I expected...and the honest answer is...way better. Sure I could use more sleep, or wonder why he's crying when all basic needs are met...but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I know...I'm completely cheesy...sorry. Maybe I am because after 9 years of thinking it could never happen, we were blessed with him out of the blue.
The only thing I hate is knowing that at some point he'll get hurt, his heart broken...while I wish I could keep him in a bubble to never feel an ounce of pain, I know that he'll need these experiences to become the person he's meant to be. I just hope we limit it to a silly HS/college girlfriend and minor scrapes and bruises.
This is very true too. Obviously, I know my parents love me and especially my mom, but the way I love and cherish DD is almost beyond words and knowing that someone loves me the same way is pretty overwhelming.
For me, the first few months were really hard. DS was very colicy and my recovery was a little rough. I remember missing my "old life" and thinking what the heck did I get myself into. Around 3 months everything kind of clicked. I just remember wearing DS in the moby wrap and he was so snuggly and cute while he slept on me and I just had this overwhelming feeling like "I'm doing this and everything's okay." I just felt so much love for him in that moment when I realized I could handle being a mom and I felt so close to my baby when he'd sleep on me. I think going back to work also has helped me be a better mom because I get a break and can feel like my old self again. It makes the morning smiles and nighttime cuddles so much more special.