I had to repost this because I feel so strongly about it. I too didn't understand women who didn't have children before infertility. Now I know...and so should everyone else. Especially those who HAVE children and asks someone who is CFNBC a question such as this. SO here it is...
"You ladies are CFNBC does this mean you as well have chosen not to adopt?"
Re: For all the women who have children and want to post here...READ THIS FIRST!
I have a friend who is CFNBC and my heart breaks for her. She is grieving hard. I would be an awful awful friend if I said to her "Why don't you adopt?". That is none of my freakin' business. I know she can't adopt due to medical reasons, they (her and her DH) would never get approved. Even if I didn't know about her medical stuff, I would never ever bring it up.
All I can do is support her and be the best friend I can be. We live in different states and when I went to visit my hometown (where she also lives), she said that seeing my kids would be too hard so could we get together just the 2 of us. No problem! She is just not in a place where she can be around kids/babies right now.
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I just happened to click on this board today and I can't believe what I'm reading. The ladies on this board have been through a lot. They deserve to have a board where their feelings are respected and not have a bunch of idiots or trolls post random posts with nonsense to hurt them or made them mad. I can't believe there are so many insensitive people out there. Shame on those who contaminate this board with crap. It's not funny for the ladies on here or for anyone else, for that matter.
Praying for all of you ladies and husband out there who are struggling to move on from not being able to have a child of their own. I Pray that God will help you feel at peace, give you comfort in times when you are really feeling down and I know that He still loves you. I know you don't want to hear it but Gods will is just that Gods will. Some may be down the road another 10 years saying, "ohhhhh so thats why God?" I know its tough, my husband and I are grateful that we are even able to TTC still.
Your comment "we are not here to make YOU feel better or help YOU".........I know that. I actually feel for you ladies and I hope you know that as well.
I hope my post doesn't not sound thoughtless or ignorant. I want peace for all of you...........
Secondary Infertility 38 years old (husband has no children)
TTC since we got married 6/18/11
Diagnosed with DOR - AMH 0.8
Miscarriage April 2000
Had my son 2/27/01
IUI #1 May 2012 - BFN
IUI #2 June 2012 - BFN
Changed RE's September 2014
IUI #3 December 2014 - BFP-My Lil Blessing!!!