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December 2011 Moms
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It's Monday, right?
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I haven't seen a MIL Monday post yet. Anybody have anything to share from the weekend?
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Re: It's Monday, right?
I don't have a MIL post, but a grandparent-in-law vent. It's really not a big deal.
I don't have a car here at the hospital since DH drove us, and he went home. We are hopefully coming home tomorrow but he is not able to bring us. It's an hour and a half drive one way and can't take another day off work. I planned on my mom doing it, or getting my parents to bring me my car tonight. Well, DH keeps telling me that his grandparents can do it and got really frustrated when I said I'd get someone from my family to do it. They live 3 hours away from here, and 2 hours from our house. It's a little ridiculous to ask them to take their entire day for us, and I honestly don't want to spend that much time with them. DH thinks its no big deal, but they can't carry anything, get tired quickly, and would be more in the way. I know it may be a little mean to say those things, but when I'm trying to focus on my child, I don't want to worry about 2 more people's health.
I don't think it's mean at all. I'm sure they would love to help but also would like saved from the exhaustion. Any idea why your DH is so bound and determined? Have you told him just what you told us? I can't imagine him wanting to make extra work for you. I hope your parents/mom helps you out. That seems to make much more sense. Sorry your DH can't be with you.
I don't really have anything. I haven't seen the inlaws in a week. But there's one thing that does weigh on my mind of the last visit.
MIL is forever complaining she doesn't get time alone with DS (which kinda bothers me---why does she need "alone" time?). Anyways---they aren't very social people and they come just to see LO. They don't really talk to DH nor myself (yep its awkward). So they came MIL took the baby to a corner---whatever. I got drinks, etc. then came back to the room and MIL said "mommy's just ignoring you" to DS. If we were close at all maybe I would see this as a joke? I'm sure she was trying to be funny to someone---who knows who in the group. I just can't win. I SAH with DS all week. I let her have her "alone time" in the corner with him and I'm now accused of "ignoring my baby".
Ugh, how annoying. I have a MIL who says 'funny' things like this and it drives me crazy. I want to call her on it but she'd just claim to be joking...
DH is always covering for her in this department. "She's just joking" and "She doesn't mean anything by it".
#1---When she ONLY talks to make these kind of remarks it is offensive. And #2---WHO thinks it's funny? I've already planned to ask that when/if I do finally snap and call her on it. I know she'll snap back with something like "take a joke..." and I'm planning to say something like "a joke is FUNNY...NO ONE laughs...ever!". Grrrr. 
I don't understand why he pushes me to ask them for help so much. If it were him taking DS home, I would think it were normal to ask his family to help, same with me asking my family. I'm just more comfortable with my family and I know what they can and can not do.
I have never told him what I feel about his grandparents' capabilities. I think he truly believes they are able to do anything. Which is why he thinks it's perfectly ok to ask them to babysit. I think he's nuts! There is way to much to remember. There is not a single person I trust to watch DS for an extended period of time. I'm a perfectionist and I like things done my way, cuz they're right.
lol
My mom is definitely coming tomorrow and we are still planning on a morning discharge!
My MIL Monday is kind of first world problems-ish, but here goes.
My MIL owns several houses and decided to sell one, so she asked DH to help her move. In the days leading up to the move she kept asking us if we wanted anything from the house she's selling, since she already has everything she needs in her first home. I told her we'd love the washer and dryer; though we don't have hookups right now we're hoping to move soon. She said "I don't want to store it for you", so I told her we'd be happy to store it.
Later when DH was helping her move, he mentioned the washer/dryer again and she brushed him off... only to bring up a couple days later that she was SO glad she finally found someone to take the washer/dryer off her hands. I guess she gave it away for free. I understand her wanting to sell it, but to just give it away when she knew we wanted it and were willing to pay for/store it? I kind of wonder if she did it on purpose to make me mad...
That is a great comeback and I am stealing it.