Sad - daycare openings, but no baby

lafayettegirl · July 2012

Because we struggled with infertility, we got on the waiting list for the day care centers located at both my office and my husband's. That was 2.5 years ago. Now we are finally at the top of the list! SWEET!

EXCEPT WE HAVE NO BABY! ARGH!

We just turned down 4 spots in the last 6 months. The people there know we are trying to adopt, so we get to keep our spot on the wait list, but still... Every time a spot comes open, they call us just in case. My heart is breaking!

On top of that, we just feel so lost. We really thought that this was the path God wanted us on, but know we feel alone and lost and we really aren't hearing God's voice about this any more. We're not sure if we need to continue being proactive, but just sitting back and waiting without doing anything feels so wrong too.

Dr.Loretta · July 2012

((HUGS))

jillianmb · July 2012

I experienced so many of those emotions when Russia froze all their adoptions. I kept asking God why he led us down this path. I was terrified our adoption would never happen. I also felt like God was silent.

One passage I kept crying out was Psalm 13:1-3: How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and day after day have sorrow in my heart?

Have faith that he led you down this path for a reason. Somehow he is going to work all of this out for his glory. I pray he works it out SOON so you can hold your sweet baby in your arms.

Feel free to send me a PM if you want to talk more! xo

Chele · July 2012

*Hugs* to you.

christineandaaron · July 2012

I just wanted to say I am sorry you are feeling this way. Waiting is so tough and I have only been doing it 1 month. HUGS!

DaisyZH · July 2012

I'm sorry, that is so hard (( Hugs ))

missred75 · July 2012

Oh, hun. I'm so sorry you're struggling. Going through IF is one big roller coaster. Once you finally make the decision to adopt, it's like getting on an even bigger roller coaster. Sending tons of hugs to you tonight. ::hugs::

beaureve · July 2012

So sorry. I know this must be heartbreaking. You are in my prayers

cogbot · July 2012

I'm so sorry. ((hugs))

Foster1Mom · July 2012

My T & P are with you. Hang in there.

erinmc1 · July 2012

Don't give up hope. We've been waiting just under 8 months, and got the call that we were passed up in favor of another couple for the 3rd time late last week, but we're staying positive. Your baby will come to you, and a set of birthparents is going to look at YOU and know that you are the perfect parents to raise their baby. Anything less, or different, and it wouldn't be the situation God has planned for you.

Hang in there. The wait is really hard, and I know that I've had stretches where I feel negative and horrible, and stretches where I feel really positive and hopeful. Every day (even the bad ones) brings you closer to your baby.

irismorning · July 2012

The waiting is the most difficult part. The other things in the process, you have some measure of control over, but not the waiting. I would suggest that you find a couple or some individual with which you are close at church and ask them to be prayer partners with and for you. I will say that helped with the process more than anything.

Keep hanging on, your child is out there and someday it will all be worth it.

silliestbunny · July 2012

So sorry... those little reminders of waiting are so tough.

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