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July 2012 Moms
Feelin weird/off/overwhelmed
I know these emotions are normal PP but I just need to vent. DD is 10 days old and everything is adding up. Everything is out of the norm - no work, stuck at home (I can't drive due to c-section), it's hard to clean, DH is home (a good thing), I'm exhausted, have a newborn to figure out, etc... I just feel weird. Like 'where did the life I'm use to go?' I know we'll get into a routine, but it's just a lot to take in. I already cry about DH going back to work soon and me going back to work later and bringing DD to daycare. I feel I have a lot of tears in my future.
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Re: Feelin weird/off/overwhelmed
Aww I am so sorry to hear this! I haven't had LO yet but I can only imagine how overwhelming the experience can be. You have a great support group here so keep your head up and don't worry mamma! Everything will fall into place
I've been feeling the same way..my DH goes back to work Thursday and I had a c-section 11 days ago. If you read my post below the ladies gave some good advice (its under anyone feeling sad in the evening).
Hope you get some rest and things get better!
This sounds totally normal to me!! Honestly, I was on cloud nine for two weeks with my first(we had a lot of issues ttc) and I crashed really hard. I wanted to be a mom more than anything else, but I remember that it took a long time to feel normal again, and it took going back to work to get some kind of balance back in my life. Don't be hard on yourself, you are going to feel a whole slew of emotions. This was my experience:
With DD1, I had to breastfeed every 2 hours(and she took 45 minutes to nurse), I couldn't feel my midsection, and what I did feel was PAIN from turning too fast, coughing, or the meds wearing off, I was stuck in the house in a 2 hour cycle of BF-ing, pumping(to build up my poor supply), washing pump parts, changing diapers(you go through way more diapers at the beginning, like 10-12 a day), cleaning up constant spit up, doing load after load of laundry, being so f-g hungry I could eat a cow but only had two or three minutes to eat a bowl of cereal in between all other things I had to do, my legs/feet were hugely swollen and severely exhausted, I was constantly having hot flashes and sweating, etc. On top of all this, LO was colicky and I blamed it all on myself and what I was eating that was making her miserable(it turned out even on the colic formula she was colicky, so the guilt lifted some). Who wouldn't feel like their life was just hijacked with those kind of demands put on you? Anyway, then DH went back to work one week after we got home, and I was stuck big time, I had a nanny that came a couple days a week for a few hours a day, and I'm so so so grateful for that to this day.
I'd highly recommend getting some kind of outside help a few days a week from a family member, different friends, or just plain paid help. This time around I'm not fooling myself, I have the nanny coming for full 9 hour days three times a week to take care of DD1 and help me with DD2. DH took a full 4 weeks of paternity leave. I'm under no false pretense that I will be 'doing it all' because I'm probably going to crash pretty hard once again with 2 under 2.
What you are feeling is completely normal. I had those exact same feelings after having my first. I think we have to grieve for the life we lost if that even makes sense. Let me assure you, it does get better! Hang in there, and if you aren't feeling better in a few weeks, call your doctor. Good luck!!